To want minimum noise when my baby sleeps

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Am I making a rod for my own back as her Dad claims? And are we not going to be able to take her anywhere?

I'm talking about things like avoidable noisy door closing, clattering of cutlery or crockery, tv being on loud (I can easily hear most things on 29 but her dad has it on 42 which is nearly unbearable for me).

Baby is 5 months and I do 100% of childcare (he has fed her about twice this year, changed her about twice and never put any money towards a single item for her ever), so he is thoroughly unaffected if she wakes at any point. During night feeds if her dad is up (due to being out late) then he will talk loudly and unnecessarily, to the point our daughter (who normally never opens her eyes during night feed) stopped feeding to glare at him.

I believe he does it on purpose as I've repeatedly asked him to quieten down please, but he always says the above statements.

Is he right? I just don't want to make her suffer unnecessarily, and it's me who will face the consequences of her being woken up.

There's a reason for the saying slept like a baby. However it looks like you're in an unsatisfying relationship.

Regarding noise, some babies are light sleepers others are deep sleepers. Just like adults. All this "getting them used to noise" is bollocks IMHO and parents who think they "created" a good sleeper probably had one to start with.

Regarding your OH, what everyone else said. Sorry.

Blimy TheLegendofBeans .

Just not convinced the OP is going to do anything positive but really hope she does.

I think they need to be used to sleeping in what is normal evening noise for your household. You don’t want to limit what you can do because baby is sleeping. However unusual/excessive noise should be discouraged from others and it’s a fair point to make if you’re the one stuck dealing with an unhappy baby.

Another one saying leave him OP. You'll solve your manchild problem and your noise problem all in one go!

Some regular noise is ok I think but it doesn't need to be excessive. This is where some common sense comes into play. Moving about, watching tv at a reasonable level, pottering in the kitchen are ok but talking loudly beside the baby while it's sleeping and slamming doors just defeats the point and of putting the baby down for a sleep