DH was made redundant from his well paid but extremely stressful job in September. He worked for the same company for the whole of the seven years we have been together.
We agreed that he needed a break as he was burned-out by the time they made him redundant.
Poker has been his hobby since long before we met and he could easily win (or more often loose) over £1,000 in one night.
We keep our finances separate but both pay the same amount into a joint a/c each month for mortgage, bills food etc. I earn(ed) less than him but I do more housework. He pays when we go on dates and has always been very generous, especially after a big win, eg trips to Vegas, lots of little presents etc. I am a big saver and he is a big spender, this wasn't a problem when he earned a lot, but now I worry as other than his redundancy money he has no savings.
I thought he would look for a new job in earnest after Christmas but he has been very half hearted about it. He now plays online poker 8 hours a day and genuinely thinks he can make a living from it.
He stopped playing in casinos after he burned through his bankroll (£1,500) in the first month after leaving work. Now he is making about a fiver a day online but he says it's gradually increasing. 😎
He is still paying his share into the joint account and can afford to do that until the end of this year.
I think he has a gambling addiction. He, unsurprisingly, disagrees. He is a wonderful DH intelligent, kind, witty, v. v. sexy etc. Poker is his only vice; well that and letting the dog get into our bed when I'm not looking.
As long as he can still pay his way does it matter?
AIBU to expect him to get a proper job well before his money runs out?