Would this be weird and inappropriate?

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I've just moved onto a new street. I had lovely neighbours at my old place and I miss them.

There's a woman and she lives about 10 doors up on new street, she moved in same time as us (I know this because I viewed her house), and I've noticed she has a child the same age as my youngest.

I'd like to somehow get chatting but not sure how or if it would be too weird.

Tbh I would ignore a note as I find it abit awkward. I think knocking and introducing yourself is much better! I wouldn't know what to say to someone who just posted a note with their number who I had never spoken to.

Except this is MNLand - she'll want to come and sit in on 'playdates' , then her kids will knock for yours at 7am on Sundays and when you try and deliver them back you'll find she's gone shopping or some such!

You don't say how old your children are - are they old enough to play out and make their own friendships?

We had a new family a few doors down. I put in a welcome card, through their door. I have put Christmas cards through the door. They have not made any effort to get to know us; so I've left it. She knew who I was on the school run, but quickly scuttled past me. Sometimes people, just don't want to bother.

I'd like to somehow get chatting but not sure how or if it would be too weird.

How would saying hello to a new neighbour be even slightly inappropriate??

If she's put off by a person actually daring to speak to her you probably are best finding out early on!

Soon after I had my baby a neighbour with a child approached me in the street and started chatting. Think she did it with quite a few others in the street too. Now we all meet for play dates, coffees etc. Was great that someone thought to make the first move!

Okay, I am going to sound like the weirdo now but one of my elderly neighbours who I didn't really know asked me if my daughter wanted to come for a play date when she had her granddaughter round and I freaked in my head and made up an excuse to say no. I was thinking what if she doesn't have a grand daughter, what if she is part of a paedophile ring, what if she is mad? I live in London and no neighbours talk to each other (she is Northern!) in my area so the surprise and abnormality of it through me. One day I bumped into her in the street with her granddaughter and I realised how silly I had been. I can be a bit paranoid about strangers though!

Not weird at all.

Just don't start the conversation with 'I viewed your house once and hated it'

I'm not one to put myself out to meet new people (I'm painfully shy when it comes to new people, overthink everything and have a meltdown when I'm on my own thinking even my friends probably don't actually like me). If you came knocking on my door and said about our kids being the same age and wanting to be friends I'd be so pleased!

Well no I don't think you were overreacting mummadeeze. I wouldn't send my child round to someone else's house I didn't know either.

Years and years ago a random woman knocked on my door and introduced herself as a neighbour and invited the DCs and I round for a cup of tea and some cake. I was so incredibly grateful and she became a really good friend. Go for it.

I would love it if my neighbours did this! I worry so much about what people think of me. I moved where i am 2.5 years ago and still havent made any friends 🙁