To not understand what a "homebird" is excited by?

[BooYah]

My childhood was complicated, difficult and transitory. We moved a lot. As an adult, am bored easily, and have moved many times, including to other countries. I find it really exciting.

We are moving again soon. Lots of people have said, when told about the news that we re moving, "oh, I'm such a homebird, I wouldn't want to move away". That is, of course fine. My way isn't for everyone, I get that. But what I don't really understand is what excites other people.

I then started thinking how I could replicate those feelings if I couldn't move somewhere new, and I wondered if perhaps extreme sports would replace it? But for people who don't want either, how do you get the same thrill?

If you are a 'homebird', what excites you?

[RainbowGlitterFairy]

I settled because I had my DC and I remember how difficult my childhood was and how disrupted my education was by keep moving. I am really bored of where I live but in my opinion it would be cruel to do that to my DC and their education is more important than me being excited. When they grow up I plan to start moving around again.

[ovenchips]

I always think different attitudes to going on holiday are v interesting. My mum (very much a homebird) likes to go on holiday but says she absolutely loves to come home - that that is the best bit.

Me? I always want to stay on, wherever I go, spend a year there getting the feel of a place, then maybe, just maybe think of going home.

[Changednamejustincase]

I like feeling safe and secure and enjoying my family and doing the things I love to do.

[Aroundtheworldandback]

I get excited by a good recipie, how sad is that?!

[NotAnotherEmma]

Moving f'ing blows, I don't understand what's so exciting about packing and unpacking boxes, losing shit, and learning again whether or not your new neighbours are dbags, psychos, or normal enough.

[scrappydappydoo]

I moved a lot as a child and I think I'm a homebird now. For me it's about having roots. I was always jealous of people who had history - joining a class in the final year of a school and then at the leavers assembly seeing all the things I wasn't part of. So many of my friends had granny's who lived round the corner - I saw mine every 6 mths. That feeling of finally having a close friendship group and then having to upsticks and move (pre-internet). I still struggle with long term relationships.
Don't get me wrong there were positives - I got to go places and experience stuff and I'm confident about going into unknown places. It's just roots I crave.

[Sashkin]

We moved a lot as a child including overseas (5 different schools) and I spent most of my 20s and 30s moving jobs every 6-12 months (part of a training rotation so unavoidable).

While I wouldn’t call myself a homebird I do find constant moves to be a complete pain in the arse. You have to find a new place to live, settle into a new job, find things to do in the new town and get into a new routine.

I’ve been in the same house now for about ten years, and it’s great! I have my commute down to a fine art, I have a range of places to take DS on any given day, I know which gym classes and tennis lessons and swimming pools I like best, I have favourite restaurants, I know which shops to go to for different things... it would take ages to get this sort of local knowledge if I moved again. Plus the house is nice now. I just feel settled and at home here now.

We’re going overseas for a year, and I’m looking forward to it but I’ll be glad to get home again afterwards too.

[WhatToDoAboutThis2017]

If I was constantly moving like you I’d be constantly stressed and anxious; I hate change.

I like stability, security and familiarity. I like to be near my family and friends.

It’s not good for your children to be moving so often; they need to learn to make long lasting relationships and you’re denying them that opportunity for a “thrill”.

There’s a reason moving is something the majority hate doing and is considered one of the most stressful things you can do in life.

[BooYah]

MrsFezziwig I have very good friends, and lots of them. I (and DH too) seem to collect them wherever we go, and keep them. I'm not so close to most of my family, and see many friends as family. But I don;t need to live near them for that.

But yes, moving stuff is a total pain. Boxes...

[catkind]

My happiest place is playing music. And yes, thrilling when you have a big performance or learn an amazing new piece. It does require being kind of dug in to the local musical community to know who to ask - or get asked yourself - to do the most exciting things. So yes I'd say I've been happier the longer I've stayed put.

I have moved around in my time, lived abroad etc. I still find I have a slight nervous feeling if I'm further from home than I can get under own steam. I think it comes from student days when missing a flight would be a disaster as I couldn't afford another ticket. So I'd kind of enjoy the holiday but always with background nervousness till touched down at home again.

[lookingforthedroids]

I'm not a thrill-seeker, I prefer a quiet life, on the whole.

Perhaps that makes me dull and predictable, but I like it that way

[Redglitter]

I hate thrills. I'm a homebird and very happy as such. Last year I moved back to the village I was brought up in. I stay a mile away from my mum & I love that

I have no desire to travel. I haven't had a passport for 20 years. I love my house. I'm at my happiest when I'm there.

[PancakeInMaBelly]

The things that cool people find fun just unsettle me: busy cities, music festivals, travel...

Moving house is REALLY unsettling. I even feel unsettled if I know one of my neighbours is moving and feel tense until Ive met the new'un.

