To have time off after finding out about affair?

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So it’s been two weeks since my world imploded. I’ve had a weekend away at my sisters and H and I are trying to work through but...
I’m struggling emotionally especially at work, I can’t concentrate and feel very tearful. WOuld it be unreasonable to go to the dr and get myself signed off for a week. I’ve never done that before and the idea is alien but I feel panicked and scared and I’m not coping putting on a brave face

Oh do it definitely, that's a very genuine reason, look after yourself

You can self certificate for 7 days first.

Do that then go to the GP for further time off.

Take care.

Totally reasonable

And

A colleague at my work has just had 3 months off following a very public announcement on FB her DH had been having an affair. She went to the GP with stress.

Absolutely reasonable

self-certify for a week then go back. the longer you take off, the harder it is to go back.

Perfectly fine. Use the time wisely though. Don't waste it on "the dance". Get your head clear

Do what you need to do
I would self certify (my boss however didn’t mind and gave me some grace)
Like a PP said, don’t leave it too long though, for your benefit

That is totally reasonable, do it.

Thank you. I don’t work Wednesday and I’ll take Thursday and Friday H works 12 hr shift so won’t be around

Do it, do it, do it. You need space right now.

So sorry you are going through this, it isn't fair

Will you not just wallow if you are not at work? At least at work you'll be busy

Totally reasonable, but don't sit alone brooding. A work environment can be oddly therapeutic, providing structure and something to occupy your thoughts. Do what is best for you.

That is a very valid reason to be off.

Sending you a hug x

I think it's unreasonable, but if you do feel like you cannot work, then you know you can't.

In my area, it takes 4 to 5 weeks to get a GP appointment at the moment, so if yours is anything similar, you will have to self-certify anyway

ShastaTrinity really - I'm not sure most people would be at work after finding out there other half had cheated and turned their world upside down!

people are also free to ask for annual leave, that's what it's for.

Def take some time off. But Id step away from contact with partner for a week too. Focus on you. Do something nice for yourself and give yourself some space

Take Thursday & Friday then decide about next week after that.

If you haven’t already, then think about starting a thread in relationships. I’d have handled things much differently, and far better, if I’d known then what I know now.

It’s utterly, utterly shit x💐

When my exh left me for his affair partner, SHE took time off (and it was granted) to get through the stress she was feeling - she didn't even have children at that time.

I was left with three children, one special needs, two doing GCSEs and A levels. I went and got some anti depressants to get me through it. I was a carer to my son at that time.

Get that time off and

All the very best to you.

Please take time off and be kind to yourself. Sending you strength and a hug

Will you not just wallow if you are not at work? At least at work you'll be busy
This. You'd be miles better off at work. Failing that take annual leave.

I did. There was no way I could face work.