Or can a facebook unfriending really hurt?

[TheLegendOfBeans]

Daftest post ever.

Just been deleted by two former work friends I was close to when I was at my old job.

I'm 36, I have two children under two. Time is a luxury I once had and now don't. This means that I don't have time to see my closest pals as much as I would like, never mind former work buddies.

Just because I don't "check in" like I used to doesn't mean I don't care but to just be chopped without warning stings hard. Because I've just "not been in touch enough".

Am I daft to feel upset?

Facebook - making grown adults feel like kids in the playground since 1999.

I've unfriended people for not being active on there as it seems pointless. I also hate that feeling of giving out and not getting anything back from people. I'd still be really pleased to hear from them in real life though. Just saying.

OP I think the text response you received was more in reply to your message first. Did you really just go straight is with "do you still work with X as I've met his wife" no "Hi how you been?" first.

No wonder they deleted you!

That is pretty rude of you really to message out of no where then not ask about them but go straight in with a random question about someone else. Especially as you have said they are not close friends, just work colleagues you no longer have time for.

@LemonTart25

That is pretty rude of you really to message out of no where then not ask about them but go straight in with a random question about someone else.

This has happened to me a few times! I have bumped into some random old acquaintance from the past - who knows my entire extended family, (though they have little to do with them,) and they have said 'HOW'S YOUR AUNTIE JANET?' No enquiring about how I am, or my hubby or kids, or anything.

I feel like saying 'if you want to know how she is, why don't you fucking ask her!' Instead, I say 'I haven't seen her for a few weeks. Why don't you call in on her and see, she lives closer to you than she does to me. I am sure she'd love to see you.'

Then they just walk off.

Re the OP, yeah it is a bit hurtful to be unfriended, even if you didn't have a lot to do with them. As has been said, they are saying they're done with you. I wouldn't care for long though.

This is partly why I left Facebook many years ago and I don't miss it a bit, the fake lives, perfect family's etc. Facebook is fake and not worth a second thought. People on there have hundreds of friends you could walk past most of them and not even know it.

I stay In actual touch not virtual touch with those I care about, it's playground stuff at best. My advice clear your friends up or leave Facebook I don't miss it at all.

@blackchina

I do wonder at times if it is rudeness or they're just completely oblivious! I like your initial choice of words though

I too have had the same usually those sisters/mums/aunts of distant relatives 'twice removed by marriage' types that you never see ever (except for weddings/funerals) OR when they hear there is some drama/gossip to be had! Then you happen to randomly bump into them & the not so subtle enquiring starts lol