AIBU to think my weight loss should be noticeable by now?

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So I’m 161cm tall and I’ve lost 8kg since December. 110kg down to 102.

I think I. An see it slightly in my face, and maybe some clothes are slightly, (slightly!) looser. Or maybe it’s just me grasping at straws.

AIBU to think that it should be a bit more noticeable? I get maybe not to others yet, but shouldn’t there be tops that are definitely more looser, a bra that needs strapes adjusted, or trousers that used to be too tight/uncomfortable to sit down in, but now are easier? I’m not asking to go down a size....but something????

I’m starting to think the scales are wrong and I really haven’t lost a thing. Seriously getting close to cracking open some biscuits and giving the whole thing up.

Has this happened to anyone else? Does it kick in soon???

Great job OP! Seriously, congrats! Keep going until you are where you want to be :)

I have just started my weight loss journey (on my 12th day) and did my first weigh in this morning.

I started at 17st and this morning weighed 16st 9lbs. I'm 5"3 and 31years old.

I have a lot to lose so will just keep on chugging on and hopefully I will get there.

Yeah, I'd like to say well done as well, both on weight loss so far and also the backing away from the biscuits.

But genuinely there does come a moment where it's suddenly very visible. Surprisingly so. Also do think of little longer. I know it's a pain on the day to day, but summer at a healthy weight is so much better than summer trying to cover up and not feel too hot and uncomfortable. If you gave up now, in the summer you'd just be wishing you had stuck to it, because you'd know by now you'd be feeling much more comfortable.

Also, remember every single week you get a little lighter and a little smaller. That's what you want isn't it? Those little weekly reductions add up very very quickly to a big reduction.

I've lost a stone and a half so far. Only my mum has been able to tell I've lost, but then again she knows I'm dieting. I can tell by my waist, hips and lower leg that have slimmed down, but I haven't gone down a clothes size yet. I'm hoping another half stone and I'll have gone down a size. Don't give up as you have done so well and will regret it. Just keep going and sooner or later you will suddenly realise that you're the size you want to be.

Also another tip, weigh monthly rather than weekly. As long as you're sticking to the diet, a bigger weight loss each month rather than small or fluctuating losses each week may keep you motivated.

You're doing so well op. I promise in another month or so it'll be much more visible and even getting 10% of your body fat off gives you health improvements

I was the same as you & no one noticed my weight loss until I had lost 3 stone. Evan at that it was only people who knew I was dieting that noticed so I'm not sure how genuine it was as lots of other people never noticed.

I think the problem is that when you are really fat even losing 3 stones means you are still fat.

I expect you've built your wardrobe around hiding the parts you don't like, and this will account for a lot of it.

Keep at it!

Hmm. I'm 5'4 and have lost about 20lbs, so I think very similar to you. I have definitely noticed it in my clothes. I started wearing a skirt that's been too tight for ages a couple of weeks ago, and today it slid straight off because it's now too big. In terms of other people, only one person who didn't know I was dieting has said they noticed, but in a really nice way. I think mostly people don't comment on it, because it's hard to without being rude or intrusive. And it's so awkward if they're wrong.

BUT... I have been doing the Blood Sugar Diet, which is specifically designed to work on the fat in the stomach area. I know that sounds weird, but there is science and that does seem to be borne out in people's experience of doing the diet. I've lost about 5 inches round my waist. Not sure whether I've lost on my bum/hips/thighs/arms etc.

I found a DEXA scan really helped! Before Xmas I’d been exercising/eating healthily to 4 months and had barely noticed any difference. Was getting frustrated at the scale as I wasn’t seeming to lose anything. Had my second scan and it turned out I’d lost 3kg of fat and put 3kg of muscle on - plus had drastically reduced my visceral fat. It was a real boost I needed!

God I wish I had done a DEXA scan before I submitted to my fitness regime.

When you're very over weight it takes a while to show i think. Keep going.

ThisLittleKitty. Exactly the same thing happened to me! Quite a few years ago I lost 3 stone in weight,going from 15 stone 2lbs to 12 stone 2lbs. My DM never mentioned it and when I told her,she merely said 'Oh really? I can't say that you look any different'.

I've gone from a 12 to an 8 and no one has noticed, apart from my husband. Mind you, I was carrying all my weight as a spare tire around my waist which I think I had concealed with my uniform of skinny jeans and big jumpers.

I suspect they did notice. They may not have commented for many reasons. Politeness, envy, whatever, but these are the weight range drops you definitely notice.

I expect it's much harder to spot weight loss in the British winter. I've been bundled up since October non-stop.

I hear you !! I have lost a stone and barely anyone has noticed . I wore a skirt and I have not worn for ages and it’s still a bit tight

Onwards OP !

Some people don't like to comment because it's not their business, others don't comment because they are jealous or resent what they themselves can't do. Others don't like to acknowledge nice things in our lives

Sometimes it's just an awareness that it's a sensitive issue. You can't always tell, or know, if someone is deliberately trying to lose weight or if they've had an illness. Plus if I'm going to give a compliment, I'd rather it wasn't entirely appearance related. I might say that someone looks well, but I would only mention weight loss if I knew someone well and knew they'd been trying to lose weight.

Did you take a starting photo? If not, take one now and every month

I think weight and food is a hugely complex issue for many people.

For me, if I knew a good friend struggled with her weight and was dieting and she'd lost weight, I would absolutely say you've lost weight you look great etc. We all know it makes people feel good to have their efforts validated. I wouldn't say it to an acquaintance who I didn't know why they had lost weight.

I've noticed men have less of a filter, so if I lose weight it's all "lost a bit of timber there blunt".

Where as women are more complex. I'd say my healthy weight friends will tend to comment, but I have one very overweight friend who never will comment.

So she will talk about herself a lot. say how she's six stone to lose, she's developed an apron, her boobs are massive etc. But even if she's sitting with uou and someone comments you've lost weight she will simply stare straight ahead and say nothing. Even if you raise the subject and say I've been dieting and lost x, she will simply say oh and not engage.

I think it's really about how it makes them feel about themselves. So unless it's a politeness thing and you don't know each other very well, I always think someone's ability to comment or not is based on a reflection of their own feelings.