Laid down 'rules' to BIL

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DP's brother (23yo) has asked if he can stay with us for 2 months whilst he works in the area with the hopes to get a new job around here at the end of his temporary contract. We have a tiny house and he'd be staying on a sofa bed.

Now I like BIL but he lacks commitment and doesn't stick to jobs very well. He is also in a bit of debt from online gambling. I've agreed that he can stay but have laid some group rules...

• He is to pay us a set amount of money each week to cover utilities/food etc.
• He can only stay for 2 months, if he plans on staying in the area permanently he can move into a house share, which we will help him do.
• If he quits this job for any reason he is to go straight home to MIL's where he lives.
• His gf can't come over every weekend to stay. Once or twice is fine. We expect him to go to hers (1hr train ride) if he wants to see her (which he usually does on weekends).
• He is to get a bus to and from work. We won't be giving lifts as we both work and have other commitments.

Do they sound fair? DP is going to explain all this to him in a firm but nice way.

Oh, and is the badger housetrained? It will make a terrible mess of your garden.

I meant budget

awww, I awas actually quite excited you were getting a badger!

All sounds very sensible- apart from badger. If I were you I wouldn't even think about asking him to cook, God knows what your kitchen would look like after that. Include him in your meals and get him to clear up afterwards.

Karen "I've never even seen a badger, never mind one that earns a decent wage!"

oh so your opinion is based on things like Badger Street and the Daily Mail?

Wait a sec, you have kids young enough they need a sitter and he will be earning more than the two of you? This will not end well. He needs to pay for food, clean and do chores and NO guests. You're being far too generous.

I have never heard of badger street, nor do I read the daily mail. I live in rural Scotland And have never seen a badger. Why so snippy Riverside, ?

Karen, because I'm sick to death of badger bashing threads on MN

OMD badger bashing sounds rude

Jokes aside, OP I really don't know why your BIL is staying with you if he's earning so much.

I am rarely on mumsnet, so know not of what you speaketh.

Definitely he can afford to stay somewhere else, just wants to take advantage of OP. as others have said, his debts may raise their ugly heads.

Is the badger his girlfriend? Risk of TB if she stays at the weekends but the kids might like her, they just shouldn't get too close. I think they eat worms so expect your garden to be a bit of a mess.

Good luck with it all, you sound lovely and kind. I hope we don't see you back in a month with a CF thread!

I'm sorry Karen, it's probably a joke that only works if you are a regular MNer, apologies if I confused you.