DP's hobbies

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DP has lots of interests and hobbies. My idea of a good hobby is a nap!! We share a home and most of the chores and we both work long full time. I don't disagree with him spending time on his hobby but is this situation unreasonable or is it me?

Last Saturday - hobby all day
Sunday - his children with us, he went to cinema with them and dinner after. We'd fallen out so I didn't go - I know I could have gone.
Tuesday - hobby after work until midnight
Wednesday - hobby after work until 10pm
Thursday - I worked until 9.40pm, he was tired and wanted to go to bed as soon as I got in.
Today - I have a very rare day off, he knew this and has spare holiday, but he's at work.

With the exception of Sunday, AIBU?

Boxing the more you post the more I think the two of you are just incompatible.

You work long hours and just want someone to chill with when you get home.

He works (I'm guessing) more regular hours and wants to split his free time between his DC and active sport-based hobbies.

Sorry I'm being defensive. I've had some good advice here.

Death stare please red all of my posts! I did not say his ex was lazy! I said he did. I have said I think any down time she had, if this is the case, it was well deserved

And re-read my post!!!! I didn't say that you had said she was lazy. I said him referring to her in that way would be a red flag to me, as it sounds like he is quick to condemn partners and not to recognise the impact of his own (possible) behaviour

I think if her partner knows she's going to get home at 9.40, he could be home by then, couldn't he? He's happy staying up later when he's out doing his hobby, but wants to go to bed early otherwise.

He got her to live with him under false pretences, really, by cutting down on his hobbies until she was living there.

It's not that I think he's doing anything particularly wrong, it's just that he's living the life of a single guy who does whatever he wants. What he doesn't seem to want is to spend any time alone with the OP. I don't know what's in it for her.

I work so many hours because it's preferable to being on my own. It's a bit of a catch 22, his sports have lead me to work more but I'm working so he plays more sport.

"False pretences", for gods sake. People are allowed to change their routines once they live with someone. He is spending time with her, they live together.

I'm at the gym almost every night, and no way would I stop because my h wanted me to stay on the sofa with him.

Well there you go then OP. He'll probably say to his mates at the golf club "yeah, my OH is working on Saturday again so I'm here to kill the time!"

I find watching the TV very boring and don't really see it as a together time thing as you aren't talking just staring at a screen. I think if your hobby is TV watching it seems unfair to insist he shares your hobby rather than does his own as he's not insisting you do his hobbies.
Your hobby seems to be your partner which isn't healthy.

I think you're just not compatible.
He isn't unreasonable to want to do hobbies in his downtime, and you're not unreasonable to want to do nothing in yours.

What is unreasonable is expecting him to do your hobby so that you spend time together. How would you feel about him requesting you come and play squash with him so that you spend time together?

Also, say he did give up squash to sit on the sofa with you. Would you enjoy that, knowing he'd rather be elsewhere?

You don't like his hobbies and he doesn't like yours. You should try to find something to do that you both like.