DS selling clothes

[JessyJames]

I bought DS a ridiculously expensive fleece. He is 15.
He's worn it a couple of times and has now sold it on Depop. It has sold for £230.
Am I being unreasonable to ask for the money once he's sold it? He will spend the money on junk otherwise.
I'll buy him another (cheaper) fleece when he sees one he likes.

Was it a gift?

Presumably you gave it to him? Its a lesson learnt, don't buy stupidly expensive clothes for teens

How much did it cost you? If it was less than he sold it for, then I think "fair play!" If it was more I think you should point it out and ask for the difference back...

Who pays for his clothes?

If this wasn't a birthday/Christmas gift and you normally pay for clothes then you should get the money.

If a gift, don’t buy such expensive gifts. If just a general purchase then I should ask for the money.

What what said

I think it was about £250. He begged me to buy it and I foolishly gave in. I know I shouldn't buy expensive stuff for him.
I buy his clothes and it wasn't a birthday/Christmas present.

What possessed him to do that? Does he need the money for some reason? Was something wrong with the fleece?

Unless there is a valid reason it seems rather ungrateful behaviour. So I would be tempted to take the money from him yes and not in a hurry to buy another one to replace it.

Then surely you get the money back to eventually recycle into more clothes.

Tell him he has to put the money in a savings account for the next time he wants something stupidly expensive.

YANBU. That is really cheeky of him!

Why did you spend 250 quid on a fleece in the first place

No idea why he's selling it.
I think he's worn it twice and decided he doesn't like it any more. I find the behaviour a bit ungrateful.

It wasn't a specific gift so I'd say the proceeds are yours.

Yes ask for the money back. It wasn't a gift.

Hmm could be worth checking he hasn't got himself in a spot of bother or being pressured into selling it if ungrateful behaviour like that is unusual?

I would be getting he money off him, no new fleece and no more expensive clothes for the foreseeable future.

YANBU.

He's found a way of getting cash from you without having to justify why he is asking you for cash.

let him keep the money with the understanding it must be spent on clothing

We've had a discussion. He is giving me the money.
He plans to get a summer as soon as GCSEs are done, so he can buy his own expensive clothes.

A £250 fleece for a 15 year old!

Yes I reckon you should have the money back.

He seems to have shown some initiative in selling it - I’d let him keep the money but he’d be buying his own high priced fashion items from now on.

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£250 for a fleece?

Was it Jason's Golden Fleece?

My son changed physically so much at that age - why were you buying such an expensive item when it wasn't likely to fit him in a few months' time?