Need opinions. Separated from stbxh a year ago and made sure he saw ds5 and dd3 regularly. He had to move in with a family member so he saw the kids at my house and I left.
After around 6 months of regular contact, I got a phone call from him saying ds had hurt his arm and could I come home and have a look. (I'm a nurse). When I arrived he was screaming in pain and had very clearly dislocated his elbow. Took him to a&e who popped it back to normal. Stbxh said he had grabbed him to stop him falling off the sofa when playing and this had happened.
About a month later I discover a large, bleeding carpet burn on ds chest. Apparently this was the result of play fighting. I reminded stbxh to be careful.
A month after that stbxh told me that ds had wet himself just before bedtime. He said it was out of the blue and didn't know why, but when I asked ds, he said daddy had shouted at him for getting out of bed and scared him and he'd had an accident.
Fast forward to this week and I come back to another carpet burn on ds chest. More rough playing apparently. Stbxh got an earful but he never heeds my advice.
AIBU to think this is too many incidents after being repeatedly warned? I expect bruises and bumps in a child of his age but he very rarely has those, even when playing with friends, and it seems to happen a lot with his father. Scaring him into setting himself is another issue.
As DS had an asthma check up this week, his gp saw the burn and made a face. She said she'd have to make a note of it as she'd seen it.
AIBU to worry about leaving the children with stbxh? Am I being too protective or not taking this seriously enough.?