To not take them out for any more meals?

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Last night we ordered pizzas for the kids. I didn't order from the older two kids favourite place because they take ages to deliver and it was late. But I said I was sure we could order from there at some other point in the half term. DSS and DSD decided they hated the pizza, ate one slice each and binned the rest. DH hasn't gotten a pizza himself as we are trying to save money and said he'd have left overs that were in the fridge and nick a slice or two if they were going spare. DH ran out to get something from the corner shop when the pizza binning happened. I was upstairs putting the littlest to bed. When I came down they were both happily munching through the snacks I'd bought for the week. Both stepkids have form for not being happy and throwing a massive strop if things don't go their way. AIBU to say we aren't getting any more takeaways etc over this half term because of their behaviour? I'm so fed up of them binning food.

YANBU. No more snacks, no more takeaways and your DH needs to be the one who communicates this so it's not just 'wicked step-mother being mean'.

What horrible behaviour. I'd be thoroughly ashamed if my two did something like this.

BTW I'm not claiming you're the wicked step-mother being mean. I just said that so that your step-DC can't minimise being told off because it wasn't their dad wanders off to take foot out of mouth

Do they usually throw uneaten pizza away? Did they know their dad was going to 'nick a slice or two'? Do they have free access to snacks?
I can't tell how UR they are being without more information. In our house, throwing away uneaten pizza wouldn't automatically get you into trouble but eating snacks without permission would. Neither would cause me to put down a takeaway ban for the entire half term.

You'd be happy for them to throw a near on full pizza away because they didn't like it?

If there was only 1 ir 2 slices keft id put it down to them trying to tidy and not thinking but to throw a that much away with out considering another person is selfish and says alot about their personality. My 9 and 12 year ds have never or as yet to be that selfish. So i dont think it's an age thing.

YANBU.

Awful behaviour.

It’s hard to imagine this happening! No takeaways are binned in this house .

What conversation took place after you found out the pizza had been binned?

I'd have gone mad. Hate food waste

I feel sorry for DH going hungry, what a waste

I'm another wanting to know what your dh did/said.

Appalling behaviour. Definitely no takeaways - fruit and bread & butter for any snacks for rest of week (if they're with you for rest of week)

That's awful behaviour, so ungrateful!

What has your dh said to them, have you told them that it wasn't on?

I would say no ordering from the pizza place they like later in the week now as they had wasted the first lot.

So what DID you/husband do? This sort of shit needs to be dealt with there and then... then followed through.

Surely you didn’t just let it slide?

No, YANBU. There was no reason to put the pizza in the bin because they didn't like it, and filling up on snacks instead is ridiculous. They sound very spoilt. I'd let their dad replace the snacks if they want more.

i'd be fuming. what nasty behaviour! would be punishing for sure.

It's interesting, I am completely alone in my earlier view

On the (relatively rare) occasions my children have behaved badly I always think "what have I done wrong?" rather than "my god what awful kids."

These children didn't just get up one day and think this kind of behaviour was OK.

I was really upset when I came down and they told me what they'd done. We generally have a good warm relationship but they are incredibly selfish and picky. Food is always a problem. We eat only things they like when they are here and even then if it's not perfect it all ends up in the bin. I dread mealtimes.

I told them no more takeaways for the rest of the holiday when I came down but it was said in anger and I usually don't do much of the discipline. But I was just so cross! I try to speak to any of the kids when I'm angry so I suppose I wondered if I'm just having unrealistic expectations. DH was really upset. He told them no more takeaways or treats from cafes this holiday. But they don't care. We only have them EOW and half the holidays.

Its just so disheartening when you try to treat them and it turns into this mess. Pizza is one of their favourite foods but because it was the wrong pizza they wanted to make a point and nearly £30 worth of pizza went in the bin!

£30 worth of pizza! I'm not surprised you were cross. How old are they?
I would probably extend the pizza ban further than this week. Depending on their age I think at least a month or two, unless things improve along the way.

How old are they? Do you think they actually didn't like it or trying to prove some sort of point? I only ask because they waited until they were alone (you upstairs and your husband out). Do you think they would have dared do this in front of your faces?

How ungrateful. I certainly wouldn't be ordering them any more takeaways again.

Where did they want pizza from and where did you get it from instead?

Were they eating alone? It seems odd to me that you'd order £30 of pizza for two children yet not make it clear to them that they weren't to throw any out as it would be eaten by other people.

They have form for throwing food away and neither you nor your husband saw them until it was already in the bin.

You didn't answer pp, what were YOU going to eat?

If you are trying to save money why are you buying takeaways?!

There were be severe consequences in my house if any of the kids did that.

I don't understand why you spent £30 on pizza they didn't want especially when you know they are fussy eaters. I think the takeaway ban is just symptomatic of the problems you have with trying to manage their fussy eating.

How is their dads relationship with their mother? Is she likely to also discipline or is she likely to back the DC up? How old are they?

Have to say I have an awful relationship with my ex but if he told me dd had behaved like this - she'd be in trouble when she got home too!

Not being able to do that is one of the many and varied joys of step parenting PlanNumber. A lot of the time it's sod all to do with anything you've done as everyone will be so keen to remind you they're not your children and parenting them is up to their parents.

I can't imagine any answer can excuse what they did Appuskidu. OP explained why they ordered from whom they did, it sounds like the DC would have moaned the food was taking ages and and still eaten all the snacks she'd brought that were meant to last all week.

OP, I can understand wanting to kick half term off with a treat, but they treated it and you and DH with contempt and I'd be dialling back hard on any further special treatment this week.

They sound well old enough to understand that money is tight. My DSC get the concept and I'd be ashamed for DH, and me, if they didn't.

If they don't care when you've told them what the consequences are, well they won't be complaining either.

I wonder if they pull this sort of shit with their mother.

YANBU that was incredibly selfish and nasty behaviour. Dont get them takeaway again.