To not understand what a "homebird" is excited by?

[BooYah]

My childhood was complicated, difficult and transitory. We moved a lot. As an adult, am bored easily, and have moved many times, including to other countries. I find it really exciting.

We are moving again soon. Lots of people have said, when told about the news that we re moving, "oh, I'm such a homebird, I wouldn't want to move away". That is, of course fine. My way isn't for everyone, I get that. But what I don't really understand is what excites other people.

I then started thinking how I could replicate those feelings if I couldn't move somewhere new, and I wondered if perhaps extreme sports would replace it? But for people who don't want either, how do you get the same thrill?

If you are a 'homebird', what excites you?

[FaFoutis]

I moved schools a lot as a child and it was awful. I suppose it could have been positive if my home life had been loving and secure though.
I would love to move somewhere new but I wouldn't do that to my children because of my negative experiences. Instead I go off on travel adventures on my own and I have a job where I'm constantly doing new things, that helps.

[MeganChips]

I understand what you mean.

I like thrills and change and am married to a homebird which can be challenging to say the least. I am so restless most of the time.

We have lived in this house for far too long, I am desperate to move and DH is adamant he doesn’t want to as an example. He is comfortable, I am bored.

I channel it mostly into my job, travel in the form of weekends away and holidays and trying to generally keep myself occupied with new things.

I wish I was more like DH sometimes. I think I would feel far more content.

[DonnyAndVladSittingInATree]

I have a strong pull to be 'Home'.

Same. Home is my most favourite place. I annoy myself sometimes because when I am out I am always counting the time until I can go home and I don’t live in the moment enough.

[Queuejumper]

Thrills are overrated. I understand the need to a project, a move, the next big thing. But being able to find enjoyment in just being is pretty important too.

[BooYah]

Interesting about the introvert/extrovert personalities.

I do completely understand that most others don't want to keep moving. I suppose I didn't understand that some people don't seek excitement. Now I see that's where the difference lies.

[CrochetBelle]

Keeping my children alive and well by the end of the day always gives me a pleasing thrill.
Most mornings I'm sure they won't make it

[DollyDayScream]

My home is with the people I love (DH & DCs).

As long as I had a house with them, I could live anywhere (but have my preferences).

I am introverted and love being at home, but not for an area. Certainly not the area that I live in now.

[DonkeyOil]

My childhood was complicated, difficult and transitory. We moved a lot.

That could be me! However the similarity ends there, as my reaction to that early life is to feel a real sense of achievement to have lived in the same house for nearly 25 years ( I worked out once I had lived in 11 different houses by the time I was 13), and brought up all 3 dc here. Now they are branching out on their own, I think/hope that it has left them with the sense of security I never experienced.

I don't really crave excitement. I think I had enough uncertainty and unexpected outcomes when I was young to last me a lifetime!

[ShowOfHands]

What feels like a thrill to you, is endurance to me. I'll do all that white water, rollercoaster stuff for other people where necessary but I get nothing from it but a desire for it to be over so that I can go home.

[ClementineWardrobe]

I'm with Sarah Milligan on this one
'For me, exciting is when you start a new tea towel.'

Home for me is wherever my husband and dogs are, and as the best set up for that is in my home then great!
I love that there is evidence of our life and our earlier adventures all over the house we settled in. Its just a nicer place than any holiday destination. There's novelty in a change of scene occasionally but it only makes me appreciate home even more. The whole point is that home is not exciting, its safe, its yours, you can scratch anywhere that itches. So many people struggle for safe accommodation, never mind ownership. I am incredibly grateful for it every day.

[DoAsYouWouldBeMumBy]

When I was younger, I lived in lots of different countries, travelled a lot and I speak several languages. That thrilled me hugely then.

But now I'm genuinely thrilled by just about the exact same things as @brownmouse

I write a bit and am currently thrilled about a new project I've been asked to do. I'm still thrilled by the wood floors we put in last year and by the new HUGE sofa that's arriving in a couple of weeks and by the two UK holidays we've booked for this year. Properly thrilled.
I live right by the sea, and at least once a day, I get the breath knocked out of me by the view.

In all honesty, parental responsibilities/terror threats have made me anxious about overseas travel, and I'm reluctant to do a lot of the things I used to do.

[BillywigSting]

Having done a bit of both living out of a suitcase and being settled, as exciting and interesting as the suitcase life was, I love the stability and familiarity of being settled much more than I thought I would.

It's nice to have proper roots down. It feels safe. I didn't realise how important it was to feel safe until I did.

