To need help responding about MLMs

[ObiJuanKenobi]

So afriend of mine started working for/with Younique about 2 years ago. At the start I was badgered into buying a lipstick - it was expensive and crap.
Ever since I've steered clear, left her Facebook group and turned off all notifications from her but my fuck is she relentless!!

She's just sent me the 4th private Facebook message in about 10days asking when I'm free for a catch up coffee but I'm terrified it's going to be a pitch

Please help me write a polite message that won't be a friendship ender but will get the message across that I'm a) not interested in joining her Hun team and b) i don't want to buy any overpriced make up or throw a party

Thank you all for help! She replies saying

yes soft play on X bla bla .. no make up and houses for sure but I can wait to tell you all about Stella & Dot I've got some fab earrings that'll look great on you and I'm doing a party at mine with make up and jewellery on X so we can play dress up.

Nooooooo

I'm not sure if the earring are a gift or if she wants me to buy them

She wants you to buy them.

Vague metal allergy might be the way forward there.

Ask her! Are earrings a gift or are you selling?

I'm 50/50 on blocking her and cutting my losses friend wise am I an awful person?

"Ooh, you'll have to count me out of Stella and Dot stuff I'm afraid, really not my thing. Best of luck with it though. Anyway, see you at soft play!"

Just be blunt "I'm not interested in ANY sales pitch. Can we just meet as friends?"

Is Stella & dot a MLM thing too? I've looked online it's pretty pricey!!

i would say no thanks - ive got enough jewelry already! Can we just make this a friends catch up and playdate please.... and really sorry, no to the party on X too - already have plans im afraid!

I think it's more like Avon - home sales but doesn't rely on recruiting like the others.

Yes, Stella & Dot is MLM. Sorry...

Honestly I’d go back with
Sorry, but the sales stuff has started already- I miss you and want to spend time with you but am not interested in any products you’re selling or parties to do that either. If that’s not manageable for you, I understand.
I miss old times and just want to natter with you about rubbish and see your little one. If that’s good, see you at x on x day.

@honeyroar I know right! An in- law came rushing round with the Forever Lying sales pitch as soon as she found out I was pregnant with my first child. She kept banging on and on about all their palatial buildings and showing me photos, and I couldn’t make her see that they were just proof that it’s not the “consultants” who are making the big money....

'Sorry, I don't buy stuff from pyramid schemes, let me know if you would just like a catch up without trying to sell me anything.'

Op I’ve been really blunt about MLM with my friends. Along the lines of “I really care about you and value our friendship but I cannot stay silent on MLM, I think it is a horrible exploitative business model and it hurts to see that you are being exploited too now”.

I had a friend who got into younique in a big way- I sent a message along those lines and she’s since stopped. I think she realised that all the friendship ‘huns’ were only there while she was providing them with an income.
The ones who posted and commented on her fb all the time back then are nowhere to be seen now. And she’s back to being normal. It is the period that must not be discussed though!

Stella & Dot is definitely MLM! Some of my friends went to a party with S&D person there. They felt immense pressure to buy overpriced tat, and then when they did the rep immediately started trying to recruit them into her team

Okay I'm going to do it.

"What I was trying to get at with the no work/makeup when we meet up is that in really just not interested in buying from a MLM. I get so many messages from people and it's starting to get too much when it's really not my thing. If you'd still like to meet up and have a proper catch up at soft play and see the boys then let me know x"

I think at a certain point you will probably have to be blunt and say what's on your mind without ambiguity. If she is in deep she isn't going to take hints and if you leave any opportunities, for the sake of politeness, she will take them and keep pushing. For example if you say "I'd rather not discuss [whichever MLM] today" she'll reply with "ok lets discuss it tomorrow". I think it's going to have to be very clear and unequivocal otherwise you will likely find yourself fending off sales pitches again and again.

If her friendship conditional and will only exist if you become a paying customer, that is no friendship at all. She created this situation, as sad as it is, so it's on her to understand that she is damaging the friendship and to stop doing what she's doing. That she has approached your partner to pursue a sales pitch suggests that you probably won't be able to get the message across in a subtle, diplomatic way.

Well done Obi, that’s a great response. Hopefully she won’t come back with anything else.

Is it just me, or is MLM getting worse? A couple of my friends have been suckered in recently- hadn’t had one for a year or so until now.

Well done Obi, that’s a great response. Hopefully she won’t come back with anything else.

Is it just me, or is MLM getting worse? A couple of my friends have been suckered in recently- hadn’t had one for a year or so until now.

It will definitely be a pitch

ellebeaublog.com/poonique/

this woman spills and you should read before going back to your friend. It seems that if you don't do anything but support her 100% you will be bitched about by her MLM huns

“Oh but mine isn’t an mlm” is the reply you’ll get op....

Direct her towards this blog, it’s an ex younique presenter who saw the light and got out and now companions against it... the posts about her time as a seller are fascinating

Elle poonique

Ha cross post queenie