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Aibu to not want to bother with this guy.

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Quiddichcup · 28/01/2018 08:38

I don't think I am, my friend does.

Guy I met at work, eventually after 8 months of flirting he asks me out. We go out. I end up paying for 85% of it. Had an ok time and agree to see him again. Invite him over in the week, but he vanishes for 3 weeks.

When he does get back in contact , he asks me out again but it's so last min that I'm always busy. I was off on holiday but said i could make time for a bit, to which he didn't reply for days and then I didn't want to- I felt the effort would be more than the fun.

In the new year, when I was back from holiday , I contacted him and tried to start s conversation, thinking maybe I had been too harsh. He cut me short and then I didn't hear from him , so I infriended him on Facebook and just forgot about it. 3 weeks after cutting me short ( he said he was going to the shop and would reply later) he messages and asks me out. But again it's last min and I've got plans. When I suggest many other days he just says he is busy. I followed my friends advice and said i wanted to meet up and am free any day this week, he just needs to say when. He ' liked ' that message and agsin I've not heard from him for 9 days. And this is the week I said I was free.

I can't be arsed at all and his lack of effort and communication is a huge turn off. My friend thinks I'm being a bit difficult. So, aibu to not want to go to the hastle of getting a baby sitter for a flakey flake of a man who still hasn't actually set up any date?

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Aeroflotgirl · 28/01/2018 14:12

Keep saying no, you have been too generous with your chances. I think your 1 strike and your out is spot on, don't lower your standards for anybody. See what happens when you give chances, they mess you about.

NurseButtercup · 28/01/2018 14:16

My friend thinks I'm being a bit difficult.

Your response to ignore this man are correct - your friend is giving you terrible advice.

SadabouttheNHS · 28/01/2018 14:27

Well done OP!!

Don't listen to your friend's advice when it comes to dating/ relationships. She may exercise good judgement in other areas but her standards are far too low when it comes to choosing a partner for you!!

Tobebythesea · 28/01/2018 17:09

You deserve much better.

Unfortunately if he was truly into you, you would know about it and you wouldn’t have to chase him.

AngelsSins · 29/01/2018 14:13

Your friend thinks YOU are being too difficult?! Jesus, what man pleasing bollocks. You're totally right OP, just tell your friend you're not interested in him anymore.

GeekyWombat · 29/01/2018 14:19

Definitely right not to waste your time.

expatinscotland · 29/01/2018 14:25

Block.

UpstartCrow · 29/01/2018 14:31

He's not a nice guy, he is using a dating technique where he makes you do all the running and invest in the 'relationship' 'to prove you are worthy'.
Do yourself a massive favour and ditch him. Because later on, in some way, it will be thrown back in your face about how you chased him.

KatharinaRosalie · 29/01/2018 14:51

Men need to be encouraged? Not the ones who are actually interested in you.

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