To think sex addiction is just an excuse

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Using things like claiming a sex addiction is just an excuse for shitty behaviour.
If your engaging in cheating or sexting or that sort of thing then you can help it you can stop it and nobody needs to be supportive about your issue.

Or am I just being totally unreasonsble.

I believe sex addiction is a real thing, but I’d argue that it needs to be diagnosed by a professional.

Reading CDAN and others I am totally confused about the difference between addiction and just having it where and when you can.

As am I.

Can I please reiterate I do not want to hear stories from people this is not that sort of thread I’m not wanting anything Pervy or odd. I’m just wanting opinions on the matter if that makes sense.

I’m sort of struggling with something in my personal life (I’m not claiming I have a sex addiction someone close to me is acting like they may of it actually exists, I think they are being a bastard but all I’m betting from friends is perhaps they have an addiction issue) I’m must trying to work out in my own head how I feel and if I’m just being nasty

I agree with you, I don't believe it can become an addiction in the sense of dependency on it, like cigarettes/drugs/alcohol.

I don't know. I don't have a sex drive so it's not something I can imagine at all. But I have a very addictive personality and lots of mental health problems so I am very aware of addiction and the misery/low moral depths such an inescapable compulsion can cause.

Something doesn't have to be physically addictive to be addictive (gambling, some drugs, food, shopping, stealing etc) so I don't see any reason why sex can't be an addiction too.

I think it is real. If someone is consistently pursuing/engaging in sexual activity at the risk of their health, safety, mental wellbeing, their family life, their job even, then yes, that is an addiction. It is - like most of these things - probably over-diagnosed, but yes it is a real thing. Just because it is over-diagnosed doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

And of course you can become dependent on it! You can become dependent on anything that delivers a rush or a high.

Sex addiction covers a wide range of things, from having sex with hundreds of women to excessively watching porn. I think it would be unfair to say it's an addiction that doesn't exist. You can be addicted to shopping, to sweets etc. Anything that gives you a "buzz" so to speak. Sex is the same for some people. However, I think it's wrong to just throw it out there that someone's an addict if they haven't sought any sort of help or diagnosis on their own.

I don’t think it’s a true addiction like drugs, alcohol etc.

It’s compulsive behaviour and indicative of a mental disorder.

it’s always a cheat that will claim they have a sex addiction.

I do not believe that sex is an addiction, some people are just greedy they want it so they have it.

You're being a crank OP. Not just BU.

What is it to you if they like shagging around? Unless it's your partner?

... And like with all mental disorders, the person afflicted should be supported, but that doesn’t give them carte blanche to treat others badly.

@PinkHeart5914 you've clearly only ever had mediocre sex

You're being a crank OP. Not just BU

What is it to you if they like shagging around? Unless it's your partner

Well obviously. Why on earth would I be asking the question if it wasn’t someone who actually was my buisness.

Shagging around I’m not sure about, I don’t think so but not sure what I am certain about is sexting/sex messages lots and lots over a great deal of time with large numbers of women

I have the absolute opposite.

A sex addiction sounds like hard work

Yeah it probably is a thing but also a handy excuse for cheaters to use

I think some people like the term because they see it as absolving themselves from responsiblilty, as in... “it’s not my fault I screw around and can’t be faithful. I’m a sex addict!” If this is valid, where does it end.... what about,“I didn’t rape them as i just couldn’t help it... I’m just addicted to sex!”

Even if you do have some kind of sexually compulsive behaviour that could clinically be described as addictive, it doesn’t remove that personal individual’s responsiblility.

It has been described to me by a MH professional as an obsession rather than an addiction. (Not in relation to myself!)

Shagging around I’m not sure about, I don’t think so but not sure what I am certain about is sexting/sex messages lots and lots over a great deal of time with large numbers of women

Do I think addictions to sex happen? Absolutely.
Are they common? Nope.

That said I think there’s absolutely no issue with “shagging around” if you’re single, partners are single and it’s consenual. The waters are muddled somewhat by the person being married and then i’d say it isn’t the supposed sexy addiction that’s the problem but the devious behaviour that destroys trust and respect.

*muddied

I've attended sections addiction training with the country's leading expert whose background is in drug addiction and other addiction diagnosis and treatment. I'd say yes it is as real as any other addiction but it is a lot more complex than a simple desire to shag around.

It is absolutely, completely and utterly a thing. It can ruin lives. But cheating is not the same thing. You can be married to a sex addict who doesn't cheat.

Sorry that should read sex addiction training.

I do believe sex addiction exists

However, what I don't understand is why anyone with a sex addiction would enter into a monogamous relationship.

sooty can you elaborate a bit from your training? Complex, how so?

worra this is one of my thoughts as well. By all means do what ever you want with consenting adults and no deceit or harm to another party but if you know you wish or have a compulsion to behave in that way why place someone at risk of harm.