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Don’t know what to do about TA and her behaviour

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:02

I work in a primary school in a lowly position. On two separate occasions I have seen a TA manhandle children in Year one, so children of five or six. She pulled one child off the ground by his wrist because he pushed into the queue and another child she pulled back by the hood of her coat when she turned away while the TA was telling her off.
Should I take this further?

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DyslexicNotThick · 02/02/2018 22:33

I wouldn't be surprised if it's easier that you are being malicious due to a personality clash. However you do have a duty to report this behaviour.

Check out your whistle blowing policy, that should point out the best route and the support you should receive. Make sure you start keeping a log of anything relevant for evidence of needed further down the road.

youngnomore · 02/02/2018 22:35

Doesn’t matter what they think of you. They have to be reported.

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:35

They think I am too soft with the children, I am a lunchtime supervisor, so it’s like they discount what i say, as I am a pushover in their opinion.
I cuddle (side cuddle only) children who are crying and I play with them.
Yes I think there is a culture of unkindness and fear. I have mentioned this previously.

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:37

I have written down both times.

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PurpleDaisies · 02/02/2018 22:37

Written down and passed it on?

JoeyMaynardssolidlump · 02/02/2018 22:38

What’s your position in the school?

Peachplum60 · 02/02/2018 22:39

Yes you need to report this. This could be my child or your child/gran child. This need to be know it's not tolerated. If you report to the head and nothing is done, then report it to someone higher than the head. Not sure who, governors?

JoeyMaynardssolidlump · 02/02/2018 22:39

Oh sorry seem your post

Yes tel the head.

I was a TA and reporters other TA for being rough. Not acceptable

Peachplum60 · 02/02/2018 22:40

Thank God there is still some good people op. Please don't turn a blind eye to this.

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:40

What happened Joey?
How were they rough?

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:40

Written but not passed on

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:41

I won’t peach. It is bloody heartbreaking working there

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PurpleDaisies · 02/02/2018 22:41

When did these incidents happen?

Originalfoogirl · 02/02/2018 22:42

Are you really asking this question? Of course you report it.

PurpleDaisies · 02/02/2018 22:43

It is quite worrying that this is the second thread in less than a week where someone who really ought to know better appears to have had no safeguarding training.

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:43

A couple of weeks ago. No more.

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:44

Me or th TA purple? or both?

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chocolateworshipper · 02/02/2018 22:45

You must have had safeguarding training, so you must know that you have an obligation to report. Report the facts, with no emotion and don't offer an opinion and you will have absolutely done the right thing.

JoeyMaynardssolidlump · 02/02/2018 22:46

She pulled one child by the arm hard and to br honest my dd now 18 has told me she was rough with her. For the job at her first school snd was totally ready to give this TA benefit if the dought.

No no no she was rough with the kids and it was sweet revenge reporting her. A bully

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:47

Ok. Thank you, I will.

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:48

What happened Joey?

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CisMyArse · 02/02/2018 22:52

I reported a TA about 7 years ago. She was popular amongst the support staff and I was a relative newcomer. I saw her twice yank a child to their feet and push one child to the floor at home time. I felt sick and comforted the pushed child until she was called to go home.

I went immediately to the Head teacher's office to shakily make an official complaint and she took it seriously. Next day, I was interviewed by someone from the education authority and when I left the room, the TA I accused was waiting to be interviewed and saw me leaving.

Yes I was nervous, yes I felt guilty that someone would lose their job but the guilt didn't last long when I realised that she'd bullied a child - could have been mine or yours - a child
Utterly bewildered, hurt and frightened by an adult that should have shown more care.

Report OP. Report.

PurpleDaisies · 02/02/2018 22:53

I was referring to you rick. How can you not know you immediately report that sort of behaviour to thr safeguarding lead?

Peachplum60 · 02/02/2018 22:56

@CisMyArse I would of been furious if I witnessed that. I would of called the police on her and rightly so. Thank God you reported her. To many people turn a blind eye until it happens to their child and it will if this just keeps getting brushed under the carpet.

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RickOShay · 02/02/2018 22:58

It’s horrible. I did comfort both children immediately afterwards. But I feel sick at the thought of reporting her, I did have a meeting with the headteacher the next day, but I bottled it, There is so much wrong at that school i could write an essay.

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