Playground mafia

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Just so sick of the playground mafia. It's like being at school all over again. If you fit in great, if not then you and your child are social outcasts. Why do some people never grow up 😡

Because they're fools with limited empathy? Are your children not being invited for play dates etc, or being excluded from friendship groups at school?

Oh tell me about it. You do within 10 steps and they all go silent. was made up when DD went to the big school where there was less parental involvement. I mean don't get me wrong not every mother was clique. Some where lovely and very inclusive.
It was always the same parents fanny about around the school constantly. I'd just about seen the inside of the bloody place.
I also recall these two mothers who used to wait outside the school gates and walk in to the play ground together. Like a pair of little 13 year olds. You couldn't make it up.

I never understood what people meant about this before now I know. Parent who is well in with the head, super friendly but get feeling its masking being super bitch, won't hear a bad word about school even when parents having to go to extremes to educate their dc!, often in school office even though not teacher or helping out... And has long family connection to the school so yeah.. Mafia

Awwlookatmybabyspider, you couldn't be more right. They hang around after 9 for half an hour maybe more talking about what???

I wouldn't say missing out on play date, parties etc. These parents have forced friendships between their children.

I have always been nice to everyone and chatted. Never rude or horrible like some.

Fuck ‘em. Cheerful smile and a fleeting “morning!” as you stride past! Before long the kids will all be in Secondary and you won’t have to go anywhere near the place day to day.

Just act as if you give no fucks. I used to take my niece to school and never thought anything of it - I suppose I was not a mother therefore wouldn't get involved but just fuck them. Forget it.

Oh every school has these idiots. They need to get a life. Just stick your headphones on or find a way to tune them out.

So glad all that shit is over for me. Still annoy me when I catch glimpses of them at secondary school/ parents evenings etc. Fuck em.

It's not just school though is it? There are many areas where I feel that people haven't left the playground. Difference is I couldn't give a shit about whether those people like me or not. I don't like everyone and don't expect everyone to like me.

As an adult I can choose who I spend time with. Of course, I'll still be civil to them but I won't worship the ground they walk on as others seem to do.

Op we have pairs that will stand for half an hour talking every single morning. What on earth have they got to say for all that time every single day?

’I also recall these two mothers who used to wait outside the school gates and walk in to the play ground together.’

I can’t quite bring myself to get worked up about this. Why let it bother you? Maybe they like two minutes to catch up before the DC come out? Does it really matter?

"What on earth do they have to say for all that time everyday."

Let me guess.
"Hubble bubble toil and trouble".
I don't doubt.

Have you actually tried to be friendly and make conversation?
There's nothing wrong with anyone standing chatting to another mum at the school gates either..

Great..ive got this to look forward too. (Looks at toddler daughter). My dsis hasnt got involved. Drop and go and smile at everyone

I read a most useful phrase on here once..."the only thing you have in common with these people is that you all had sex in the same year."

I once quoted this during a parent forum meeting where some young parents were expressing upset at feeling looked down on and left out. The attending teacher almost choked on her tea.

Always harsh to criticize those who are on PTA etc giving freely of their time to raise much needed funds for school.

I've can say I have spoke to every single one of them, small class. It doesn't matter that people stand and talk to each other just don't exclude people purposely. It's pathetic.

One mum I do speak to said about one of their fathers, she said she started speaking to him and he just walked away ignoring her. Absolutely no need for this behaviour.

Bring on secondary school. But then again I'll be doing it again in about 3 years with my youngest DC 🤦🏻‍♀️

Never understand these threads. If you don't want to talk to other mums at school fine but if you want to be included you have to be friendly and open at least and not sneer at people who chat at the school gates!

Are you going to do a massive drip feed now OP about how you've been snubbed?

Crossed with you there OP

Wait until you get to hear that they are angry you speak to their husbands when they do pick up . I only found out through Chinese whispers that has apparently taken 3 years to reach me - surely would have been faster to tell me face to face if they wanted me to stop sooner? Yup some are power mad, jealous and very paranoid. You are probably not missing much.

God I talk to most people at my DCs school- I just smile at the ones that don’t I really couldn’t give a rats arse (it’s their loss). My experience is that it’s not the cliche mums that don’t talk and I can’t be arsed to go out of my way to start conversation with those that put their heads down but I bet they’re more likely the ones to start a thread like this.

“Never understand what they’re stood talking about”....

Last nights TV
Little jonnies piano exam on Saturday
The Middle East economy

Do you really care if they’re so horrific you call them the “mafia”. These threads always amuse me that people come online to an anonymous chat forum and spill heart and soul yet can’t understand why a few mums who happen to enjoy each other’s company stand chatting for a few minutes at school- bizzare

Whitecup, maybe you are right maybe you are wrong. Maybe you are one of those that I am talking about.

I never put my head down or exclude people from conversations. I am one of the first on the playground for pick up and say hello to everyone that is already there and those that come after me. I speak to the grandparents, childminders etc. I was brought up not to be rude and ignore people. I find those people are the one that come onto threads and are nasty.

I am going to do what a lot of people have said fuck em!

I always chat at the school gates. I have never heard anyone bitch about other parents or children. Ever. We spend years standing beside each other every day so of course you get to know each other if you make an effort.

Gawd... I had no idea anyone would notice who I was talking to and for how long.

I was never cliquey - I was open to anyone who wanted to make friends and from that just made a few mates with other mums and would often chat in the playground after drop off as it was likely I wouldn't speak to another adult for the rest of the day. Was that the wrong thing to do? We'd talk about our kids, our marriage dramas/ breakdowns/ our parents ... hardly the crime of the century. It was a huge comfort and provided me with much needed support through difficult times.

We talked so much that we sometimes got chucked out of the playground for still being there 30 mins after school had started but I had no idea any other parent would take offence at this - let alone take any notice. Kids are teenagers now and I am relieved I don't have to do the school run any more but playground chats made it more bearable. Don't take offence - it's not designed to offend you.