Should I have gone to work?

[Pepperpug]

I have had a bit of an argument with my Mum this morning and I’m now wondering if I went a bit OTT.

I work part time and my mum looks after DS when I’m at work, she lives nearby so comes to my house early in the morning, 6am, and usually goes back to bed for a few hours until DS wakes up. This morning I went in to her room and shocked by the seriously strong smell of alcohol in the room, I asked her had she been drinking the previous night and she said that she had stayed up drinking til 2. As I got ready for work I began to feel increasingly uncomfortable with the thought of leaving my son with someone who was clearly still drunk so I told my mum my concerns at which point she got up and said she was going home.

I was planning on telling her to get a few hours sleep and I’d go in half day but since she has left she has text me saying how angry she is with me that I humiliated her like that and that I clearly don’t trust her, which of course isn’t true.

I have explained to her that it’s not an issue if trust, I just need her to be 100% when she is looking after her grandson at which point she said I should trust her judgment and that she would of told me if she didn’t feel 100%, and now she refuses to answer the phone to me.

Am I being unreasonable? Should I have trusted her judgment?

We never argue, I don’t really know what to do...

Only in a public place and if the child is under 7 Blackteadrinker

Thanks, I thought I'd read it before.

No, I'd have made the same call too. I never drink if in charge of children as feel it's irresponsible and certainly wouldn't leave my children in the situation you describe.

YWNBU to take the day off work or to express concern to your DM.

6am is a crazy early start and you would have to pay £££ for childcare at that time.

If your mum doesn’t normally react like this, I’d say she was embarrassed.... and over reacted but still feels she would have been fine so can’t back down. It sounds unintentional and not something that’s happened befor. She is doing you a big favour.. every day... even if you pay her there’s no replacement for the care she’s providing. I’ve looked after my own kids with a hangover... not a great way to spend a day but the kids were fine. Stop being so hard on her... she’s your mum, you obviously have a great relationship usually. Go round make up and move on. If it happens again in the near future however you’re going to have to rethink. Good luck

I finally spoke to her after she refused to answer my calls all day. She is still angry and is not interested in seeing the situation from my side.

My mum is really focusing on the fact she thinks I don't trust her or her judgment, she is saying that she absolutely was not drunk and says I am being ridiculous when I tell her how strong the smell of alcohol was. The conversation was in danger of taking an unproductive route so I ended the call and will have to try again tomorrow.

I still believe I done the right thing but I am so disappointed at my mums stance, I really hope we can move on from this.

The replies have been very helpful, let's all go and have a glass of wine...