... to hate the phrase "fell pregnant"

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just that really. Have read a couple of articles over the weekend where someone has "fallen" pregnant or "fell" pregnant and it really pisses me off. Am I being a bit irrational?

I totally agree, I hate it too! Also can't bear "preggers" or when a couple say "we" are pregnant!!!

The worst is ‘got caught’.

Ah come on, it's not a patch on "we're pregnant!"

unless you were both born female, that is impossible!

I don't like it either but then again you can fall ill, fall on hard times etc....

I agree. Hate ‘getting caught’.

I agree, I’d not noticed it until a couple of years ago and it really grates now.

I’ve always hated we’re pregnant. I even heard someone say ‘the couple giving birth’ the other day. NOPE.

But falling ill or falling on hard times indicates that it was the person's fault, which is wrong. I've just about, fingers crossed, recovered from the flu, which rebounded twice!

YANBU at all to hate this phrase. I think it's victim blaming.

I agree, it's annoying, but not as annoying as 'caught'.

Completely agree need a better phrase. We should all agree to just start saying 'became pregnant' until that sounds normal.

good point Jaygee. So maybe "fallen" or "fell" is an old phrase referring mainly to 'lower' classes? like a fallen woman, etc.

Yes, to both fallen and we are pregnant.

I also hate "accidental pregnancy" because it's an unknown that if you have sex it can lead to pregnancy for many it seems.

Elendon I agree.

Oh, I say 'we' are pregnant all the time

After all I didn't get this way on my own and it really does effect my partner as much as me.

It’s stupid.

It conjures up a cartoon image in my mind of clumsy naked women stumbling and falling on erect penises, before sliding off to reveal a heavily pregnant stomach.

I also dislike "we're pregnant" and "tubbed", which maybe just a northern phrase. Haven't heard 'caught' in years, but that can go on the list too.

I don't think you're being irrational, I also find the terminology odd... You don't 'fall' pregnant!

My DH is a fan of the phrase "we're pregnant".
I hate it and regularly correct him. I'M the one who is pregnant (and doing the hard work/feeling rubbish). WE are expecting a baby together.

In no way does it affect a partner as much as it does the person who is actually pregnant!

Argless that made me

@Argeles Glad I'm not alone, the phrase conjured up a similar image for me!

Well my DM cannot bear to use the 'p' word therefore women are 'expecting'. On the odd occasion when she does say pregnant (in private, of course!) the woman has always 'fallen pregnant' and it is to be said in hushed tones and followed by pursed lips. Perhaps the 'fallen' bit was originally referring to women who got pregnant out of wedlock?

Possibly has something to do with a change in the use of the word "fall" - Payments used to "fall due" when they became due for payment, but we don't really use the phrase much now.

We can also fall in love, fall for someone or fall into luck all of which I felt when I became pregnant with and gave birth to DD after a few years TTC

Never heard it at all in my youth - OK - back in the very olden days - until I heard an older woman colleague telling a much younger ditto that she ought to get her name on the council housing list 'in case you fall pregnant.'

Hardly ever even heard 'pregnant', either, come to that. You were having a baby, or expecting a baby. Or just 'expecting'.

Won't comment on what a nephew said to a niece after hearing that her no. 2 was on the way - 'I hear you're up the duff again.' (An American niece adored this expression and took it back with her across the pond!)

The one that I really hate is: "She got herself pregnant".

Really? All on her own? Some form of immaculate conception one would assume?

Tubbed??? 😂

After all I didn't get this way on my own and it really does effect my partner as much as me

Until your partner can grow, carry, birth and feed a baby it really doesn't affect him as much as it affects you.