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to expect neighbour to return my ds's toys from accross the fence and not keep them for her child!

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melminx · 29/04/2007 16:43

My dc jump on the trampoline with their footballs and a few have gone into next doors garden this has been going on for over a year now. If we go ask for them she sometimes opens door and returns them but most of time she ignores us. Then i have to deal with my 2 ds asking me to get there stuff back from next door which they can clearly see her ds playing with from their bedrooms. I know she is a single mum on benefits even tho bf is around constantly but not reason to take what doesnt belong to her. If dc threw cat poop over would she keep that?? i dont think so.

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Blondelle · 29/04/2007 16:46

well, i think its her right to keep it tbh. I'd be fed up of next doors footballs always in my garden for a year as well.

Why dont you tell your kids not to take footballs on the trampoline as its creating a nusiance next door.

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joash · 29/04/2007 16:48

For a start, its not her place to return the items but it is yours to either call round for them or better still STOP your kids from throwing them over. I'd be really peed off if I was her and this was a regular thing. And that attitude re' her being a single mum on benefits - WTF!!!

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saadia · 29/04/2007 16:48

my dss were actually throwing stuff into next door's garden - I just told them that anything that goes over there is not ours anymore and they will never get it back. Seems to have done the trick.

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speccy · 29/04/2007 16:50

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colditz · 29/04/2007 16:52

Yes, you have top watch us single mums on benefits, we are known thieves. that's why security guards are right to follow us around while we shop with our friends, and that's why you are right to assume that she is keeping your children's misplaced items because she is a single mum on benefits, not because continually clearing your garden of a neighbour's toys is irritating, in any way.

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edam · 29/04/2007 16:52

agree, you should stop your kids throwing stuff into her garden, it's rude. She's not running a storage facility for you! And single parenthood and benefits have nothing to do with the subject, or you, for that matter. Keep your nose out of her business and your toys out of her garden.

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speccy · 29/04/2007 16:53

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melminx · 29/04/2007 16:53

my ds' are 3 and 4 1/2 with eldest being deaf as a post and they have thrown their balls over because the poor child has nothing. they dont throw them daily its happened about 8 times in year hardly regular. and it isnt done puposely.
joash i used to be a single mum so WTF yourself!

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colditz · 29/04/2007 16:54

Why are this woman's benefits in any way relevant to your issue with her?

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motherinferior · 29/04/2007 16:54

Given how fed up I get (I work from home) with taking the neigbours' deliveries that would be a yes.

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SparklyGothKat · 29/04/2007 16:55

its a good job you don;t live next to me, as any balls that come over and aren't 'rescued' straight away, get ripped to pieces by my dog. I have had to rescue many a ball.

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colditz · 29/04/2007 16:55

how are they throwing them over "Because the poor child has nothing" if it "Isn't done purposely"?

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speccy · 29/04/2007 16:55

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edam · 29/04/2007 16:56

If you used to be a single mum yourself, why are you using the term as evidence that your neighbour is somehow less worthy than you?

And what on earth are you on about, anyway? First you say your kids are throwing the balls accidentally (or give that impression), now you seem to be saying they are throwing the balls because her kids have no toys. Which one is it?

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littlelapin · 29/04/2007 16:56

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melminx · 29/04/2007 16:56

ok she is a single mum who is also a drunk she has her kid out till 3 in the morning whilst talking to her bf friends who sit outside drinking beer. The fact is we dont knock till after 4 as we know she wont be out of bed. im not some stuck up cow down on single mothers i used to be one and was for 5 years but hubby and i work hard to give our kids the best she can afford things for her child but prefers to buy cans of stella. Most of her windows are smashed from rows with her bf.

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mrsflowerpot · 29/04/2007 16:57

You could always try to make sure they don't go over there in the first place...

sorry, but I would be fed up with you after a year and probably wouldn't be in any hurry to return them either.

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speccy · 29/04/2007 16:57

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colditz · 29/04/2007 16:58

Ok, I do actually see your point, but how is this relevant to getting your balls back? You need to tell your children if they go into her garden they are lost forever, as clearly you aren't going to get them back.

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littlelapin · 29/04/2007 16:59

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melminx · 29/04/2007 17:00

the kids have thrown the ball a couple of times because the little boy has asked have told 3yo not to. and from now on rather than picking up all the fag butts that come over i shall just throw them back over to be neighbourly!

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edam · 29/04/2007 17:03

Glad I don't live in your street, tbh.

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melminx · 29/04/2007 17:05

we live in a cul de sac and most of the neighbours have tried getting her out because she is so loveable.

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NotlookingGood · 29/04/2007 17:06

What a load of Bollox,

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speccy · 29/04/2007 17:07

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