My PIL are very well meaning people who have successfully raised three children and my BIL and SIL are happy for them to babysit their kids. But I just can't bring myself to leave ds with them unsupervised.
- I don't trust FIL's driving. He got flustered by a driver speeding behind him one time and rolled his car into a ditch. He also got stopped by the police driving on the M1 with timber tied to the roof of his car with string.
- The only time I ever left ds with them, ds was a couple of months old and the only instruction I gave was that they should call me if ds woke up. They didn't.
- FIL and MIL have both tried to hand my ds (between the ages of 2 - 2.5) a mug of hot tea to carry across a room.
- FIL once handed my niece (aged 4) a glass of champagne and told her to drink it. She gulped a bit down before spitting/throwing it up.
- FIL held out a handful of his pills to show ds and said 'these are grandad's sweeties'.
- FIL will pick up ds and pretend to smack him on the bottom saying 'your a very naughty boy' or fake punch him saying 'pow', leaving ds looking confused/worries.
These are just some examples of what seem like pretty odd behaviour/lack of judgment to me. AIBU?
Totally PFB?