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Original poster

To think crying over a puppy snapping at your heels is a bit pathetic?

466 replies

outofthefryingpan · 26/01/2018 22:32

We have a 7 month old pup. A small breed which will never grow higher that knee height. A friend came round unexpectedly with her 9 yo boy and because husband thought it was our daughter he let the pup down to greet her when he opened the door.

Pup ran outside and started snapping at ankles of the 9yo boy. Pup chased him a bit until husband managed to pick him up. Boy crying hysterically in floods of tears. Mother (friend) then storms off in a huff and apparently then arrives home herself in tears. Friend’s husband then demands we “do something about that dog”.
I’ve apologised profusely but they’re still all really upset about it. AIBU to think they’re being a bit pathetic about it? They’re good friends and I really value our relationship as I’ve always thought of them as really sensible people. Can’t believe the drama over this 5 second incident! I could understand it if it was a big dog but honestly- it’s tiny!

I suppose if you’re not used to dogs you don’t know how to deal with them but am I really BU to think it’s a daft drama over nothing?

OP posts:
Bingbongband · 26/01/2018 23:02

How dare you say someone is pathetic that they are upset by your badly behavioured dog.

Control your dog.

Wolfiefan · 26/01/2018 23:04

Got the message OP?!

AskBasil · 26/01/2018 23:05

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emmyrose2000 · 26/01/2018 23:08

Of course you are unreasonable.

You don't sound mature or responsible enough to own a dog. For everyone's sake, including the dog's, you should rehome it.

Originalfoogirl · 26/01/2018 23:08

Our daughter is terrified of dogs.

She is absolutely not pathetic. She can take painful injections in her legs twice a year and not even she’d a tear.

What is pathetic is yet another dog owner believing that everyone should love their dog as much as they do, and not understanding everyone is different. Keep your bloody dog under control.

alphajuliet123 · 26/01/2018 23:08

Clearly only a few posters agree with OP. Presumably they are also owners of yappy, snappy rat-dogs.

Iusedtobecarmen · 26/01/2018 23:08

Disagree.
Can't stand fussy precious kids around dogs.
I know IABU but I can't help it. I love all animals and have brought up around them as have my dc.
I doubt they would fear a wolf.
People who are petrified of dogs get on my nerves. Sorry,but we share our world with them.

Rubies12345 · 26/01/2018 23:10

The OP didn't say the dog bit the boy.

Snappings just a warning presumably he did not touch the boy

Idontdowindows · 26/01/2018 23:10

I suppose if you’re not used to dogs you don’t know how to deal with them

So you're not used to them, as you have an untrained dog that performs highly undesirable behaviour for a dog and you're complaining people are upset they were getting bitten....

PickAChew · 26/01/2018 23:10

Your puppy shouldn't be allowed near any visitors if it can't be trusted not to bit them.

Reddlion · 26/01/2018 23:10

my friend is terrified of cats and I have to lock them in my bedroom if she comes round, I had another friend when I was younger who was the same with dogs
I'm an animal lover so I will never understand how someone can be scared unless it's a big cat or dog but some people are
I think it was all a bit drama filled regarding your friend and her husband

Idontdowindows · 26/01/2018 23:11

People who are petrified of dogs get on my nerves. Sorry,but we share our world with them.

we share our world with rattlesnakes too.... or brown recluses...

Withhindsight · 26/01/2018 23:11

So friends knock on door, it opens and this biting, crazy thing shoots out totally unexpected and starts chasing, no doubt barking and trying to bite/possibly biting your friends DS? Poor child going from relaxed to full panic in a split second? Good grief woman, I won't type what I'm thinking- except they are in shock, the mum is probably crying as blaming herself for not protecting her child, but who'd've thought a friend would allow this situation- no one was prepared for it. You need to go on a course with the dog so 1. You can learn how to be a proper dog owner and 2. Train the dog how to behave.

Iusedtobecarmen · 26/01/2018 23:11

Oh,OP don't be friends with people not on your wavelength.
I wouldn't have non dog lovers in my house

BrutusMcDogface · 26/01/2018 23:11

People like you give dog owners a bad name, and fuel my dislike of them and their owners.

Yabvvvvvvvvu and in fact are you even for real?!!Angry

Katedotness1963 · 26/01/2018 23:11

Isn't a pug or a King Charles a small breed? They'd never be knee height... What breed is it?

StandardRussian66 · 26/01/2018 23:12

People like carmen give dog owner bad name.

Iusedtobecarmen · 26/01/2018 23:12

Dc mate came round once as was scared of sleeping hamster in cage. Needless to say won't be allowed in again

saladdays66 · 26/01/2018 23:13

Ugh. The actions of some entitled dog owners, usedtobe, mean that many kids are scared of all dogs. The number of out of control dogs we met while out on walks with small dc were unbelievable.

You might love all animals but dog owners need to realise that not everyone will love their rmutt, and they should keep it out of everyone’s way and be considerate.

Op - what everyone else said. Train your ruddy dog.

isupposeitsverynice · 26/01/2018 23:14

god it is irritating when people seem to think their small dogs are exempt from learning manners. nipping and jumping up are piss easy to train a new puppy out of as well. i think it's your dog owning that's a bit pathetic rather the little boy that got bitten

Iusedtobecarmen · 26/01/2018 23:14

idontdowindows
Dogs are domesticated pets.
People are entitled not to like animals but don't go to houses where there live if you are that scared. Simple.

3EyedRaven · 26/01/2018 23:14

We also share our world with murderers, therefore... get along with the murderers?
That’s bad, bad logic!

Bingbongband · 26/01/2018 23:15

Iusedtobe - it's not your call. I love dogs. Husband is indifferent. Daughter has never had cause to be wary of them but she really, really dislikes them. When we get the opportunity I always (asking the owner first obviously!) pet and fuss them and encourage my daughter to. Sometimes she won't, sometimes she'll do it reluctantly. She just doesn't like them and there's not much I can do about it.

Personally it infuriates me when a badly behavoured dog starts jumping or yapping at you and the owner says "oh, he won't harm you love" as if that makes it OK. As I say, I like dogs. It does npt mean I have to put up with other people's misbehaving.

Don't even get me started on the disgusting dirty selfish owners who don't clean up after their pets...

k2p2k2tog · 26/01/2018 23:15

I could understand it if it was a big dog but honestly- it’s tiny!

I have a very dog-phobic child - it's something we're working on slowly and she is improving over time. She no longer runs into traffic when a dog comes towards us. She is scared of jumpy, uncrontrollable dogs. It doesn't matter if it's a chihuahua or a mastiff, the fear is the same.

You need to train your bloody dog not to chase people and not to snap. You're the sort of owner who says "oh he's only playing" when a dog is chasing my child who is white with fear and practically wetting herself in absolute terror. Train the fucking thing.

Iusedtobecarmen · 26/01/2018 23:15

No I don't give dog owners a bad name at all

I have a lovely well behaved quiet dog really

I've seen kids scream when she's on a bloody lead.