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Skinny dip gone too far? Or spot on? You decide

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rocketgirl22 · 02/02/2018 14:36

Following another thread,

Call me old fashioned and may be I am I freely admit abit of an old prude - I blame my strict girls school. My dd just turned 12 was given this wonderful gift for her birthday.

www.skinnydiplondon.com/search?q=f*ck+it

All of her friends have been into skinny dip from top shop since they were 10 years old and upwards and the market is largely aimed at pre teen/early teens so why this??

The phone cover just takes the bloody biscuit!

Would you send your child out with this tat?

We were stunned when she opened it, and it was passed around. Granny spat out her tea and visibly blanched, my youngest sniggered having added that to her growing vocabulary that day.
Later we spent an agonising twenty minutes trying to find the right words for the thank you cards.

How is this ever acceptable??

And why haven't the daily mail picked up on this very useful piece of evidence that britain has indeed reached sewer level (they are never there when we actually need them!)

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pictish · 02/02/2018 16:05

I’m with you Captain - I can’t get a steam up over this. It wouldn’t be an obvious or first choice for a 12 year old’s present...but if one of their mates bought it...meh.

In other news, it’s quite nice to know that simple swearing still has the power to offend. I was afraid it had lost its magic these days but clearly not.

CaptainCardamom · 02/02/2018 16:07

Yes actually from the thread title I was expecting it to something to do with skinniness, which I would have had more of a problem with – maybe that's partly why I see this as less of an issue.

HappyFeet1212 · 02/02/2018 16:11

This thread is quite funny, en masse indignation at the use of the word 'fuck' ...which is exactly the point of its' usage.

Also disappointed that that this is not about naked swimming, I'm going to complain to MN for a misleading thread title and the I'm asking for it to be deleted.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 02/02/2018 16:13

I wouldn’t be too impressed with a gift like this, but it’s exactly the sort of ‘edgy’ thing a 12/13 year old would buy for a friend!

Would I buy it as a gift for pre-teen? No.
Would I allow a child of mine to have one of these items? Also no.
Would I roll my eyes but still allow them to keep it? Yes.

gateto · 02/02/2018 16:16

Definitely inappropriate for a 12 year old, but skinny dip is not aimed at preteen ages it is aimed at an older teen/young adult age range and has become one of these brands that preteens think is cool and makes them seem mature/older.
Take it away and give it back to her when shes 17/18, you never know, it might even be considered 'retro' by then! Wink

fruitbrewhaha · 02/02/2018 16:19

In my youth I would take skinny dipping too far.............

Leonard1 · 02/02/2018 16:20

I remember the FCUK t shirts but this is different as it is a not been given to an adult as a gift. Inappropriate full stop. No.

gateto · 02/02/2018 16:21

also is it the no fuck boys phone case she was gifted? a fuck boy is a boy who messes you around/doesn't text back/bit of a player, so maybe they are thinking more of girl power and forgetting how inappropriate the language is for their age!

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rocketgirl22 · 02/02/2018 16:21

I am not going to be sending my dd to a swiss finishing school any time soon, nor do I expect her never to utter an expletive in her life, but I still would not want her walking around with a fuck it key 'charm' or the dreaded phone case.

Swearing is still deeply offensive to most older people (and some young people too of course) I am not sure she would ever be invited back to most of her friend's houses if she rocked up with this, particularly the ones with very young children that can read but are very young.

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WankStainWasher · 02/02/2018 16:22

I am a proper Sweary McPottymouth sometimes, but not in public where I could a) offend someone and b) make myself look bad.
I don't like anyone wearing something in public with swearing on it and certainly not a pre-teen!
As a parent, you have done the right thing by stepping in and removing the item. You as an adult understand how certain unsavoury people would view a little girl with that kind of clothing/accessory.
Young people will think it's 'cool' to have things like this, without understanding the wider ramifications of how they will appear to the outside world.
I'll never forget when I was 12/13 and really, really wanted to buy a (completely inappropriate) funny t-shirt. My father said absolutely no way (he rarely did that) and I'm so glad he did. I cringe when I imagine if I'd worn that shirt to school! I didn't fully understand the message on the shirt and how it would be seen by others, but he did.

So, you're not a prude or old-fashioned....you are doing your job as a parent. Smile

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rocketgirl22 · 02/02/2018 16:26

gateto

I think it is offensive at any age pretty much, I wouldn't feel any better seeing a 38 year bloke sporting one.

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BettyBettyBetty · 02/02/2018 16:27

I'm with you OP. Totally inappropriate!

chipscheeseandcurrysauce · 02/02/2018 16:28

I love it, just ordered myself one.

Redisthemagicolour · 02/02/2018 16:34

I have a 13 year old dd. No way I would let her have any of this. Horrible. Actually horrible at any age. Just why???

JacquesHammer · 02/02/2018 16:39

I’d find it difficult to get worked up over it.

I also wouldn’t bin it. Exchange it if you want.

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rocketgirl22 · 02/02/2018 16:41

chips

Well someone has got to!! I can't imagine it is flying off the shelves myself Grin

happyfeet

I can rehash the gift as an intelligence inducing, thought provoking pre teen gift designed to stimulate vocabulary. Hey perhaps John Lewis will start stocking it soon!

I am glad it is just not me though, seriously, I am not the cool mother and never will be by any stretch so I did wonder what the response might be on MN.

By my count, it is not scoring that well even with those that love good swear word or two!

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RhinestoneCowgirl · 02/02/2018 16:46

This is disappointing, I thought this thread was going to be about swimming.

Ohyesiam · 02/02/2018 16:57

I like a swear. Unless it's swearing at someone, which I hate to hear and don't do , it's aggressive.
BUT id hate to see a young teen, or pre teen with this.

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rocketgirl22 · 02/02/2018 16:59

This is Mumsnet rhinestone Wink

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str3 · 31/08/2018 15:30

Skinny dip needs to reprimanded as they are aiming their products at the ages 12 about 24. And last night my daughter was looking at the site and they have numerous cards and books with vile language on the covers. With products labelled 'fresh out of fcks pen' the pan itself has the u where the star is. But the product label (that would come up in a search when parental controls are on and stop the sight given the vile language) bypasses the filter. This is a deliberate ploy by the retailer and pushing inappropriately branded products with poor language. 12 year old searching for their tat will be seeing cards with the caption 'Ffuck it eat cake on the cover
.. but the full spelling and bitch cards and many pushing alcohol as cool. The age group they are pushing their products for do not need that language or encouragement to degrade themselves and think using bad language is 'cool.

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