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Original poster

To wonder why my male neighbours never talk to me.

52 replies

Mummybo88 · 17/02/2018 00:43

It’s getting ridiculous! We moved onto a new build estate recently. I have bumped into both our next door neighbour and his wife as well as the couple across the road and we have had a nice chat/ introduced ourselves. However my problem is that when my DH isn’t with me, the husbands of both couples will completely blank me/avoid making eye contact. What on earths going on? I’ve been very polite to them when I’ve met them both. It’s very odd! Any ideas? I feel like a bit of an idiot in all honesty, looking over to say hello and being totally blanked. I’m at a loss.

OP posts:
LanguidLobster · 17/02/2018 00:49

You don't know them very well - it's likely that they were going about their daily business and just didn't clock/recognise you, or that they were friendly within a neighbour couple greeting way.

WorraLiberty · 17/02/2018 00:56

They probably just don't 'do' neighbours and small talk.

My DH is very much like that because he's shy, whereas I'm the total opposite and will chat to the world and their cat Grin

Try not to take it personally.

PhelanThePain · 17/02/2018 00:59

Are you just so gorgeous that their wives have wanted them not to look near you? Grin

tumblrpigeon · 17/02/2018 01:16

That’s pretty odd!

Aquamarine1029 · 17/02/2018 05:31

Stop worrying about what other people are thinking and live your own life. These men have nothing to do with you. Why do you care if they interact with you or not?

userabcname · 17/02/2018 07:05

DH hates interacting with anyone (miserable sod) - he will sprint from his car to the door if he spots a neighbour! They are probably the same. Don't worry about it.

Hellywelly10 · 17/02/2018 07:19

Dont worry about it and when they chat to your husband just go into your house.

Beanteam · 17/02/2018 07:25

How do you normally dress?

MaxWeber · 17/02/2018 07:27

They probably think chit-chat is for birds innit.

Grilledaubergines · 17/02/2018 07:28

They’re possibly too bloody scared to pass the time of day.

WizardOfToss · 17/02/2018 07:40

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Original poster
Mummybo88 · 17/02/2018 08:37

*Dont worry about it and when they chat to your husband just go into your house.
*

Grin I like this idea

OP posts:
Crunchymum · 17/02/2018 08:39

What the actual fuck Kat ?

Your husband doesn't like you interacting with anyone???

MargotLovedTom1 · 17/02/2018 08:43

Calm down Crunchy - Kat said her husband himself doesn't like interacting with anyone.

It's a bit odd OP.

youngnomore · 17/02/2018 08:43

Either their wives hasve told them not to because you’re too fit.
They are from a religion when it says it’s not allowed.
They just can’t be bothered.

Original poster
Mummybo88 · 17/02/2018 08:45

The way I see it, it’s just common courtesy to say a quick “hello” and sort of awkward not to. Our street is small and last night I was arriving home from having a few drinks with a friend. My next door neighbour was standing about 5 meters away at his front door getting his shoes off. I couldn’t find my keys in my bag so in the end, needed to call DH to let me in, so I was standing there a while. No eye contact or hello in that time. It’s just weird to me.

OP posts:
formerbabe · 17/02/2018 08:47

Well it's obvious isn't it. You are so stunningly beautiful that they are intimidated to talk to you and/or they are terrified of their wives finding out they have been talking to the amazing woman next door.

That's the answer you were looking for right?

UnimaginativeUser · 17/02/2018 08:51

They’re clearly the weird ones if he’s having to take his shoes off outside before he’s allowed in the house!

CharisMater · 17/02/2018 08:52

I've the opposite problem with neighbours of mine. Husband friendly, smiley will say hi if you meet him at corner shop or out on the road. His wife will do a full on 360 degree regan to avoid looking me in the eye, never mind saying hello. I'm a single parent though. Maybe she doesn't want to lead me on, by being a bit nice to me, in case I think we're friendly.

Ifailed · 17/02/2018 08:53

Believe it or not, but some men are actually aware that their presence can make a lone women uncomfortable, the sort who will cross to the other side of the road if they realise they are following a women on a pavement as an example.
Maybe that's what's happening here, they don't want to be seen to be forcing themselves on you?

TellsEveryoneRealFacts · 17/02/2018 08:53

How do you normally dress?

Huh?

TellsEveryoneRealFacts · 17/02/2018 08:55

OP be careful what you wish for, i can't go down the garden without the bloke from 3 doors down running across the gardens to tell me something totally unnoteworthy.

Original poster
Mummybo88 · 17/02/2018 08:58

*Well it's obvious isn't it. You are so stunningly beautiful that they are intimidated to talk to you and/or they are terrified of their wives finding out they have been talking to the amazing woman next door.

That's the answer you were looking for right?*

Erm, no it’s not actually! What the hell would someone’s appearance have to do with whether or not someone should be polite to them?

It’s just getting very awkward because I see them all the time and it’s blatant they are both purposely avoiding me.

OP posts:
Falmer · 17/02/2018 08:58

Bean, what does OP's dresswear have to do with it?

CharisMater · 17/02/2018 09:00

Well let them get on with it.

I out-ignore anybody who ignores me!

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