To ask why little girls seem to be preferred?

[foxtaildream]

Is it just me who has noticed this?

I like having 2 of the same gender too probably because Im one of three of the same gender. We shared rooms, toys, clothes etc whereas my extended family with 1 of each struggled to get them to play together. Obviously a lot depends on age gaps, personalities etc

I wanted a boy!

I have 1 ds.

Bloody love him

Most of my friends had girls and I did notice a preference for girls when they were infants school (actual studies around how boys need to be more active than girls this age).

But ime the boys I've known have been less demanding, rude and whiney!

youare, are there? I didn't realise there was any difference in needs at that age?

I read it on here a lot but not something I've heard in real life. My friends from all stages have been excited for each other about boys and girls! I have both, I didn't mind either time and I think they're both awesome!

Ive noticed this! I have one boy & am pregnant with my second child, sex unknown. Family members/work colleagues/friends/randoms have commented that they hope it's a girl so we don't have to try again 🤐

It's a thing in my DP's family. They went on about it a lot when I was pregnant, his DM was desperate for us to have a girl and I did sense she was a bit disappointed. His cousin who was born a few months before him is also a boy, but she doesn't seem to care anymore and loves them both to bits. She has only brothers and sons so I do understand why she would have a preference.

If I had another I'd want it to be another boy simply due to money and having to buy clothes etc again.

I wanted a girl, I didn't want a boy.

I had been TTC for a long time and had a lot of losses on the way. But still, wanted a girl.

I wanted the dresses, the cute, endless wonders of what I could do with a girl

It's not nice, I know. But that's how I felt.

Until I realised half way through my pregnancy that males can get away with being ugly in society and still be 'up there' with the rest. Men seem to have it better overall. I would've been praised historically for my ability to 'produce a son'.

I love my DS so much that I will never try again incase it's a girl. I don't want a girl anymore.

I also think boys are less bitchy and gossip less.

Sandy, why TTC if you don't want something you have 50% chance of getting?

Why is having 2 children seen as the ideal? I know you have the BOGOF aspect but when I was born in the 80s most families seem to have 3 or 4 kids.

It’s definitely a thing, among white British families anyway. I wanted a girl. I cried when I found out I was having a boy. The whole daughter’s a friend for life, sons run off with their wife nonsense.

Which makes so little sense as I have an awful relationship with my mum. Maybe I wanted to do better. I dunno.

But I don’t think it’s just personal.

There are more clothes for girls than there are boys, which drives me potty. People definitely react different to news of a female birth. Bloody weird.

I am so pleased I have my boy. He is awesome.

I have 1 boy and 2 girls. I have a very strong preference for having another girl over another boy, but that’s due to my experiences with the son I already have.

Yes this is absolutely my experience!

I have 2 boys and constantly get comments along the lines of "oh boys are such hard work, so physical etc" and "when are you going to try for a girl?"

When my MIL (a mum of only sons herself) is with the DGC she almost completely ignores the boys and focuses only on the girls. The girls get to stay over, are brought on trips to the cinema etc and bought toys/clothes - the boys never!

Also at large gatherings such as weddings, I always notice the mums of toddler boys trailing around after them making sure they don't do anything dangerous and are usually completely ignored by everyone else. Whereas someone invariably offers to take toddler girls and entertain them (this has happened to me - I remember many times watching enviously as mum of toddler girl gets to chat to fellow guests/have a glass of fizz!)

But I love my boys to bits and wouldn't have it any other way. They are so much fun and I love all the boy toys/sports/lego/nerf guns stuff too!

Kitty, good post until the end...

Lego's and nerf guns are for girls too.

There are more clothes for girls than there are boys, which drives me potty. People definitely react different to news of a female birth. Bloody weird

So true. All the "Omg a little princess 😍👌" seems to be quite alive and kicking at the moment

Sports are so so far gone from just being a boys thing.

Yes of course they are foxtaildream. I don't mean to imply they aren't.

But haven't you noticed at birthday parties & Christmas the type of presents that people typically buy for girls? It drives one of my friends (who has 3 girls) mad! She keeps specifying to friends/family not to buy pink girly stuff but still it keeps coming.

‘In my experience people comment on how boys are 'simpler and more fun' and girls are 'bitchy and bossy' which is just ridiculous.’

This is definitely my PIL - who failed spectacularly to conceal their disappointment when we told them we were having a girl. But then they are very sexist in general.

Truthfully I did have a preference for a girl, simply because it’s what I know and generally I’m mostly drawn to females in my life, but that said I can’t imagine having felt anything but joy and ready for the ‘challenge’ of a different experience, if told I was having a boy.

Children are individuals and it’s a gift to be able to nurture them for a short while (apologies if that sounds a bit nauseating )

I was super excited to have a boy, because I’m envisioning rough and tumble play, teaching him to snowboard, going on adventures etc etc. I am not a very girly girl, and don’t think I’d be a very sympathetic mum to a stereotypical teenage girl.

DH wants a girl next because he wants a little princess to dress up like a dolly. And he isn’t very blokey, so he doesn’t want a child of either gender who’s obsessed with football or cars.

In reality DS will probably be a little princess, and any future DD will be a tomboy like her Mum.... It is all just gender stereotypes.

When I was pregnant with my second it felt like everyone assumed I really wanted a boy because then I'd have 'one of each' and that that was somehow perfect. I had quite a strong preference for another girl (our housing circumstances, name picked and loved it, clothes could be re-used even though a lot of dd's clothes were from the boys' section and everyone always commented on her being dressed like a boy). When I found out I was having a boy I was very surprised more than anything, of course now he's here I wouldn't ever change him for anything. I think maybe it's because I never saw dd as a girl who couldn't do something or that my experience would be different because of the sex of the next one, my dd plays sport, she'll be starting rugby soon and has always worn things that I love, she was always wanting to be up and moving, climbing etc so never even owned a dress until she was old enough to want one for dressing up! And if ds wants to do dance classes instead of rugby or football I couldn't care less. I think 'girl' things and 'boy' things are still so ingrained in a lot of people.

I've not really found this IRL if I'm honest. I was absolutely convinced I was going to have boys and really surprised when I found out DC1 was a girl. Not disappointed though. I think a lot of people assume you'll want one of each if you're having two. I'm pregnant again and did want another girl but only because DD (3) did not react at all well to the pregnancy and then, when she finally came around, was determined she wanted a baby sister. And that's what she's getting! x

My little boy is the greatest joy. I did think I wanted a daughter but he's magical. It's a privilege to be his mother.

I couldn’t have coped with Disney Princesses on Ice. Which I realise may appeal to both sexes but having a boy, the odds were in my favour

With my first pregnancy I in all honesty had a slight preference for a girl. Both now and at the time I think it had to do with finding the whole concept of motherhood slightly daunting and as a woman myself I somehow found it easier to relate to a girl.

I was thrilled to discover that I was having a girl but also remember the feeling before the gender had been determined that a healthy baby was much more important than a specific gender. The second time around I had a boy and was extremely excited about having a son. Possibly because I found motherhood a lot easier having already managed to keep DD alive and happy

I never got the “would you like a girl next” comments. I did get the “but it’s not fair to have an only child” comments.

Pepperedbeef or you could have had girls who werent interested in Disney on Ice. Mine aren’t.