AIBU to tell my FB friend that he is embarrassing himself on Facebook?

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It's awful. He moved into the area a couple of years ago and seemed quite nice/hard working/ slightly alternative in his thinking and became matey with lots of our mutual friends.

He always struck me as a bit of a bull shitter to be honest and he smokes loads of canabis.

Over the years he has done a few things to make up my mind that I don't care much for him.

1. Had several people work for him and then a month or more after working them to the bone, he would say he has no funds to pay them leaving them in the shit.

Then Firing them.

1. He has a massive dog which he leaves at home on his own sometimes for days and nights without ever walking him. The dog had a patch on his knee that he was licking til it was red raw (I think) caused by stress.

1. Has had 3 girlfriends in the time that we've known him, some with their own kids which seems to leave his own two in the background.

1. The last woman he split up with, he spread rumours around our friendship group that she had stolen money from his business and really put him in a bad situation. This woman lives close by and ended up quite ostracised from the community because of his lies. (I was always friendly to her due to my misgivings about him)

1. This is the worst. He got engaged in the summer to a lovely woman and kept posting all these lovely Dovey pictures of them on FB. She moved in to his (rented) house and was about to sell her house to be with him, she lent him close to £1000 in this time. One day, he asked if she'd move out for a few days as he had so much work on. She did. He then dumped her by text and then immediately proclaimed his undying love for another woman and posted a photo of them together on Facebook.

1. Oh yeah. He did some work for a friend, over charged, turned up stinking of booze and made the job last much longer than it should have done.

He also uses lots of big words completely out of context and incorrectly. It's like he wants a following of disciples or something.

^ all of the above is none of my business I know. I do know that. It's just watching someone make this many massive mistakes in treating his dog, his kids, his women, his employees like shit is just quite unbelievable. I almost wonder if he is a sociopath.

Should I call him out on it?

He is about to move away to be with his new victim I don't know whether to warn his new gf not to lend him money, to stay well out of it or to write to him pointing out where he might be going wrong in life.

Here's an example of one of his FB bullshit tirades
Your so vein (hilarious spelling errors) you probably think this song is about you
Carly Simon
It's interesting how our psychological base programming makes us think stuff may not be real... Half the deal is figuring your own rationale or conscious or subconscious agendas and your social cultural environment.

Should I say something or just leave it? It's so hard not to take the piss bite at his BS FB posts.

The dog is the stand out thing - pease report him.

I certainly would not be friends, Facebook or otherwise.

1. If any friends are thinking of working for him, warn them.

1. Report dog to RSPCA

1. If single female friends show an interest in him, warn them.

1. If you hear those lies, just say loudly, "I've heard that is totally untrue."

1. Hope that poor woman got her money back!

1. Hope he didn't get paid for the work.

"He also uses lots of big words completely out of context and incorrectly. It's like he wants a following of disciples or something." Stop reading his BS!

He is not making "... many massive mistakes" he is abusing his dog, abusing women he comes into contact with and abusing people who work for him and who he works for.

"I almost wonder if he is a sociopath." I tend to agree.

"He is about to move away to be with his new victim I don't know whether to warn his new gf not to lend him money, to stay well out of it or to write to him pointing out where he might be going wrong in life."

I think I would warn her. But she may not believe you.

Quietly block him in FB and breathe a sign of relief that he’s moving away.

Your friends are all adults. They are presumably in possession of the same information you are. They can make up their own minds.

Do not post anything to him about walking the dog. It's not as if will make him do it, and it'll give the game away that you tipped off the RSPCA.

Ring the RSPCA. Include the info that he's moving soon.

Send some kind of anonymous message to his new girlfriend. She probably won't believe it but you'll have tried. I really wouldn't allow him to trace anything back to you though.

Thanks all. I've decided to email his next victim when he's left because she's a single mum homeowner and vulnerable to his ways.

And have you reported him to the RSPCA?

Don't email!!
She (and he) will then have your email address.

Just leave well alone.
I don't think it will benefit anyone, though you might feel better for having 'done something, it's not really about you.

I would unfollow on fb for now and distance as much as you can

Have you reported him to the RSPCA?

Have you reported him to the RSPCA?

Okay so you clearly don't want to step away from his drama, but have you called the rspca??

Why haven’t you called RSPCA? You keep avoiding the question... fair enough stay in his bullshit if it entertains you. I can understand emailing the woman but I just don’t know if it’s the right thing to do. She may take it badly and he will find out. I’d just block, ignore and put it behind me.

Ehhhh... < enter obvious RSPCA post here >

He is an awful person but there is no point pointing that out to him because people like him don't turn round and say "You know, you are right. I'm an awful person".

Stay out of his relationships because your meddling will do no good. Adults can make up their own minds and why would any woman dump someone based on a random email from a stranger.

There is one thing that it is important that you take action on. His dog is innocent and is completely dependent on him. Dogs need people to stick up for them. Focus on helping his dog. Ring the RSPCA. If you can't or won't, then tell someone who will take on that responsibility.

Was he not prosecuted for exploitation and theft over the long hours and not paying
his staff. He does know that's illegal, right.
Also was he not prosecuted for animal cruelty of his poor dog.
Unfortunately he can't be prosecuted over doing his girlfriend out of 1k, as unfortunately if it's not a signed agreement
It's illegal not to pay it back.
I know one thing though. She has certainly dodged a bullet.

I'm not condoning violence so please do not shoot the messenger, but I wouldnt be surprised if his antics see him on the receiving end of someone's fist. There are people out there who won't stand for being taken for a mug and unfortunately talk with their fists. Like I said I don't condone it, but At the same time you cant be going around exploiting people and treating them like idiots
He sounds an arse hole both IRL and on Facebook.

He is obviously a wankstain but you can't police his life or the people in it. I agree with PPs, report him to the RSPCA because the dog is dependent and can't make the decision to leave. But don't go out of your way to insert yourself between him and the girlfriend. If you happen to meet socially and she opens the conversation, maybe then.

I actually think I might know this guy!I hope there isn't more than one - the "you're so vein..." thing clicked.

You wouldn't be the first to RSPCA about the poor dog though

Please definitely report him to the RSPCA. He sounds terrible and like someone you wouldn't want to know. Block him.

RSPCA RSPCA RSPCA!!!!!!!!!

Oh my word I'd say I know this guy if it weren't for the fact that he's recently deleted his fb account, I think because too many people had got wise to his bullshit.

He was (is) a compulsive liar (I've known him a long time, he forgets that and contradicts his life history when telling it to others), grandiose, arrogant and definitely a narcissist and sociopath. He used to post long diatribes on fb as if he were some kind of guru and we were all hanging on his every word or waiting to find out his opinion on something.

I used to just have a laugh to myself at him and I now wonder where he's going to pop up next because he's gone to ground.

Don't say anything to him - these people cannot take criticism or ever be wrong but can be astoundingly vindictive. You're opening yourself up to attack if you let him know you've figured him out. If you write to his new woman she won't believe you because he will be love-bombing her with soulmate tripe and she'll think he's the love of her life. Or he'll lie about you and claim you're a jealous ex.

Stay out of it and be glad he's moving on to peddle his bullshit elsewhere.

Oh but yes - RSPCA re the dog for sure.

wtf - he sounds mad. Call RSPCA. Block. Unfriend. What a wierd guy.

Report to RSPCA, and if you do choose to email, then create an anonymous one so your own email doesn't get linked, to reduce any later problems.

Did you contact the RSPCA?

Really hoping you've called the RSPCA. That should be your priority that poor poor dog.