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To say he can’t go

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User14567891 · 22/02/2018 21:12

My 30th is coming up. I wanted to go skiing for it but boyfriend reckoned it was too expensive, so we are doing a cheaper (but still lovely) family holiday. I am also having a weekend away with friends which is costing around £200.

Boyfriends 30th is next year, so I was asking earlier what he wanted to do. He said he was thinking about a big group skiing holiday (a couple of his mates are also turning 30 next year). I said it sounds good but he was being a bit cagey about it, so I asked a few more questions and it turns out he is planning a lads only ski trip, to super expensive resort, flying business class!!

I said he can’t do it and he’s really pissed off and says I’m unreasonable and a hypocrite because I’m having a holiday with my friends. So I said if he can do his lads ski trip for £200 he’s more than welcome to go. He has stormed off out.

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User14567891 · 22/02/2018 22:10

Get rid and book your own bloody ski holiday while you are still able to draw on joint finances. And make sure it's to Megeve or ... Nozawa Onsen or somewhere

Haha I’m so tempted to do that.

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HermionesRightHook · 22/02/2018 22:12

Actually, whatever happens with this instance of fuckery and no matter whether he turns his attitude around or not, start a fuck off fund. Your own bank account, find a way to get money into it. We have joint finances but I still have my own account and my DH has not pulled any shit like this.

C0untDucku1a · 22/02/2018 22:13

He is being incredibly selfish.

GabsAlot · 22/02/2018 22:24

eh he can go on a ski holiday but you cant?

he really is immature and horribled isnt he

User14567891 · 22/02/2018 22:31

Does he always make financial decisions about what you both can and can't afford?
This is my fault. We are pretty comfortable so I don’t pay much attention to the bank accounts. It is BF who will say if we need to reign it in a bit. And when we were booking the holiday he said he definitely wasn’t going to get a bonus....but then he did Hmm
I’m wondering now if he’s got other accounts I don’t know about....

We usually ski every year, usually more than 1 trip. DS skis with us. This year is unusual and now it all makes sense! He’s saving for his ridiculously expensive trip.

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Fletchasaurus · 22/02/2018 22:35

Absolutely he is taking the piss there, he does not get to do that to you, I would be so mad at dh if he did that to me!

gillybeanz · 22/02/2018 23:01

Gosh, you need to do some digging and find out how many accounts there are.
There's nothing wrong with having an extra account, but it's not good if you don't know about them.

AlwaysPondering · 22/02/2018 23:04

Don't back down OP. What an arse.

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