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Has Anyone Ever Been Outed?

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strawberrisc · 27/01/2018 17:40

I lurk much more than I post but I’m always struck by the stories. Some are SO detailed that if the person in question or their friends and family read them they must know its about them! I just wonder if anyone has ever truly been outed?

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DecoysBitch · 28/01/2018 09:10

Yes. So name-changer extraordinaire these days.

DecoysBitch · 28/01/2018 09:14

It wasn't really a negative thing but I'd put some personal stuff down anonymously I thought - so felt unsettled when it was clocked.

WeAreEternal · 28/01/2018 10:28

I have been identified by quite a few people, I’ve received PMs asking if I am me and had people ask me irl.
I imagine there are a lot of other people who know me irl who have recognised me due to a very identifiable incident that I posted about years ago.

I don’t mind being recognised.
Anything I want to post anonymously I just NC.

HelgasFlowers · 28/01/2018 11:03

Yes, recently but everyone was very nice about it and I’ve since name changed.

spankhurst · 28/01/2018 11:11

Someone user name strongly suggests she’s a friend.

Loyaultemelie · 28/01/2018 11:25

My aunt is on here I recognised her in a couple of threads from her posting style and then she mentioned her profession and confirmed it 😀 I guessed from her username then she namechanged so I suspect she recognised my then username too

Chapterandverse · 28/01/2018 11:28

I recognised a friend as she posted about the same dilemma we had discussed over dinner the previous week.

I knew she was on mn as we'd discussed that too, but her posting style was uber rude and abrupt, nothing like who she is in real life. I was quite taken aback by how cheeky she was to posters.

When I looked at her other posts I could see she has quite a harsh and brash online persona compared to how I know her. Strange really.

Haven't seen her posting much recently mind you - but she may be hanging out in the new baby threads where I don't go

I told her I had seen her post that time but she said she wasn't bothered as I already knew. I don't know if she knows my username, she might. But I hardly ever begin threads, more often I just respond.

brizzledrizzle · 28/01/2018 11:31

I have recognised somebody but I wouldn't dream of telling them, they'd be mortified. They don't post anything controversial or worrying anyway.

WhiteWalkersWife · 28/01/2018 12:27

I think so but i wasnt sure since one small detail was changed. Looking at her posting history though i saw the same detail changed in another thread so i did wonder.

I think people post from their pov but change small things, so it doesnt appear to be them. Which is understandable and isnt a lie as such. But i think some tell the story without information so it biases in their favour as they just want validation.

Queenoftheblitz · 28/01/2018 17:50

I was outed on here a few years ago. I posted a thread about the latest attack on me from my abuser.
A toothless smackhead who I'd removed from my life recognised me and told my abuser about it. She was hoping he would attack me again.
She also told my sister, in a bid to turn sister against me.
I got a text from the abuser demanding to know what I'd done. He read the thread and described the toothless junkie as a "rat".
I had the thread removed.
Her plan didn't work. What it did was ensure I would get revenge. A couple of months later her and her cheating bf were made homeless - and it was all down to me.

SandyDenny · 28/01/2018 18:03

I haven't recognised anyone as such but was able to identify a poster once from putting together bits of information. Our DC did the same activity (not in the same part of the country) and things she posted about that was enough for me to identify her.

She used to post a lot, nothing too controversial, I don't know if she's namechanged or stopped posting but I didn't make any contact with her, I assume she was happy that she might have been identifiable from what she posted.

Charlotte987 · 28/01/2018 23:02

I've been outed by DH's best mates girlfriend, but it was on netmums. She spotted my post about giving birth at the hospital in my home town, then went and looked at all my other posts, including ones where I'd moaned about my MIL

rightsaidfrederickII · 28/01/2018 23:12

Happened to me once on another forum where you can't name change!

AhhhhThatsBass · 28/01/2018 23:27

Penis Beaker lady was outed in The Telegraph.

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strawberrisc · 30/01/2018 07:17

Penis beaker lady?

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NoWordForFluffy · 30/01/2018 08:41

I've been outed before. No idea by whom as they told my MiL, not me (I'd posted about my in laws in a factual way, and she showed them my post). I've an idea who it may have been (the wife of one of DH's friends, or supposed friends, I don't think much of his - the friend's- idea of friendship!). I change name on a semi-regular basis these days, but also don't really make much effort to hide who I am.

I've spotted my cousin a few times. I told her the first time, but didn't on the recent spotting. We both know the other is here and if our paths cross then so be it!

I know my sister's user name. She doesn't post much I don't think. I don't go looking for her either.

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