AIBU to tell my FB friend that he is embarrassing himself on Facebook?

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It's awful. He moved into the area a couple of years ago and seemed quite nice/hard working/ slightly alternative in his thinking and became matey with lots of our mutual friends.

He always struck me as a bit of a bull shitter to be honest and he smokes loads of canabis.

Over the years he has done a few things to make up my mind that I don't care much for him.

1. Had several people work for him and then a month or more after working them to the bone, he would say he has no funds to pay them leaving them in the shit.

Then Firing them.

1. He has a massive dog which he leaves at home on his own sometimes for days and nights without ever walking him. The dog had a patch on his knee that he was licking til it was red raw (I think) caused by stress.

1. Has had 3 girlfriends in the time that we've known him, some with their own kids which seems to leave his own two in the background.

1. The last woman he split up with, he spread rumours around our friendship group that she had stolen money from his business and really put him in a bad situation. This woman lives close by and ended up quite ostracised from the community because of his lies. (I was always friendly to her due to my misgivings about him)

1. This is the worst. He got engaged in the summer to a lovely woman and kept posting all these lovely Dovey pictures of them on FB. She moved in to his (rented) house and was about to sell her house to be with him, she lent him close to £1000 in this time. One day, he asked if she'd move out for a few days as he had so much work on. She did. He then dumped her by text and then immediately proclaimed his undying love for another woman and posted a photo of them together on Facebook.

1. Oh yeah. He did some work for a friend, over charged, turned up stinking of booze and made the job last much longer than it should have done.

He also uses lots of big words completely out of context and incorrectly. It's like he wants a following of disciples or something.

^ all of the above is none of my business I know. I do know that. It's just watching someone make this many massive mistakes in treating his dog, his kids, his women, his employees like shit is just quite unbelievable. I almost wonder if he is a sociopath.

Should I call him out on it?

He is about to move away to be with his new victim I don't know whether to warn his new gf not to lend him money, to stay well out of it or to write to him pointing out where he might be going wrong in life.

Here's an example of one of his FB bullshit tirades
Your so vein (hilarious spelling errors) you probably think this song is about you
Carly Simon
It's interesting how our psychological base programming makes us think stuff may not be real... Half the deal is figuring your own rationale or conscious or subconscious agendas and your social cultural environment.

Should I say something or just leave it? It's so hard not to take the piss bite at his BS FB posts.

Quietly unfollow him then block him then change your name.

Call RSPCA about his dog.

Why on earth are you Facebook friends with him?

Tbh, unless you get entertainment from watching the trainwreck, I'd take his relocation as a great chance to block him on FB and never give him another thought.

Oh yes OP please call the RSPCA about the poor dog

What Plate said. After that, leave him to it. You sound far too invested in his life, it's really none of your business.

I do sound invested mainly because he has fucked over many of my friends who are trusting and have fallen victim to his "charisma"
I will wait for him to move away then do as you've suggested and block him.

I'm not sure listening to your disapproval of him and all the reasons why, is going to make the tiniest jot of difference to him or his life, are you?

Like others said, call the RSPCA (although I'm assuming you've already done this), unfriend him and move on.

Reply on Facebook 'Stop spouting bollocks and go and walk your damn dog', then unfriend him and report him to the RSPCA.

I agree with PPs. Report to RSPCA. Otherwise ignore.
He won't listen to you, probably his new victim won't listen to you and likely he'd start spreading lies about you.

Thank you.

Why would you want anything to do with a person like that? He sounds disgusting

He became very entangled in our friendship group so it was unavoidable. I've never gone out of my way to be more than civil.

What sort of friendship group do you have op where you have tolerated this idiot for so long???

As everyone else has said what about the dog???

Women have a choice in getting entangled with him but the dog hasn't!

Of course you should tell anyone who will listen about him and yes, why not tell all his girlfriends? But it's the way you say it is key.

As they say, many a true word is said in jest....

Do you know him IRL OP or just FB? If it's just FB then delete and block, if IRL then avoid avoid avoid (and delete on FB!)

Block him, no more Yoghurt Weaving.

Um, what was the question?

I interpret it as AIBU to stay fb friends with him because I enjoy judging the drama

And if you are sure about the dog why didn't you report it

It's too outing to tell you why I've had to remain FB friends.
I hate that I'm being judgemental. I haven't judged out loud just in my head!
No one would know I find him so despicable!
But quite an unappealing quality of my own to be soo judgy.
Gonna just pull the plug on the FB when he leaves.

How in the world has any sane person been taken in by this doofus?

Unfortunately, if you say anything to him, he will target you as he has others.

But...you know what...people like him do need a kick in the rear end. You seem as if you really want to do something about it. Why don’t you do an anonymous letter like they do in those cozy mysteries and tell him what you told us, complete with cut out letters from magazines (none that you normally subscribe to of course), sans any identifying markers of the author (you). I would suggest even wearing those latex type dish gloves while you prepare and mail it as he sounds like the kind of person who would get the thing fingerprinted.

That should bring him down a notch. I wouldn’t have the nerve but if you dare....

And most importantly don’t tell a soul!

I don't understand how you can describe this person as a friend. He sounds awful and i agree report him to the RSPCA and block.

Sorry, I only got to number 4 before thinking it was all a load of immature drama and nonsense, from him for behaving like it and you for wasting any time at all thinking about it, getting involved in any way, or having such tossers for friends.
And call RSPCA about the dog. That's the worst one.

Friend meant in Facebook friend way.
Not friend as in actual friend.

Do not appear on his radar any more than you already have.

Seriously don’t. Become extremely boring and uninteresting to him. He sounds like one of those shit narcissists. Sometimes more dangerous than the clever proper ones.

Deep down he knows he looks ridiculous so he’s twice as angry already.

Run!