We’ve been living in my now exes MILs old home for about 5 years. Also before that we lived here for awhile but she kicked us out when I was pregnant because we fell out... so the punishment was to make us homeless. Good job. After that the landlord of another property was selling up after our agreement ended after 6 months. The next one the landlord was converting the house, so we moved back into exMILS again.
A few years ago me and my ex broke up, pretty horrifically, he was sleeping with my best friend but we decided to keep it together for the kids sakes.
He agreed to move out so I could continue paying rent without uprooting the kids. It’s VERY over priced rent for this area for, however the area is still a good area and hard to get somewhere here so it’s always been an issue but not one we’ve brought up.
Anyways, I’ve been nagging for years for the carpets to be replaced... a crappy thing, no underlay and it’s so thin that the rubber behind it is showing all over. It’s disgusting and we can’t even carpet clean it because the carpet cleaner treats it like it’s a hard surface. Which isn’t entirely inaccurate.
She refuses to give us a tenancy agreement (I would warrant 5grand in new flooring only if I could be assured that we would be allowed to live here for X time). The house is damp, and needs SO MUCH work done that I’ve slowly been doing over the years when I can afford it.
So now my OH has moved in for about a year, he hates it here but it’s my home, he says because I rent I am entitled to get things fixed and flooring has to be better than what it is as it’s a health and safety hazard. OH has made massive improvements to the house since he’s been here, fixed most things, but then the floor issue is ongoing.
MIL says she can’t afford it, even though she’s constantly going away on holiday. So I asked my ex and he said she has nothing to gain by giving me tenancy assurance so I can get it done and not be kicked out when I get it done (she’s always threatening in a passive aggressive way). So anyway I exploded on my ex, and my mil, and both of them saying I’m overreacting and being unreasonable to expect her to do anything for the house, and she’s under no legal obligation.
I’m losing my mind over here!!!
AIBU and what do I do? I have a massive fear about renting and moving due to the past. It absolutely terrifies me... also my baby is due in a couple of months. I don’t know how to approach this at all