Has Anyone Ever Been Outed?

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I lurk much more than I post but I’m always struck by the stories. Some are SO detailed that if the person in question or their friends and family read them they must know its about them! I just wonder if anyone has ever truly been outed?

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My husbands secretary was whinging about him on here- I definitely knew it was her it was word for word what was said in their meeting. Still haven't told him though! 😂

Kidney did she have a point?!

You should have stormed onto the thread saying 'Troll! Troll! Troll!!'

Yes, at one point quite frequently but rarely positively

Kidney Did she have a point?

I don't think I have been but I always change details that are not super important to the story e.g. will say DD when it's actually DN, went out with my friends from Australia when they are actually Kiwis, would says DS is a midwife when she's a nurse etc etc

But some stories are so elaborate! They must have a lot of details changed or be quite outing.

@BulletFox she did. He was being a bit harsh but she wasn't doing her job either so it was a bit pointless really. She got flamed. I was very tempted to use her real name in a reply or name the firm but didn't as she was being destroyed!

I have never been outed as far as I know! I was able to identify a family member from one post though. I didn't out her as she obviously need the advice and felt here was the best place for it! If she was bending the truth or out and out trolling I would have spoken to her away from here but as it was I just ignored the thread and said nothing!

It was when she said she threw a balled up piece of paper at his head that things went wrong for her. It was just so obviously about him and her. But if I'd have shown him she'd have lost her job because it made their company look dreadful

I think I have recognised a family member, but haven't said anything.

As for myself, I don't post anything I really care about other people knowing. I don't know whether I have ever been identifiable or not, but I am not too bothered.

Kidney

Don't say anymore or you may out yourself to her!

Now that I think about it I read someone giving details of a school they were thinking of on the education boards and I guessed which school it was as it's a small and unusual school. They said they chose that one in the end and from the age of their child and extremely small class it could only have been one of five or six people... but I don't know which one so not quite outing.

Not me, and not on this board. But I did recognise a friend on another site similar to this (not netmums). I'm 100% certain it was her due to the username, the subject matter, style of writing, and comments.

I didn't mention anything about it to her, as I figured we're both entitled to our "privacy" online, and as far as I'm aware, she doesn't know I post there anyway.

Her comments were entirely innocuous, but as I'm a nosy parker I did search her user name for any other posts she'd written on that site, but that came up blank. Maybe she normally just lurks there, but I'm not about to out myself to her by asking!

Unless people are talking about specific incidents i think recognising people would be tricky as you never know if they have changed details about themselves such as ages and genders of dc, work they do, where they live etc.

My friend once spotted me on here, ages ago. I know because she said to me, “is your MN username xxx?”, so I was grateful to her because I could name change and not worry about her seeing my posts again in future.

The funny thing is that I hadn’t posted anything very outing at all! I was v surprised as so many people use this site. But I guess maybe we were posting on the same types of threads (as we had babies the same age) so she probably saw several of my posts and put two and two together.

Yes. The poster who recognised that I was complaining about her out of control brood who enjoy threatening my middle child for something to do.
Sent me a darling message I added to the yawnable pile of harassment from the self described "classy bitch". hello there.

There's a little shit in my kids class who's mum thinks the sun shines out of his arse. If every time the kid bit someone I swear she would think how nice his teeth are that they leave such a neat mark. I've talked about the situation on here and her DSis went on a big FB rant having a go about people bullying a child and sort of mentioning things that I'd posted about. I assume she recognised her kid. But I'd be happy to name her and her damned devil spawn directly if MN would allow!

I recognised an acquaintance as she posted the exact same story on Facebook. It wasn’t anything controversial (despite being AIBU) so I never mentioned it!

I recognised a friend on here. She had only made a couple of posts but I know her well and just recognised her writing style. And the topics she was responding to were a good fit. I told her straight away so she could name change if she wanted. I'm more of a replier than a thread poster, if I was posting anything personal with detail I'd probably name change. I've definitely posted anecdotes here that people would recognise as 'mine' but I don't think it matters much.

I worked out who someone was because, like a pp, she was talking about her DC starting at a new school which could only have been the school my DC went to, and then a new pupil started. I didn't say anything at first but got to know and like her and then said who I was on MN. She either namechanged or moved on.

I have very occasionally posted the sort of thread with detail that someone could clearly recognise - but I'd always namechange for that thread. It's swings and roundabouts though - you'll get the "interesting first post " responses, and if it were a name people recognised you'd probably get a more supportive response.

Yes, I have. I replied to a post concerning absorbing into one's family a grandson with whom there had been no previous contact (it had a happy ending for us, by the way).

My friend who was aware of the saga, emailed to say she had recognised me. She is a very good friend and knows much about my life, so I have not felt the need to name change.

Someone reported me to my health visitor - may have been someone I knew or may have been mumsnet (as I registered with my real name).

I know someone who posts on here. She isn’t in my life anymore (thank goodness) mainly because she is a pathological liar. I often stumble across her replies, usually making herself look wonderful, and think “liar”. It’s quite sad really as I have no idea why she constantly has to lie.

Not on here but mse. A post on a home buying/renting board on how to retain a rented property, gave loads of detail and I realised it was my friend who was living across the road's renters. I rang her, she came over and read it. It was very obvious to us it was her. She was then able to anticipate and defend every move from then. She never told her renters.

I recognised someone who was applying for the same job as I was. We had group interviews as well so I got to meet her, but didn't say anything. It was amazing how she spun some things that she'd said on here about current job etc.

I recognised a girl from work a few years back.
We weren't close enough for me to feel like I could tell her and she wasn't posting anything too bad.

I've recognised two people - one is a very close friend who I know will only post here when she needs practical parenting advice and won't come on for months on end so I'm not worried. The other I loathe but she doesn't seem to have posted for a while either although tbh she would only come on to humblebrag so we might just frequent different boards! Her username is basically her full real name though so I'm guessing she's not worried about being outed!