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Neighbour's house up for sale

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Ponshuspirate · 27/01/2018 19:47

This is more a WWYD rather than an AIBU.

We've lived next door to some pleasant people for 12 years. We always speak when we see them, they always speak when they see us, sometimes we have a good old chat. They are nice neighbours.

They both go out to work, whereas I work from home. Over the last 12 years I've taken in countless parcels for them, sometimes more than one a day. Certainly coming up to Christmas it was constant. They always thank me and life goes on.

Anyway, their house is up for sale. There's no board up but I've seen it on Right Move. They haven't mentioned it. I know it's none of my business and it's entirely up to them.

However, as we're on friendly terms, if it was us moving I would definitely have told them, just out of courtesy really.

Is it me? In similar circumstances WWYD? i.e. would you tell your neighbours?

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meredintofpandiculation · 27/01/2018 19:49

My neighbours never have.

I feel for you - it's a worrying time, not knowing who you'll get moving in.

HolyMountain · 27/01/2018 19:49

No I wouldn’t tell our neighbours unless we were close.

hesterton · 27/01/2018 19:49

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ilovesooty · 27/01/2018 19:50

No I wouldn't expect them to tell you. Not if they haven't put a board up.

NiteFlights · 27/01/2018 19:50

It depends (helpful) - have you seen them since it went on the market? But I don't think I would really, I'd probably just expect them to mention it next time I saw them.

Wolfcub · 27/01/2018 19:50

I would but we live next to an older lady who we do some jobs for and keep an eye on. I would want her to know if we were planning to move.

Cantspell2 · 27/01/2018 19:51

No I wouldn’t make a point of telling my neighbors if I put my house on the market.
I would probably mention it in passing once the house was sold but it is really none of their business and I can’t see why they would be that interested.

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formerbabe · 27/01/2018 19:53

Sorry op...you sound nuts.

However, as we're on friendly terms, if it was us moving I would definitely have told them, just out of courtesy really

Wtaf!

Sharper91 · 27/01/2018 19:54

We didn’t and had lived there for 15 years

PoppyCherry · 27/01/2018 19:57

We have no for sale board up (end of a cul de sac, no passing traffic, no point), but we told 4 of our neighbours before we went on Rightmove 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ridingthegravytrain · 27/01/2018 19:57

Mine text me before the sign went up to give me the heads up. We were friendly in a chatting over the fence type way but nothing more. I would have done the same

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 27/01/2018 20:02

In my last house I told my neighbors that house was going on market the following week, we were on friendly terms so it seemed the polite thing to do, it can be quite unsettling when neighbors you like are on the move so I think it’s the right/ nice thing to do.

HotelEuphoria · 27/01/2018 20:05

I have lived next to mine fir 18 years, of course I would tell them. I can't imagine why you wouldn't unless you didn't speak.

Bluntness100 · 27/01/2018 20:06

We would, as we socialise with our neighbours. As you don't, I would not expect them to. You're simply neighbours on good terms, so I wouldn't expect them to mention it unless in passing.

Chickoletta · 27/01/2018 20:06

We've only lived in our house for 2 years but get on really well with the neighbours and I made a point of telling them (next door both sides and opposite) before the sign went up. Felt like a basic courtesy to me.

Tistheseason17 · 27/01/2018 20:06

Depends on the relationship. I'm really close to 2 neighbours (cul de sac) who I'd tell but the other 1- I actually would make an effort to ensure they did not know as they'd book a viewing! CF NDNs is what they are!

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Ponshuspirate · 27/01/2018 20:07

Sorry op...you sound nuts

That's a bit harsh. I've seen them several times for a chat since their house went up for sale. If it were me I would definitely have mentioned it.

Anyway, I hope they get neighbours as nice as us when they move. We've never refused to take a single parcel in for them over the last 12 years.

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CleanerhousekeeperPA · 27/01/2018 20:10

Ours is on the market now with no sign, only on RM & I socialise a lot with my lovely immediate neighbours, about 4x per year.

We haven’t mentioned it because she’s always known we will move if our ideal property came up in the very road we need (which it has)

At the moment there is nothing to tell, which is perhaps what yours are thinking.

MadMags · 27/01/2018 20:10

I’m sure they didn’t take your parcel taking into consideration! 😂

It wouldn’t dawn on me to tell my neighbours and we have the odd cuppa etc.

WhiteWalkersWife · 27/01/2018 20:11

Why is it courteous to tell you? They dont owe you anything and arent your friends. Perhaps they are just testing the waters.

Ihatemarmite123 · 27/01/2018 20:11

It's none of your business really

KitKat1985 · 27/01/2018 20:11

I told mine. We're quite friendly and we've looked after each others pets / kept an eye on each others house for example when each other has been on holiday, so it just felt polite to tell them when we went on the market.

formerbabe · 27/01/2018 20:13

Big deal...you take in a few parcels. I don't get the "politeness" thing either.

rothbury · 27/01/2018 20:16

It honestly wouldn't occur to me to tell neighbours I was moving.

As Pp have mentioned, they may have been forced to sell for financial reasons, or they are splitting. Whatever their reasons, it can be a bit awkward really.

I recall when I moved last time, my neighbours were all a bit off about me moving once they saw the board up, as if I thought their road wasn't good enough for me.