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Fucking weirdest situation ever with housemate

78 replies

OhHeyArnold · 30/01/2018 22:23

I had had a horrible day at work and she kindly made me dinner. Stomach churning and feeling sick, I had a few bits but didn’t want to hurt her feelings. Then found a hair baked into it and felt even worse but obviously didn’t want to say anything. Thanked her profusely and took rest to my room to finish off...

Thanked her again on faceache today and said I had finished it. Big mistake but my mind is on other things right now. And didn’t want to hurt her feelings. She then asks if there’s any leftover (from my plate! It was a small portion of vegetable stew with rice!) then she would like to have it so can I put it in the fridge for her. I then repeat I have finished.

I’m in my room exhausted and she knocks twice asking how I am (but also to look for the plate I assume?!) - I awkwardly suggest we go downstairs but she clocks and asks me to put it in the fridge, and says she will eat it?! I say again I will and then she says I don’t have to lie! I awkwardly apologise and say it was delicious but my appetite had gone and I didn’t want to hurt her feelings.

We then make awkward small talk while she spoons it into a small Tupperware tub.

I make myself a cup of tea and return to my room, not knowing what the fuck just happened. All this drama over a plate of food! I do realise I was in the wrong but I’m about to be fucking sacked from my job and then this happens. I’m not in the mood Sad

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hesterton · 30/01/2018 22:47

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Lashalicious · 30/01/2018 22:55

I think you need to find a new roommate asap.

Lashalicious · 30/01/2018 22:55

Until then, make your own food.

Original poster
OhHeyArnold · 30/01/2018 22:58

We’re actually friends 😭😭 Am I in the wrong?!?

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UpstartCrow · 30/01/2018 23:03

No, she's being weird, dont be afraid to question the friendship.

FurCoatFurKnickers · 30/01/2018 23:05

Then found a hair baked into it

It was a small portion of vegetable stew with rice

She bakes her stews?

That makes her weird irrespective of the leftovers.

BulletFox · 30/01/2018 23:12

Just focus on work, sounds like there's a lot going on (and that your flatmate is a bit odd).

SleepIsForTheWeek · 30/01/2018 23:28

Sounds like a load of fuss about nothing OP, if she wants to eat food that's been left overnight then yes that's weird but not worth falling out over.

feska5 · 30/01/2018 23:33

She is very strange. Also she’s going to risk food poisoning eating rice that’s been sitting festering all night.

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 30/01/2018 23:34

Then found a hair baked into it

So grim. And yes, weird.

RaySwan · 30/01/2018 23:35

Maybe she’d tapered with it and wanted to destroy the evidence Hmm

MrsMaxwell · 30/01/2018 23:35

Sorry but this has just made me cry with laughter.

It’s so odd Grin

GetUpAndGoGone · 30/01/2018 23:42

If it were me and roles were reversed, I wouldn’t have fucking brought it up back up If you do bring it back up I'd hide it or she'll be having that too.

Loonoonow · 30/01/2018 23:58

She does sound odd, and intense. Is she particularly hard up or does she have some sort of eating disorder?

Greensleeves · 31/01/2018 00:00

She's dangerouslt infatuated with you. The hair was put there deliberately. She wanted to know you'd eaten it so that she would know there was a piece of her inside you.

Put a padlock on your knicker drawer, op.

Zerosugaroption · 31/01/2018 00:02

Green sleeves is bang on the money there.

UnRavellingFast · 31/01/2018 00:02

oh god time for a new flatmate. She sounds weird, over-intense and bloody hard work. Urgh. I've had friends like this when I was young and it is not worth it and will never be worth it with someone like that. Cut loose! On the upside if daily fail picks this up, your problem's solved :D

LeekSoup · 31/01/2018 00:04

Weird and grim.

UnRavellingFast · 31/01/2018 00:04

oh yes and check your cupboard before you go to sleep in case she's waiting in there to burst out and declare her pain / undying passion / fury / vengeance over your rejection of her hairy food argh!

pallisers · 31/01/2018 00:10

I once dated a guy whose mother was absolutely obsessive about finishing food and leftovers. I went for dinner there. Unfortunately before I went he had told me that she scraped food from his plate - not an uneaten steak but tiny bit of leftover mashed potato or a few peas to store for reuse. He also told me she would literally get angry if we left anything on our plates.

It was the worst dinner I've ever eaten (and I've been served lambs tongues curling up with tastebuds intact out of a stew). I couldn't help thinking who had had a go at my food before it was reused onto my plate and then the pressure to finish everything ...

we didn't last long.

lastnamefirstfirstnamelast · 31/01/2018 00:13

What a weird yet fascinating thread. Sounds like an ED or obsession with food.

An ex friend of mine when we were about 18 found some chips and congealed gravy in a polystyrene tray, half eaten left on a bench....she picked it up and started eating them....fucking weird.

lololove · 31/01/2018 00:13

Ugh some people are so draining it's not worth it - she sounds like one of them!

weetabix07 · 31/01/2018 00:19

What @lololove said. Times a million if you live with them.

Zerosugaroption · 31/01/2018 00:28

I don’t get eating leftovers beyond hoovering up a couple of the kid’s chicken nuggets.

We ate with a family on holiday and they scraped ALL our plates into a big Tupperware box and announced they’d reuse it the next day. Scraps, from dinner for 10. Bleugh

Italiangreyhound · 31/01/2018 00:35

" I do realise I was in the wrong" You are not remotely in the wrong. She made you food and you couldn't eat it and you told a little lie to save her feelings. End of.

Next time she offers to cook for you just say you are full already.

If she brings it up again just say you think you've talked about a plate of food long enough!

Hope you feel better soon.

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