Am I a CF?

[taekwondo]

I live 120 miles away from my best friend and family. I haven't visited anyone in a year due to work and finances.

In October by best friend (bf) asked me to come and stay with her for a week as she missed me and my son.

So we're here, it's day 4, we're supposed to go home Monday.

As I haven't been in a year, I haven't soon my Nan, mum or sisters in a year either.

So I've divided my week up. Monday we went straight to Nans with BF, stayed for lunch (about 3 hours) then came back to bf house! Tuesday saw bf mum (really close to her) with bf, we went for dinner.

Wednesday we just all relaxed together, got some Chinese food for dinner and had a nice time.

When bf boyfriend got up (he's on nights) I heard her in the kitchen moaning to him that I'm seeing my mum tomorrow (today) I'm also seeing my sister after, so about 2-3 hours each!

Now Friday, (she's asked me to go out Saturday as she wants a date night so I'll have to leave mid day due to being rural) and Sunday I'm with her all day, so I really don't know if I'm being the CF here by accepting her invitation and then spending a few hours with my family.

She's not saying anything to my face, but I don't like hearing her behind my back and I really don't know any more.

When ever I visit I feel like I'm playing a game of keeping everyone happy. If I came down and didn't see my family they'd be upset! As would my ds, so aibu and a cf to see my family when my friend has invited me to stay with her?

I have similar issues, I feel your pain. I have friends I haven't seen in years because every time I go back to where I was brought up, by the time I've seen family there's no time left to see friends. I feel guilty and torn whatever I do. It's hard living a long distance away and not being able to see people as often as you'd like. FWIW, I really don't think you're being a cheeky fucker, and I do think it's sometimes impossible to keep everybody happy.

on the date night - is it possible she's overwhelmed and feels let down?
Hosting is hard - especially for introverts and if you don't have young children yourself I imagine that's an added layer of stress.

This is a good friend, I'd try not to fall out with her over this, and next time split the trip.

Honestly it is just TOO long to stay in one place with a couple whom don't have children.

You know that, I know that.

It is stretching he friendship beyond its natural limits given you don't spend lots of time together anymore. All the good will in the world won't change the fact you heard her talking about you in the kitchen, but I am not sure she was being unkind.

Tell her you have had a fabulous time (and you have) but now it is time to head off, she has her date night and you need to spend time with your mother before she kills you. Buy some/cook a lovely thank you dinner for her and dp tonight and be off on your way.

Next time 3 days with her, 3 days with family.

So thank you all!

I have brought ds home today, we're so much happier,