To ask neighbours when to quieten down?

[NoFear84]

Neighbours two door up have young adult children (uni age). They must have a rowdy bunch of friends round (their kids do) and they’re in the back garden having a good time, talking, drinking etc but very loudly!!

Seriously don’t want to be a party pooper but I’ll be heading to sleep and my bedroom is at the back of our house.

I’m going to try earplugs as really it doesn’t happen often but busy busy day tomorrow... wibu to ask them to pipe down (lots of shouting and laughing) so I would feel bad... do you think if still going at midnight to say something?!

Surely you cannot be the only neighbour affected by this.

But anyway, could you move to the other bedroom for now?

That’s terrible behaviour on their part. Where I live (row of terraces) the noise really carries if people are noisy in their gardens. Most people understand this and are very considerate but we occasionally get some really selfish people who just don’t get that. I had last Friday night!

Fgs..they’re youngsters and it’s Saturday night..give them a break!

Front bedrooms are DCs spare and ours back of house... we are semis but close together. So it’s our adjoining neighbours semi. But we’re on a hill and curved kind of close to them because they turn into us...

I need my sleep though.

My neighbours do this occasionally - I put in earplugs. They're nice people and they don't take the piss.

@Howlongtilldinner should I forego a night’s sleep?!

It's 11 o clock. Give them a break! Different if it happens every night.

It's only 11pm

You have no idea if it will be a nights sleep.

Earplugs not working... they’re great people ... actually think parents are away!

Sorry but I'd go out and tell them to shut up. I don't care about this it's only 11pm nonsense.
I'm asleep by nine, even at the weekend, because I am up early.
My sleep, which is a need, trumps your social life.

Midnight yes. Asking them now - no. It’s only barely pub checking out time.

Realistically how long will they stay in the garden in January anyway?

My neighbors are doing this too with music yay they are generally good neighbors though so I give them till midnight then knock so far they have always been good about turning things down (not a regular thing 3 party's in 5 years)

nofear yes I do think forego a nights sleep. If it is a regular occurrence, and it continues into the wee hours, then that’s a different matter.

I think if this is the first time, and it’s only just gone 11, then I’d just let it go.

If they're still there in 2 hours then maybe you wouldn't be unreasonable to go and say something to them.....but it's only just gone 11....on a Saturday night

Do you have to be up at 5 or something?

I hate it when on threads like this people say - oh, it’s Saturday, it’s only 11 pm, etc!!! But what about other people’s rights to sleep?? Ear plugs don’t really do anything for a lot of people. And being deprived of sleep even for one night can have a terrible effect on your health.

I’ve yelled at folk out the back making noise, but it’s been at 2am. Not sure 11pm on a Saturday would be too unreasonable for me. But if it’s bugging you, then go ahead.

You (presumably) get a good night’s sleep the majority of the time. They (presumably) don’t have parties every weekend.

Bit of give and take. Leave them be.

You have a right to sleep, tell them to shut up.

When I lived away at uni we had neighbours who weren't students, we kept music and noise down and we shut up and went out at 11.30pm. We never expected anyone to have their sleep disturbed because of us.

Deffo pop over there and have a word, chances are they didn't realise how loud they were being/how late it has got.

not I agree everyone has the right to sleep, but really, Saturday night? Very occasionally and you can’t just ‘put up with it’?

Live and let live, in the grand scene of things, and what’s going on in the world, it’s really no big deal...

Actually no I don’t always get great sleep! This week my DH has been working away and I’ve had 3 sleepless nights with very poorly children. High temps, sickness and bad bad cough requiring inhalers.

So tbh yes my sleep trumps their January garden party.