To think this is very odd??(lighthearted)

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(Lighthearted post to prove point to OH)

My OH only ever uses a fork not a knife?? No matter what he is eating he will only ever use a fork and thinks that's completely normal, he says I'm weird for using a knife ???

Please tell me that this is weird

I meant to add there that knives are not for snobs, I don't know anyone other than small children who can't eat properly with a knife and fork.

If someone makes a stupid general comments about people having no manners or being scrubbers etc it affects everyone. People could just be more polite in general.

But it is impolite to not observe good table manners. It's not wrong to say so.

I always thought this was a country based thing. Brits use a knife and fork usually, my mum's South African friend told me that South Africans don't, they just cut and put the knife down, I noticed this is true of Americans and Brazilians too. I haven't analysed any other nationalities.

Are his fine motor skills good? DS1 finds it extremely difficult having both the knife and fork in his hands at the same time. He quickly cuts it up usually with a steak knife for ease and then relaxes to eat with a fork. He is nearly an adult now and it’s the only way he enjoys eating.

Good table manners; no arse scratching, belching or discussing bodily functions. Anything more is putting on airs and graces to impress other people. Good grief.

Does he eat steak?

How do the cutlery police suggest disabled/impaired/whatever people delicately scrape their food onto the back of a fork when they y'know can't? I envy how lacking in bigger worries your lives must be.

I think it's obvious the thread wasn't aimed at people with disabilities or motor skill issues.

Have I missed something? I'm sure this was a light hearted post by OP.. why have so many seemed to miss that point?!

My bil does this. Always has. Never bothers me. I have a work colleague who uses her fingers as "God didn't give us cuttlery for hands" I find that more bothersome esp as I know many ethinic communities don't use cuttlery and she's from deepest darkest devon and at least the ethnic communities have always done so. ( I hope i dont come a cross racist in my terms I am quite closeted hear)
Do what you have to do. I personally would never eat a burger without cutting it in half (fussy pants me)

This is an ongoing battle in my house. I give DH a knife and fork with his meal, and he hands back the knife as “he doesn’t need it”. It makes no sense. 😕

Bluemoon because some people love a chance to make snide remarks about classless wasters and their lack of manners and it gets right up my jacksy. That's my reasoning I genuinely thought the op was quite funny before that.

Its always funny to watch people 'sawing' away at food with blunt dinner knives...
Yet the side of a fork is a better cutting implement?

@hippadippadation
Jessie you use your knife to push your cut up food onto the back of your fork. You shouldn't use the fork as a shovel.

No, you cut the food and then stick the tines of the fork into it to pick it up and transfer to your mouth. Why on earth would you balance food on the back of the fork?!

OP youbatill haven’t explained how your husband eats things like steak, chicken breast etc. Do you cut it up for him before serving?

Where possible, appropriate and acceptable I will use my fingers

Jessie you're misinterpreting. I just worded it differently, possibly not very well actually. I do what you described but turn the fork backwards. Definitely no food balancing, that would be a talent, haha.

There’s no “but I turn it backwards” needed Hippa. What I described is what you do i.e. using the fork to stab things in the opposite of “shovel” orientation.

TroubledTribble28 Sun 11-Feb-18 22:59:02
Good table manners; no arse scratching, belching or discussing bodily functions. Anything more is putting on airs and graces to impress other people. Good grief.

How on earth is it putting on airs and graces to eat with a knife and fork??

No wonder kids are getting to 4-5 and can't eat properly if this is a common attitude.

I assume your DH simply wasn't taught as a child.
I taught my kids to use a knife and fork nicely alongside other basic table manners, like no speaking with your mouth full, no waving the utensils around ....saying please and thank you for food etc; because I was taught that way.

I was brought up with rigorous enforcement in the use a knife and fork but have since rebelled and now just use a fork unless a knife is obviously required.

When we have steak or duck breast, I slice it with a sharp knife first on the diagonal and serve it like that.

DH comes from a far posher family than mine and he does the same as me now. Big DS gets himself a knife and little DS is a work in progress at the dinner table anyway, so knife mastery is the very least of our etiquette concerns.

Most people know how to use a knife but chose not to. It really is just people being stuffy to say your impolite to not use a knife. Its choice.

So what does your OH think knives are for then??

How does he eat a steak? Or any meat for that matter? Or does he just eat mushy food? Or do you cut it all up for him? I'm really baffled how anyone can not use a knife at all.

I suppose as long as people don't wave their cutely around to emphasise a point !
That just looks uncouth, especially if pieces of food are flying about !