If you have a DH/DP, do you like to sit and chill with them in the evening?

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I'm just asking because I kind of don't!

DH and I get on very well...we do things together such as long walks and going on antique and junk shop binges....and to friend's for dinner etc but in the evening, after we've walked the dog and talked....after we've had dinner and talked....I.prefer to sit on my own!

I like messing around on MN or other sites or watching shit on Netflix.

We.always watch Rupaul's Drag Race if that;s on but other than that, my downtime is really MY downtime.

What about you and your other half?

We sit and watch TV together but if he's watching football or some mafia based documentary then I toddle off to MN or read, same if I'm watching some exercise/food guff, as he calls it, he'll play darts in the garage or use internet or read. We watch most things together. Currently enjoying The Crown.

DP and I have a chat when I get home, and all sit down as a family together in the evening and at breakfast. After I have down the dinner, got kids to bed and settled the baby I tend to find DP is either watching something terrible on vintage TV (think "good old days" and stuff I have no interest in!) or listening to Smooth Radio (again, not especially my cup of tea!) So I watch Amazon TV on the kitchen sofa - so I can watch my preferred programmes (which he also hates!). After being surrounded by children and noise all day (work in a school) I need the alone time to recharge - am a huge introvert apparently! As long as both sides happy - YANBU

We usually put the children to bed and sit and watch TV together by 7.30pm. I love to watch box sets and Netflix series and films with DH because we like the same things and enjoy discussing them. Sometimes DH will want to watch a football game though and I’ll either go on MN, read or have an early night.

May as well not live together.

Trust me, I've had the odd fantasy about moving into the flat across the hall

We were long distance for the first year of our relationship and only saw each other at weekends. While I love the bones of him, I sometimes miss having those few days entirely to myself to do as I please

It's usually about 50/50 for us. Half of the week including weekend we have dinner and sit together catching up on tv or a watching a film. The other half we have dinner (we almost always eat together) and then we sit together but I'll be reading and he'll be watching sport or something.

On other evenings he might have football training or I might have arranged to go and see a friend but that's only once a week or so unless we have plans with our own friends on a weekend such as a rare night out.

Yes, most evenings. He's often tired during the week after work, so he tends to just want to chill. That's ok with me. I have a midweek night out with friends twice a month but the rest of the time we tend to spend weeknights together.

I do think my DH would probably like more time alone. Not necessarily from me but we have teen DDs and I think he craves peace as by the time he gets home we are normally all here. I only work mornings so I get that down time now. He often goes on his turbo trainer for an hour if stressed and is always better company after!!

Sometimes...
So occasionally we'll say "let's do dinner and film on tuesday..."
Sometimes "I have work to do so can we just watch some telly at 9:30..."

We spend about half of the evenings that he's in together. The others, I might have a bath or just be reading or watching something by myself. The three evenings he's out I've earmarked as my time to study so I get antsy if I don't have any time to myself to just potter around and do what I want to.

We do chill together......usually one on each sofa. He manspreads but I womanspread and thus deserve the bigger sofa, though sometimes I have to share it with the dog

Maybe in the early years of our marriage but after 20+ years together I do like a bit of space. He usually spends Saturday night with me when the kids are at grandmas!! Plus we have two living spaces so one room is mine and the other is his and the kids!!

DH and I both retired this year. Initially found it hard to adjust tbh as I’m not used to having so much free time and he’s always “there” That was never the case when we were both working. We have common interests and common friends and socialise quite a bit ..but..there are times when I just need my own space..normally I go into another room and occupy myself with the telly, laptop, whatever or, if the weathers nice, disappear into the garden for a couple of hours. He does the same..I think it’s very healthy to have your own time and space. I would much prefer my DH to spend time alone or with friends, than resent me being in his face 24/7. I am sure he feels the same.

It is very rare for us to sit together.
We both have jobs that sometimes involve us working at home in the evenings. We both volunteer and are out quite often with hbbies etc., so, when we do get an evening to sit and watch tele, I like to watch the stuff I really wasnt to catch up on, not the crap stuff he likes, and vice versa.
It's fine. We've been married donkeys years. We all (as a family) catch up over the evening meal, for 'chat', sorting diaries . sharing news or experiences etc.

After our DD is in bed we do separate things (watching TV, reading etc) but at half 9 every night we get into bed and put on a movie or talk.

The only night that is different is a Friday night, he stays up late watching sports and i will catch up on my 'rubbish/trash' tv from that week.

It works well for us as we have 'alone' time every night but also spend time together and catch up on each others day.

We're usually too knackered to speak to each other really.

We sit together, but do our own thing really. Sometimes we'll make a remark about what we're doing, or read something funny.

Yes,we both really enjoy spending time together,especially in the evenings once the 5DC are all in bed.

We'll either cuddle up on the sofa and watch some tv or a horror movie with some supper or a take-away or we might both be reading or we might both be on our laptops.But we'll still be sitting with each other and I'll share things I find with him online what I know he'll find funny or interesting and he does the same with me.

I think as long as your on the same page(wanting to sit with one another or not)or you can both compromise then it doesn't matter what way you spend your evenings,together or apart what ever works.

Yes it's one of my favourite parts of the day. After the kids are in bed and house is tidy we just lie on the couch while watching telly, light some candles and have tea. Then we'll usually end up cuddling or giving each other a massage or something. That said, it does annoy me when I want some peace in the bath and he keeps popping in.

It depends. We don't have much of a routine, really. Sometimes we watch stuff together on tv, sometimes having discussions, sometimes we're together but doing separate stuff, sometimes we are apart doing separate stuff. I like variety!

I am the butt of his jokes because while is downstairs, watching a movie or playing a game, I'm asleep before nine. I normally go to sleep when DD does and fall asleep 10 minutes after her. I'm useless in the evenings and DH knows it so he doesn't even try to plan anything for late evenings.

Pre kids wasn’t that bothered

Now have tween and teen with 9-10 pm bedtime

Teen at 10pm is usually in his room so we spend 9-10pm watching telly together

And go to bed at the same time and chat then

It’s our only time without the DC around

He sits drawing, I sit studying, both watching a show we like and chatting. If he needs to concentrate ie application form he will go upstairs as he needs silence. I would find it odd if after dinner / toddler in bed we spent the next 3 hours in separate rooms

Yes, generally, though not every single night as a rule. My dh and I have fairly non-traditional careers, so we work random hours (both essentially self-employed or at least in my case, I plan my own work hours). So my dh does about an hour or maybe 1.5 hours of admin work in the evening after our dd has gone to bed. Sometimes I do a bit of work in the evening as well (less so now as I'm on mat leave). If that's the case, we might sit in separate rooms as he can do his work while watching tv, but I can't. Sometimes I just get busy doing something else and only join him in the lounge later. But I would say most nights, yes, we do at least sit in the same room, even if we're busy with other things and we can still talk to each other while doing whatever it is we need to do. But Friday and Saturday evenings we definitely spend the whole evening together without any work though. I think it probably depends though on if you have small children. We rarely get time alone to talk or do anything just the two of us, so our only time is in the evenings and so we do generally want to spend them together when we can.

In the evening we tend to have dinner together, then bath DS and put him to bed. We'll then usually watch an episode or two of whatever series we're watching. Then I'll go upstairs and watch something else he has no interest in, or read or do my nails/tan etc while he plays PlayStation.

I also need my me time. I really feel it if I don't get an hour or two entirely by myself in the evenings.