To have time off after finding out about affair?

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So it’s been two weeks since my world imploded. I’ve had a weekend away at my sisters and H and I are trying to work through but...
I’m struggling emotionally especially at work, I can’t concentrate and feel very tearful. WOuld it be unreasonable to go to the dr and get myself signed off for a week. I’ve never done that before and the idea is alien but I feel panicked and scared and I’m not coping putting on a brave face

If you need it, take it - you need to put yourself first. Sometimes it’s good to have thinking time. I went to work on the grounds that it would distract me, and it did, but in hindsight I would have been better taking the time off to process what was happening.

I would take a few days off. You have had a major shock and need some time to deal with that. But I would try to go back after that. It's important to keep busy and focus on other things, otherwise it can take over your whole existance.

If it were me I'd try and go to work. It's not going to change anything if you stay home and I think you may end up feeling worse. I know I would find work distracting and something else to think about. I also think it's good to be with other people.

I had a miscarriage and went back to work quickly. I genuinely felt it helped me. Obviously it REALLY depends on your work. Would you be able to tell people test you want to work but won't be on form?

I hope you're feeling a bit better xx If it was me I'd kill him (literally) and plough further into work... xx After the rain always comes the sun. xx

Why not take annual leave?

When I found out that my husband and partner of 20 years had been cheating on me with three other women, including someone I thought was one of my oldest friends, my world totally exploded, but I went to work every single day. Sitting at home on my own feeling sorry for myself would have done me no good at all. In fact I hated weekends for ages because I had to keep myself busy all of the time or I cried and cried and couldn't stop. I know that we're all different but if you can, go to work. If nothing else it's a familiar routine when everything else has gone to shit.

You might also need to take leave later on to deal with the legal side of things if you decide to divorce, that's going to be looked upon more generously if you don't take time off now.

It is a totally awful thing to go through, but you will get through it.