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Tena Lady for free our local FB page

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MrsMarigold · 27/01/2018 19:06

Seriously do some people have no sense of embarrassment? I would never post on a public group that I have some leftover incontinence pads following the birth of my child. I'd give them to a foodbank, my local hospital, my health visitor, care home anything but the p cal FB group, I'll keep you posted as to whether anyone is "interested".

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WyfOfBathe · 27/01/2018 19:58

I imagine you're still 7 years old and think that babies magically pop out of the belly button when they're ready?

Birth is painful and messy, but it shouldn't be embarrassing. Incontinence for other reasons shouldn't be embarrassing either.

PinkBuffalo · 27/01/2018 19:58

Continence products are v. Expensive if you can't get them on prescription. This is a good thing to do as it means someone will get some use out if them.
Can't see the problem at all

gamerchick · 27/01/2018 19:59

A kind word OP, next time you have a mind fart and want to rush to post. Sit on it overnight like you would a letter and see if it’s still a good idea in the morning.

A lot of us have been guilty of farting one time or another and lived to regret it

Lucymek · 27/01/2018 19:59

God forbid someone should want to help someone else.

What bastards !

Emmageddon · 27/01/2018 19:59

There's nothing embarrassing about offering unused pads others might be able to make use of. What is embarrassing is the OP, with her distinct lack of understanding and compassion.

ClosdesMouches · 27/01/2018 19:59

Aftereights91 · 27/01/2018 20:00

Bloody hell Im 26 and I've been incontinent for years. Why are you acting like people should be embarrassed op? It's no wonder people are embarrassed with people like you around

TrashPanda · 27/01/2018 20:01

I gave away the unopened pack of maternity pads on Facebook after my last pregnancy as I was 100% sure I wouldn't need them. They were collected within hours.

When I then fell pregnant again, I gave my unopened packs of sanitary towels to DS for his harvest festival food bank collection.

I don't see how it's embarrassing at all. I feel hopeful that they would then be used by someone who may, for whatever reason, struggle to get them otherwise.

Tena are suggested on lots of pregnancy groups/forums for post birth as they are so absorbent.

Buxtonstill · 27/01/2018 20:02

‘I’ll keep you posted if anyone takes up the offer’

I’m on the edge of my seat....

Someone tried to be kind and you tried to take the piss.

You sound a complete bitch.

SparklyMagpie · 27/01/2018 20:02

The more I read all of these comments,the more it's making me angry of you thinking people should be embarrassed! You have some nerve.

I fortunately don't suffer too badly after having my son 2 years ago but I have had the odd accident...infact just yesterday whilst having a coughing fit thanks to a flu bug,I laughed and told my mum that I'd just peed myself a little from coughing and we had a quick chuckle.

NOBODY should feel ashamed!!!

Actually just remembered when I went to Alton towers last year, I'd bought some pads as I was so worried I'd wet myself with it being the first time going on rollercoasters in years, I didn't feel ashamed and we all had a good laugh.

The fact you've started a thread, I hope the majority if not ALL of these comments make you realise what a nasty person you are

ThatWasThat · 27/01/2018 20:02

thoughtful and considerate, I'd say

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 27/01/2018 20:02

There is nothing to be embarrassed about.

SparklyMagpie · 27/01/2018 20:04

Oh and way I say "had a laugh " not in the way you're thinking OP

I'm 27 and have nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed of if I may have the odd accident, it's the price I pay for the wonderful gift of my child. I most certainly would give any unused spare incontinence pads, maternity, breast pads,sanitary pads if it helps somebody else

Hope you're hiding in your hole

Boulshired · 27/01/2018 20:06

The best advice I was given was Tena pants instead of underwear after giving birth. No damaged underwear, pjs or sheets.

GurlwiththeCurl · 27/01/2018 20:06

I have chronic cough and when I have a severe attack I vomit, piss and shit myself. So I wear Tena, or the equivalent. Should I be ashamed of this, OP?

Because I am so embarrassed due to attitudes like yours that I rarely leave the house. In fact, I stay in my bedroom all day so that I am near the loo.

Placeboooooooo · 27/01/2018 20:06

My MIL was wearing these, she’d had a hard life, 4 big babies and pulmonary hypertension which meant that when she was taking water tablets to reduce swelling in her legs her lung/heart condition which worsened horrifically during the last months of her life, stopped her from being able to get to the toilet quickly enough.

They are expensive, child birth, getting older and weaker bladders are a part of life and no one should be made to feel ashamed or embarrassed.

What a lovely thing for her to do.

Funnyface1 · 27/01/2018 20:06

Please don't keep us posted. Nobody wants to laugh about someone getting something they need. That's really mean.

putputput · 27/01/2018 20:08

They saved my sofa after DD was born. Blood loss was so heavy I wasn't going to faff around with the little maternity pads. They're bloody expensive so good on this lady.
In fact I'm buying a pack for one of my best friends who is having her first next month.

Placeboooooooo · 27/01/2018 20:12

I might also add that I used them while miscarrying my 2nd baby because the bleeding was so bad I was soaking through my knickers and trousers with maxi pads on.

How immature you sound. You haven’t replied so I’m guessing that you’re feeling pretty damn stupid.

SparklyMagpie · 27/01/2018 20:12

They are an absolute godsend for after birth !!

But no matter what the reason,nobody should feel ashamed and I hope some of the posters who have written their feelings have felt some sort of comfort from the rest of us !

Shame on you!

shakeyourcaboose · 27/01/2018 20:13

Given how long some of the patients I have have to wait to be seen by community nurses for continence assessment to get these on prescription, that offer is bloody lovely.

babyccinoo · 27/01/2018 20:14

I'll keep you posted as to whether anyone is "interested".

No thanks

mustbemad17 · 27/01/2018 20:20

What the actual..? Why should anybody feel embarassed? I used to be given the excess pads from a client every month (carer) because they wouldn't reduce her monthly amount...any I couldn't distribute amongst other clients (who couldn't have their amount increased!) went on FB for other people who needed them. Have you stopped to see how expensive they are??? Being incontinent is no more embarassing than having a period for fuck sake

quarterpast · 27/01/2018 20:40

I would imagine the FB lady's target audience was, you know, actual adults who are mature enough to have lived a little and don't find this kind of thing embarrassing at all. You've got some growing up to do OP

juddyrockingcloggs · 27/01/2018 20:41

Congratulations OP on making yourself look like a right nobend. If I was you I'd start looking to see if anyone was giving away a nice personality on the FB selling site and snap it up.

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