I.LOVE.boring stuff: getting in after being out, just generally being at home. Routine things are reassuring and nice.

[ohlalalala]

I'm a home bird and I think it's the stability and comfort that excites me. As contradictory as that sounds I love the booking life! It makes me happy to know that I'm going home to my boring house with people I love. Excitement for me is getting my house cleaned on a Saturday morning so I know I've nothing to do the rest of the weekend.
I work full time in a challenging city job. Home life is my excitement and I won't change it for the world

[PancakeInMaBelly]

P.s. we moved a lot as a kid (including internationally) which may be part of why Im so adverse to it now.

OP the effect of moving around hits kids of movey parents increases as you get older. Im sure I appeared fine about it at the time. But now I really hate that I dont have one solid "home town" to return to, even for visits. And I feel sad when I visit places we lived for longest, because I dont have the ties/roots to return to even though its the closest thing I have to a home town IYKWIM. No family base to go back to. Where my parents currently live has no connection to my childhood.

[ohfortuna]

Homebird?
I always thought it was homebody?
In anycase I am one, i like my routine quiet life

[Thingiebob]

I moved a lot as a teen and young adult. As a child I never felt truly at home where I was brought up as I moved there aged 9 from the opposite end of the country. My mum hated it and spent most of my childhood telling me the place was shit and not really her 'home'. We also lived in rented accommodation and were repeatedly reminded it wasn't As a result as an adult all I have craved is stability and security and a place I could call home. So the idea of uprooting and going somewhere new feels me with fear.

[PancakeInMaBelly]

A lot of adults move "home" in their 20s or 30s even if they origionally left. When all of my uni friends grew up and started moving "home" to raise their children I felt so lost and rootless. I didnt have that ready made easy "home" to go back to due to having moved as a kid so much. And felt quite left behind and overwhelmed with the task of picking somewhere to settle long term when there wasnt that obvious "home town" to go back to.

I long for it actually. My kids are settled where we are but Im actuely aware that I have no roots

[ohfortuna]

If you are a 'homebird', what excites you?
we dont want to be excited, it's too stressful we want to be soothed and calmed

[PancakeInMaBelly]

we dont want to be excited, it's too stressful we want to be soothed and calmed

Yup. We dont LIKE excitment.
Adrenaline just = stress to me.
New is not fun

Actually I had to get new boots this week cause my old ones are wrecked, and I didnt even like that! I had to put my nice old reliable comfortable (but beyond repair) boots in the bin and get new ones and I HATE it. They feel new and strange. I dont know if theyll ever break in as well as my old ones. I dont know which of my outfits theyll work well with yet. I want my old boots back! (But also want dry feet and to not look like a tramp so..)

[Sparklesocks]

I think it’s a bit of a leap to claim to not understand how people have excitement in their lives just because they love them differently to you..

[PancakeInMaBelly]

If I get a new car I pretty much just want my old car but without its fault. And get irritated if I get the newer model with changed bits!

Happiness is getting onto your FAMILIAR car, putting on your usual radio station or playlist, and doing a route you know well in good time!

[franktheskank]

I seek excitement but not with moving. I'm so lucky to have an amazing house where ive chosen every last detail and I love being here, I'd never leave if I could get away with it me,dp, the kids, animals, friends and family, I have so much to stay for.

I guess my excitement comes in the form of new babies, new pets, shopping, holidays, food. New business ventures....I traveled a fair amount before settling down even though I was fairly young when I had ds1 sondont feel I've missed out.

[darklady64]

What Pancake said about the effect on your kids increasing as they get older! My parents decided to move abroad to the middle of nowhere just as I was on the brink of going to 6th form. To cut a long story short, it was crap - I lost any friends I had, couldn't go to university like I'd planned and was very unhappy. Because of this, once back in the UK I swore I was moving nowhere until my dcs had gone through school and gone to uni/started work/got themselves wherever they wanted to be. Mind you, I'm not an extreme sports kind of person either, so maybe I'd be this way without my previous experience But just maybe be aware that while you are shaking your head and wondering how the homebirds can live like they do, the homebirds are looking at you and wondering the same. Different strokes and all that.

[SleepingStandingUp]

I want my son to grow up in an area where he can make and keep friends, I want us to be near parents who are getting older and need support, I want my son to grow up amongst my loved ones (not just family) and to have that extended network. I don't think we'd have that island hopping around the globe.

What excites me? My volunteering work working to provide face to face emotional support. Challenges and excites me as I'm quite shy naturally.
Seeing my son grow and thrive.
Seeing a new show or going to a gig or my favourite band, cocktails with friends I've had over 20 years, taking on a new challenge.

My life isnt automatically dull and boring because I live where I grew up