Would this be weird and inappropriate?

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I've just moved onto a new street. I had lovely neighbours at my old place and I miss them.

There's a woman and she lives about 10 doors up on new street, she moved in same time as us (I know this because I viewed her house), and I've noticed she has a child the same age as my youngest.

I'd like to somehow get chatting but not sure how or if it would be too weird.

Thought it might be too forward to just knock on and introduce myself as she's not an immediate neighbour.

Knock on her door and say that you are new to the street and noticed she was new and had kids of a similar age and wanted to introduce yourself and your kids, then see what he reply is and take it from there (if she is interested in friendship then reciprocate, but if she is the type that doesn't want to be over friendly with neighbours then at least you will know where you stand and will have tried)

Not weird at all!

I don't think it would be weird (but I live in a very friendly street - we even have our own Whatsapp group!! )

I would just knock on her door and tell her that you've just moved to the street and noticed you had kids of the same age and invite her over for a cup of tea/play date soon

If she's moved there recently herself, she may be quite pleased to meet a friendly neighbour!

Cross post with Elderflowet!

Or maybe drop a card through her door instead, with your phone number or an invite to knock on your door ... if mumsnet is at all reflective of real life (which sometimes I doubt), there are a lot of people who feel it is rude to knock on a door without prior arrangement.

Don't want to look stalkerish.

I guess I've noticed her because we viewed the house so we've naturally made a point of noticing who moved in.

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You won't look stalkerish. And I've always been delighted when new neighbours have introduced themselves.

Not in the least weird.

When I moved in the lady over the road made me a cake. So nice

Maybe you should take biscuits chocolate or similar as a welcome gift and see what happens

Nothing ventured and all that ..

Depends on where you live. If in the north you should take her round a casserole and invite her round for tea. If in the south you should blank her for the rest of your life! Just joking, honestly! I saw not weird at all, do it. She can always say no.

*say not saw!

Oh just go and knock, it’s nice to be friendly. She might be wanting to talk too but is also worried. I wouldn’t mind at all someone who just called to introduce themselves and say hello.

Do it! I wish someone had done that to me. All my neighbours don't speak. I wouldn't think it was weird at all.

Drop a card through the door saying give me a shout on a sunny day we can explore the local park together?

I guess nothing ventured and all that.

Worst that can happen is she never speaks to me again!

Different places have different ideas about how to greet new neighbours
When i moved here 34 yeas ago, a lady a few doors down invited me to a coffee morning, yet my next door neighborus are friendly enough but one only been in mine once,the other never, its a street where you only know people by sight, although i look after theirs when they are away
I would introduce myself to new neighbours, but i wouldnt want neighbors who are in and out all the time or overfamiliar

I possibly wouldn’t mention that you viewed the house though.

Worst that can happen is she never speaks to me again!

Well, she hasn't spoken to you yet anyway, so you will have lost nothing by trying!

It's lovely you're reaching out to her. I'd pop a card in the letterbox with your contact details on, that way there's no pressure if she's busy. One of my neighbours knocked when we'd just moved in, nice gesture but she woke me up mid nap (non sleeping baby) and I opened the door in my PJs. Very embarrassing! I felt like she expected me to invite her in for coffee but I didn't as the house was in a state, and I couldn't remember which house she said she was from. Luckily we met in the street a few weeks later but it didn't get off to the best start!

A word of caution: if she isn't so nice when you get to know her, you might be stuck with her, seeing as you live so close to each other.

I totally think you should! it wouldn't be weird at all. When my eldest was tiny another local mum did this to me (we were both new to the area) - she put a note through my letterbox with contact details; we'd briefly met at a baby group and her morning walk used to take her by our house. We ended up being great pals.

Not weird to knock and invite her over to your house sometime or out for coffee in a local cafe.

She may not want to invite you in initially, I'm not sure I would but she may meet you for coffee sometime or come round.

I was in the same situation. I posted a note with my number but she ignored me!!

I felt quite upset about it at the time but since then our children have started at the same nursery and we have become friends. We have regular playdates now and help each other out with errands/ spare nappies!

I have never asked her why she ignored my note - we both had small babies so I guess it was just one of those things.

I think that's a really nice thing to do. If someone came and introduced themselves to me I wouldn't think it was awkward at all.