AIBU? Can't decide if I am or not

[PeonyTruffle]

I’m braving AIBU. I’m not sure how I feel about something and want MN to help.

My husband has a sporty version of a car, there are some owners that like to meet and just look at each other’s cars and ‘pimp’ them so to speak (he does not meet other owners and show off his engine )

Husband requested to join a FB group for owners of this particular car and in order to join you have to prove you have one by sending a photo (I know, I know ridiculous) anyway he snapped a quick pic in the dark and sent it, no number plate or anything showing just that it was obviously one of the cars. Admin approved him and asked him to introduce himself to the group. He didn’t.

Today he was scrolling through the group and a member had spotted our car a few days ago on the drive and took a photo of the car and our house and had put a caption along the lines of ‘nice car, does it belong to anyone in this group, x area’ (specific area we live)

Now this has annoyed me, why has a stranger taken a picture of our car and our house and posted it to a Facebook group without permission?
Admittedly the admins do checks on members but anyone could say they own one and be approved to this group. I know anyone can walk past and see both but it seems a bit cheeky to post it to an internet group.

So AIBU to be annoyed or am I being ridiculous?
Fully prepared to accept it if I am being U!

Oops. That was longer than I intended

Are you for real? Sorry but this is just pathetic all round the group and someone taking a photo of the car and your upsetment over it.

Alright. Don’t sugar coat it

Alright. Don’t sugar coat it!

Surely there’s better things to post about? Totally non issue.

I don't understand why people make a big deal about photographs. A picture of your car and house? Guess what - Google did that too, and made it available for EVERYONE to see on Street View, not just members of a private Facebook group. And as you've already said, absolutely anyone can walk by and take a look for themselves, and then they'll have a memory for a certain amount of time. What, exactly, are you concerned about?

I don't see the problem. It's a free country to take photos of things that you like.
I'd be flattered. Taking a photo doesn't encroach on your privacy or security does it?

Surely there’s better things to post about?

And yet you've posted on the thread twice.

I've had it happen and found it a bit weird.

Soup

Ok, I’m clearly being U.**
Thanks MN.**

Is "upsetment" a word?!

I think it's a bit out of order of someone to take a pic of a random's car and post it online, yes. But I also agree the whole idea of the group is a bit odd! Maybe he should just leave the group and cut his losses.

Bit of a harsh response by Winter tbh.

I think YANBU. It's odd and a bit creepy to have your house on the group page. I'd be annoyed too!

I understand why youre peeved OP but have your angry 5 minutes and move on. Not worth anymore wasted energy

why has a stranger taken a picture of our car and our house and posted it to a Facebook group without permission?

Your car and house that are visible to anyone that passes them? Did you forget to turn on your invisibility switch? Seriously OP, no-one needs permission to post a photo of your car on Facebook. Your car has no expectation of privacy unless it is parked in a closed garage.

Now this has annoyed me, why has a stranger taken a picture of our car and our house and posted it to a Facebook group without permission?

Because they don't need permission

Because they wanted to know if anyone in the group owned it

Winter needs a little lie down I think.

Are you thinking it’s a security risk or are you just upset at the invasion of privacy?

I’d put the car in a garage. Problem solved.

Tbf if its a popular car thats got its own groups etc enough for someone to take time to snap it. The worry wort in me would worry its now advertised to theives. Car thefts on the up with rob to orders.

So no I dont think you are being unreasonable. Bit of an odd thing for them to do slash inavsion of privicy.

Erm yeah, enthusiasts tend to share stuff in groups. If I see a certain classic car I always take a pic and ask if anyone in the group know the car! Pretty standard for these things.

I just found it odd, I wouldn’t walk past someone else’s car, take a pic and post it to a Facebook group.

I would look at it and think ‘that’s nice’ but not take a photo, I just thought it was a bit strange that’s all 🤷🏽‍♀️

No I don't think YABU. Similar happened to a friend of mine. She is a bit of a petrolhead and drives a very unusual car that she has put a lot of time and money into. It's very distinctive and worth a good deal of ££ too.

Couple of months ago she found a picture of her car IN A MAGAZINE, submitted by some random journalist with the caption "spotted this beauty in a carpark in X Town, waited for a while to try and catch the owner to ask if we could do a feature but he didn't come back, guess he must have been busy"

Thing is, friend is quite well-known in the online community for specialists/enthusiasts of the make for having this car and having done most of the work on it herself. The magazine was very publicly shamed into making an abject apology.

I think some people just tend to forget that others have a right to privacy and some kind of control over what happens to images of stuff that belongs to them.....

I wouldn’t walk past someone else’s car, take a pic and post it to a Facebook group.

Oh I have. But not an enthusiast group. A “you can’t fucking park for shite” group you should count yourselves lucky, realky OP

I think it’s flattering as they are complimenting your DH, if someone had taken a pic of my garden and posted it to a group with ‘look at how bad these weeds are!!’ Or similar it would be a different story

I think it was innocent and the poster didn’t mean anything by it.

yambabe what were the magazine apologising for?

Would annoy me as anyone could use your registration to try and claim allsorts.

Would annoy me as anyone could use your registration to try and claim allsorts.

Oh. My. God.

If anyone wanted to use a registration fraudulently they could literally go outside and look on the street. They don't need a picture on fb to claim whatever it is you think can be claimed with a registration number