MIL is having surgery soon and I just don’t have a good relationship with the woman. She’s put me through hell over the years I’ve been with her son. She’s very jealous and has lied about me to DH
Here’s a some examples
⁃ We lived with her for a year before getting our own place, I would be in the kitchen ( it’s next to the bathroom) and one time he was on the phone in the bathroom, she told him I was listening to his conversation
⁃ When I first met her very early days we had what I felt like a really good conversation, she went to DH and told him I was playing mind games ( the fuck?)
⁃ Had a go at me because I would iron the clothes DH was going to wear for the day and not his whole wardrobe.
⁃ Has told DH he deserves someone better than me because my kitchen was a bit messy and there was piles of clothes that needed washing( this was a time when I just had my third DS and no help from DH or anyone, being up all night because of a baby that wouldn’t sleep and up all day because of other DC that needed to be taken care of, no mention of how useless her son is, just how messy the house is because of me)
⁃ Has given my DC coffee when they were toddlers even after I told her not to
⁃ Ignores when she comes to my house sometimes and gives me the silent treatment
⁃ Never invites us to her house but comes to ours 2-3 a week and sometimes unannounced
⁃ Tries to set DH up with other women when they’re out on their own
⁃ Slags me off to her family, last thing I heard was at Christmas when she made some comments about my weight
There’s so much more, but over the years I’ve learned I can’t have relationship with this women and I should just keep my distance.
So ladies, AIBU not to see her after the surgery?
Am I being a big baby about this? Should I just buy some flowers and a card and go to her house? Or should I just let DH and SIL deal with it?