To feel daft and embarrassed

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I’m new at work. There was a meeting and I didn’t know where it was. I saw some people heading in that direction and said “are you going to X meeting? Mind if I follow you?”

What did they say?

I take it you're quite shy?

Sorry I pressed send by mistake

So I said ‘is it ok if I follow you’ and they said ‘no you can’t.’

Then laughter and of course you can.

I mean what’s the point? It wasn’t even funny!

Is there more to it?

That is normal behaviour. How else do you get directions other than by asking someone?

Try to let it go.

Xposted. Yh I don't get why people do stuff like that just makes it really awkward.

Why would you be embarrassed? Were they not going to that meeting? I think you did the exact right thing, tbh.

sorry, just seen update. Still all normal

I’m really sorry. There was a pop up blocking my screen and I tried to get rid of it and posted the thread by mistake.

Juvenile joke, but not embarrassing

They just sound like they were making a harmless silly joke....i would have said HAR HAR very funny and then followed them in with a frank spencery smile ☺️

It took me until quite late in life to realise that not knowing things isn't something to be embarrassed about, we all have things we don't know.

It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, you were perhaps just a little too sensitive to some gentle humour and didn't take it the way it was probably intended. I wouldn't let it bother you.

Is there more to this? Only I can’t remember the last time I read such an unremarkable thread. There must be more to it?

That's nothing at all, OP. It's a silly joke but there's no way it was intended as a joke at your expense, the humour is in the notion that whoever said it could possibly be so awful as to say no to that question. It isn't funny but it's good natured and definitely not intended to embarrass you. People make daft jokes like that all the time as a way of breaking the ice when they meet someone new. Don't worry about it.

I might be jumping to conclusions but from what you've said here it seems that you are very anxious. If that isn't the norm for you and it's likely to be nerves about having started a new job, no problem. If it's a common theme for you, you should ask for help. Anxiety is a difficult thing to live with but there a ways to ease it.

I think sometimes when people make jokes they feel comfortable around you and want you to feel comfortable around them

Although I can see where you might feel awkward, stuff like this relaxes me more in a situation with people I don't know. That they feel comfortable enough to joke around with me. If someone doesn't joke around with me (in a harmless way of course), I feel that they might secretly not like me very much. Just my opinion.

It was meant as a joke. I realise not everyone likes this sort of thing, but it was most definitely meant with good intentions so try not to be upset.

It was a joke. They were being friendly. It’s how you get to know people.

There's a certain kind of person who will give you a put down and then pretend it was one big joke and I hate that, too OP. I find that often it is to make themselves feel superior. I used to play along but now I just look at them with a serious expression and refuse to 'play'. Yes, so it was a 'joke', it wasn't funny and it was actually a bit nasty to say that to someone obviously new and feeling a bit lost. But yeah, just forget it, their problem not yours.

Don’t worry - that’s standard. It’s happened to me loads of times. Think nothing more of it

Stop apologizing for a start

Next time tell your colleagues to get to fuck

Lord have mercy