[corythatwas]

For me, the most exciting thing is learning and writing. For dh it is painting. We both enjoy foreign travel when we can afford to, but it's in creating something that the real excitement lies.

I have moved countries once, 25 years ago, and still find it exciting that I have so much to learn about my new country: about the subtleties of language and body language, about the history and culture, about what makes people tick. Moving country every few years I could never get that depth of experience, and it's depth that is exciting to me.

[DeputyBrennan]

I much prefer comfort over excitement. I’ve visited some brilliant places and done a lot of very fun things, but I’m always happiest at the point of returning home and getting everything in order again. Being back in my comfortable routine.

I remember as a child wondering if everybody secretly preferred home to holidays . I’m not sure whether it helps my anxiety or actually feeds it, but I don’t mind being the way I am.

[HairBlues]

My childhood was also complicated and transitory etc. Lots of different homes etc. We moved around a lot. I felt anxious and nervous because of it.

As an adult I like a solid base, I want my DCs to have a solid base, friends they've known for years, childhood security in my book gives a child confidence and a sense of mattering and belonging. I always felt "less than" other children, a shadow version of their secure lives. I like having a base that nobody can take away from me, where I matter in my own small and local community. Roots, I suppose. I get excited by the depth and quality of an experience, not the quantity of experiences.

Because I did suffer with a haphazard environment as a child, I only pick people/places/experiences I know are likely to give me pleasure/reward. I know what I like and I vary it (for example I don't holiday in the same place twice) however I have similar types of holidays. I wouldn't necessarily go off on a safari for example, although I think when the DCs have left home I'll feel more able to - less to lose then, or something like that.

Things that excite me are the small but perfect moments in life. I don't need adrenaline/shock/unheaval for thrills. I don't like thrills. I like personally thrilling moments e.g. doing something special with someone special or with family or friends. I don't need to put myself in a highly unfamiliar environment to feel fulfilled. I had enough (unchosen) unfamiliarity as a child so I've kind of had my fill of it.

[Slanetylor]

My dream future is to live near my grandchildren and have everyone over for Sunday lunch. It's my little fantasy. Almost sure not to happen, I suppose. But if we kept moving there would be no home for my children to feel attached to. That would worry me a small bit I suppose.

[PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks]

Watching my eldest DS survive another day.

[HairBlues]

Ha, cross posts with Donkeyoil!! I feel exactly the same, as my post shows!

[QueenDramaLlama]

A holiday, redecorating, new career, Death in Paradise.

[Skittlesandbeer]

I subscribe to a view on child-rearing that prioritises consistency, familiarity, self-awareness and strong on-going relationships (in the family, in the school, in the community).

I want my DD to have a solid home base, from which she grows strong wings to fly.

With lots of travel and new situations, I’d be concerned that we’d all be too busy finding our feet with the basics to work on the ‘big picture’ stuff of her upbringing.

I also prioritise family responsibility with extended family over what I might prefer. I encourage my DD to have a relationship with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, neighbours. I couldn’t do that as well from far away.

I don’t so much enjoy being a ‘homebird’, I do it because these are the scant years where what DD needs is my priority, and I don’t think she needs ‘thrills’ as much as consistency.

But hey, each to their own.

[meredintofpandiculation]

I don't seek danger - I want to be confident that if I go on holiday, I'll come back with the same number of body bits as I started with, and with all my possessions intact. But I get excitement from other things, for example seeing a new species for the first time, or finding a plant where it hasn't been recorded before.

[sparepantsandtoothbrush]

I'm one of 6, DH is one of 4 - all have at between 2 and 6 children eacb. Both sets of parents are still alive and 3 of our grandparents. Not one of us has moved further than 30 minutes away from where we were born. We're a close family. We meet up regularly to do 'exciting' things together. Both families meet up over summer for a cricket match (so about 40 of us!). Give me that any day over a new country where I'd need to make friends with people I probably wouldn't particularly choose to be friends with

[Evenbetter]

So many people like me here! 💜
Home is safe, it’s a haven, I actively resent having to leave it and exchange my time for money or go and be around other people.
Childhood was pretty shit, I was abused, never felt safe, my body remembers that and just wants some peace now and to try and repair the damage, thrills can go away tae fuck.

[Qvar]

Stability is important to me, and I think it's important for children to have the opportunity to make and maintain deep and meaningful relationships with their friends.

[Qvar]

Actually I am very extroverted and love meeting new people. I invite them all to come to me house