To think..

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that if a man who works fulltime 5 days a week 8-6 shouldn’t be expected to help around the house? That applies to the woman aswell if she was the main breadwinner and the man stayed home, I’d expect him to do all the housework and deal with the kids. If they both work they should share the housework, but if only one of them works and the other stays home I wouldn’t expect the one who works to do any housework during the week, but in the weekend when they’re both home I would expect the breadwinner to help out.

What do you guys think?

Um. I’m back at work now while my DH is taking a short career break and he’s finding it really hard to get any housework done with a toddler around. I struggled when I was doing it but didn’t make too much fuss as I was the one at home. Now the shoe is on the other foot he’s very very appreciative of everything I managed to get done while he was the one working. We are still trying to share the chores. I’m the one working now but I will get up with the kids, make breakfast, do the packed lunches and still do all the cooking because I know he’s the one who’s got to wash up and keep on top of the laundry and general cleaning and tidying during the day while I’m out. I will take charge of the childcare and chores over the weekend to give him a break. It should be a partnership. If one is struggling (like in any situation involving us as a family) the other will chip in and help. I certainly don’t think because one is working full time they have the harder job.

Firstly and journalists printing this are lazy dickheads.

Anyway.. Dd isn’t at school or nursery yet. DH gets a proper lunch break for an hour plus his 10 min shits.

I don’t even get to wee on my own. Dd shoved her finger in my houmous. She tried to help me with the laundry and snapped a bit off the tumble dry that I think had to spend half hour fixing. She threw a wobbly because I went to the kitchen to get her more blueberries at her request.

that if a man who works fulltime 5 days a week 8-6 shouldn’t be expected to help around the house?

YABU. I work full time, often longer hours than those.

When I'm home I want to be looking after the kids. I don't do much else on my busy days; but if I'm not doing paperwork, then I'm helping with something or we chill out together. I'm lucky that there are chunks of the year where I'm off- then it's 50:50.

A partnership doesn't mean you both have to do the SAME things, but you should both contribute pretty evenly.