To not understand what a "homebird" is excited by?

[BooYah]

My childhood was complicated, difficult and transitory. We moved a lot. As an adult, am bored easily, and have moved many times, including to other countries. I find it really exciting.

We are moving again soon. Lots of people have said, when told about the news that we re moving, "oh, I'm such a homebird, I wouldn't want to move away". That is, of course fine. My way isn't for everyone, I get that. But what I don't really understand is what excites other people.

I then started thinking how I could replicate those feelings if I couldn't move somewhere new, and I wondered if perhaps extreme sports would replace it? But for people who don't want either, how do you get the same thrill?

If you are a 'homebird', what excites you?

[VerbenaGirl]

brownmouse has put it perfectly!

Some days I can just be walking down the stairs and feel genuinely excited that this is my home, and that I am fortunate enough to have the opportunity to live here.
I’m excited every spring when the garden comes back to life.
I’m excited to be planning a new kitchen and thinking about what colours we might paint the way.
I’m excited by the traditions we have made for our family here.
I’m excited to plan what new recipe we’ll cook if we have a free weekend.
I’m excited for friends and family to visit, and for a good handful of them to be local.

For me, bigger things tend to tip over from excitement into stress.
We moved Just over a year ago and even though it went well, I genuinely do still have nightmares about it!

[namastayinbed]

Exactly the same as doas - just no new sofa.

[DiscotequeJuliet]

Moving house that much totally boggles my mind. Why would anyone want to move house?! It's so stressful! I'd only choose to move now, if our finances massively changed (ie lottery win), and we were getting something massively better. But, I guess I'm fortunate enough to have an already lovely home that suits our needs.

I'm not a thrill-seeker, I'm a thrill-avoider. I look forward to coming home, putting my pyjamas on, and watching something good on tv. I realise that's the epitome of boring for many people. I enjoy going on holiday, but always feel very ready to go home by the last few days.
Things that give me a thrill: being absorbed by a brilliant, page-turner of a book, having a long soak in a bubble bath, new pyjamas, purchasing a much-researched and lusted-after item of luxury makeup or skincare, a new series of a favourite tv show coming on the tv.

I'm a homebody and an introvert.

[BooYah]

This is all really interesting. I really like PJs and a film and retreating home too, but that home doesn't have to be the same one forever for me.
And yes, the actual move - packing, shipping, paperwork etc. Is a pain. But I love discovering a new place, a new way of doing things, different food etc.

Horses for courses I guess!

[TheEnglishGentleman]

I'm a homebird who stayed in one town from age 0 all the way to my older adult years, my parents tried to move me once so I just left them.

[TheEnglishGentleman]

I'm a homebird who stayed in one town from age 0 all the way to my older adult years, my parents tried to move me once so I just left them.

[Yinv]

I like being at home. I am not bored at home ever.

Only problem is that I don’t have enough time at home.

[Doghorsechicken]

I love being at home! I’ve decorated it just how I like it, it’s comfy and cosy and all my pets are here. I love a good holiday but I always look forward to coming home again. I love walking my dogs and riding my horses in the countryside. I love tending to my veggie patch and pottering in the garden. Having drinks at the local pub where you bump into all your friends. I would only move house if I won the lottery but I wouldn’t move from the area. I couldn’t think of anything worse than moving house all the time. Just getting married and changing my name and address at the bank/driving license/bills etc. was a complete pain. I have a simple life and I love it.

[Doghorsechicken]

But I realise I probably sound incredibly dull to you OP

[Riversguidebook]

I’ve lived in 48 different addresses since birth. Not a forces or diplomat family either, nothing like that. I just relish the excitement of a new start somewhere.

I slowed down when I had kids, and have now lived in the same place for 2.5 years.
I’ve always rented, and yet again the landlord-ugly-head has reared and informed us the owners are selling up ‘anytime between now and 2 years down the line’, so we’ll be living in a constant state of uncertainty for the foreseeable future.

At age 10, my parents moved us away from a rural idyll to the grottiest part of an urban sprawl, so I’ve probably been trying to find that perfect ‘home’ again my whole life.

Every time, I read that people who move around a lot are running away from something ; debts, abusive ex, insecurities, etc and some of those definitely apply to me.
But you don’t just keep moving for the thrill of it, you’re looking for something, you just can’t fathom yet what’s missing in your life, so you keep searching. That’s my theory.

But yes, extreme sports may give you that same temporary thrill that new horizons bring. Once you’ve nearly drowned upside down in a kayak pinned between rocks and whitewater, or your ‘chute didn’t open and you had to deploy the reserve, you might reconsider your own mortality, and find that familiarity is actually quite welcoming and will allow you to put down roots in order to grow .

[TheEnglishGentleman]

I'm a homebird and I'm glad I never moved. I hate change so much!

[alwayscrashinginthesamecar1]

I've moved around a fair bit, but it wasn't anything to do with thrill seeking. I left my home town after graduating because it was a shit hole full of bigots (NI), and I've happily never set foot in it again as my mum moved back to her home town too. I moved to London which was amazing in my 20s, but when I had my son, it wasn't so much fun, so we moved near family in Ireland. We would probably have stayed there but the economy tanked. Also we got sick of the weather. So we moved to Oz. As soon as I got off the plane we knew we were home. I have no intention of moving ever again.

Anyway, no-one else in my large extended family has moved anywhere. They think I am mad, and I think they are all mad! But really, its horses for courses. I feel like I've lived several lives, but I can also see there are advantages to settling in one place and stopping there forever. It just wasn't for me! And who knows, maybe I'll retire to Bali.

[longwayfromuk]

I loved moving around and trying new places right up until I turned 50. At that age my partner and I bought what I thought would be our 'forever' home. Sadly, our relationship broke down only two years later and we need to sell (as neither of us can afford to buy the other out). And so now at 55 I find myself renting again and wondering what next?

Only this time I don't have a clue what or where I want to be....

[Maryjoyce]

I Love travelling we live between Asia and England every year And always looking for something new