Aibu or is DH an arsehole

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Away with friends for the weekend. DH started on the scotch before dinner (always bad news)

After dinner, he was being drunk and stupid, grabbing my neck and pulling me to kiss him. Then i would kiss him and he's say "urgh, too much teeth" (it was just a quick peck on the lips)

All quite annoying and a bit embarrassing so I then went to clear the table at which point he starts having a real go at me, saying he was just trying to be affectionate, and I needed to have a good look at myself, not to put this on him etc

It was all quite out of the blue and I felt it was quite aggressive so I was quite upset and tearful after, and resigned myself to bed as have been crying

I can hear him telling my friend downstairs that I was out of order (she was sticking up for me). But I don't think I've done anything wrong?!

All seems silly and unnecessary as I write this but I feel he was quite nasty to me and now is blaming me for getting upset. Aibu?

YANBU!

YANBU. You DH sounds like a dick.

Yes he's an arsehole-I'm being polite btw as I think he's much worse.

It’s not you, he’s an arsehole

Nope he's an arsehole, your friends will think did too I am sure

Obviously yanbu.

I don’t understand why you would think otherwise

He is drunk, he was rude and embarrassed himself, your guests and you.

So you kissed, he was an ass with his comment, you went to clear the table and now he's being a cockwomble about you to your friend?
Fuck that for a bag of Sunday's.
I would be telling him off he shall fuck outta the bed until he realises how much of an ass he was.
Is he always like this on scotch/drunk?

Sounds grim. Can you have a talk with the friend later and see what her take on it is. She obviously thinks that he is out of order and I'm sure she will have noticed other things too. You are not BU

Thanks you - that makes me feel better. Sort of!

He's a impolite fucker of a husband to be honest!

Hope you're ok ...

Any chance your friend would back you on what an obnoxious sod he is when he's been drinking? Much more convincing when it comes from someone else (irritatingly).

Does he do this often?

If he is always bad news when drinking Scotch does he know this and if so why does he do it?

He has been awful to you and embarrassed himself in front of your friends and made them feel uncomfortable, there is only one arsehole here and it is your husband.

I would be furious, I couldn't and wouldn't put up with that behaviour no matter how 'wonderful' he was at other times.

You know YANBU. You know he's a dick. You know you need and deserve more.

Put what on you? I don't understand, he wanted a kiss, got one, he complained it wasn't a good one, you went to clear the table. I fail to see what you've have done wrong?

He sounds like a total arsehole by the way. Is he this way sober?

what a vile DICK

He's a dick. He knows he is a dick. He knows that you know he is a dick. And now we all know he is a dick.

So, what are you gonna do about it?

My ExDH was a prick of the highest order with a drink in him. I dreaded social events or anything revolving around alcohol and would feel the dread rising the drunker he got. The relief of not putting up with his shit is truly liberating. Try it.

You know what they say about drunks and little children.

They say what is on their mind.

Your husband is an arsehole.

Charming.

What do you see in him?

YANBU. He is an arsehole. Why are you with him?

Nice. What do you mean by always bad news, does he have firm for being a complete dick?

he's acted like a twat!
He needs to be told he's acted like a twat and that you don't deserve to be with a twat!

And what an arsehole !!! I don't think you are being unreasonable at all OP you poor thing. How the hell can you put up with that treatment and at a friends house too, so humiliating for you !

Yawn.