To just want to bloody sleep without being woken up?!

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DP has a habit of waking me up if he wakes in the night. Doesn’t matter what time it is, if he’s awake, he’ll start telling me how much he loves me, how he’s looking forward to marrying me etc... all lovely things BUT I AM ASLEEP. He seems to expect a response too so I can’t even get away with ignoring him.

In isolation this would be fine (ish). But he also has a cold and is snoring like a bloody trooper!! As a result, last night he woke me up being all loving, promptly fell asleep and kept me awake for what felt like hours!

Three nights in a row I have been sleep deprived due to a combination of his affection, snoring and pregnancy related heartburn. WIBU to LTB? 😂

A couple of people have mentioned abusive tendencies. My now XH used to do this as a means of asserting some sort of control over me (I see this in hindsight). He was controlling and abusive in a very, very subtle way (although this of course escalated, as is often the case, but that is not relevant to this thread).

Not at all saying that this is the case here at all, it could be down to some MH issues, PTSD or other similar. Or just a plainly irritating habit. It's just that the title of the thread gave me instant flash backs to years of sleep disturbances. I now have a 3 year old who never sleeps through but that is something completely different.

Have the day time talk with him as other posters have suggested.

If dh wakes me up I usually go into the spare room.

If he falls asleep but your are still awake and he is snoring, wake him up every half hour to point out that you are still awake and he is still snoring which is stopping you from sleeping and it's not fair...

By the 6th time you have woken him up again he might start to realise how bad it is to be woken up when asleep (fire alarms and baby crying not withstanding).

If he loved you he wouldn’t deprive you of sleep. You can dismiss that if you like but it’s true.

You are PG so make it clear that you need your sleep and you CANNOT be woken up by him on a whim to want to tell you he loves you.
It can and should and from now on will, wait until the morning.
You need to be firm.
You really do need your sleep right now!

It is fucking rude to wake someone up in the middle of the night unless the house is on godamn fire, give him a little notepad & pen and tell him he can write his romantic thought down because NOONE WANTS TO HEAR THAT NONSENSE AT 2AM

(am disproportionately angry on your behalf!)

I suspect my DH does this occasionally. It's deeply inconsiderate.
I know sometimes I wake him because I snore, but rather than wake me I'd prefer he slept elsewhere! I've told him if he wakes me again I will go and sleep in the spare room.
Is this yours and your DP's first baby?

That would massively piss me off and I'd be telling him to shut the fuck up

What a twat.

Just smother him when he falls asleep tonight. Problem solved.

This is not loving or ‘misguided’, OP, it’s bordering on the abusive. What the fuck is he thinking, waking you up to tell you he loves you? If he loved you, he’d be considerate and let you sleep. That’s very bad behaviour on his behalf.