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To want to work out

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Littlestchristmastree · 22/01/2018 21:20

My turbo trainer is set up in the garage, not joined in to the house but very close. I have 2 dds, youngest aged 5. I want to use the turbo trainer once they are in bed. Youngest dd is very upset by the idea of me being out of the house and is refusing to sleep, still up now and most nights is now up til gone 10 when I am going to bed, having not been out as I would prefer to wait until dd is asleep. She has told me she can't sleep as she misses me and is scared without me. I leave a phone for if they need me and I can see the house so would know that they are OK. Aibu to want to workout or is it unreasonable to leave my dds?? Older one has no issues with me going out. Husband works evenings and I work full time so the only other opportunity I'd get would be to do it while they are up but I prefer to send that time with them. Thoughts welcome.....

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rainbownights · 22/01/2018 21:24

Can't you move the trainer into the house, even temporarily?

How old is your oldest DD?

I must say I wouldn't leave them alone.

Sirzy · 22/01/2018 21:25

I wouldn’t leave a 5 year old for the length of time it takes to do a workout sorry!

arethereanyleftatall · 22/01/2018 21:28

In these circumstances, i.e. The stress this is causing your 5 yr old, you can't work out in the garage.

Can you move the trainer, do an excercise video or similar in the lounge, circuits etc etc?

WorraLiberty · 22/01/2018 21:32

Of course it would BU to leave a 5 year old, who has actually told you she would be scared and can't sleep without you in the house

Why would it make any difference if Mumsnetters told you it would be fine?

Listen to your DD.

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Littlestchristmastree · 22/01/2018 21:32

No can't move it into the house it's massive and too loud. I promised her I won't leave her as I can see its causing her too much upset. I've tried work out videos but not found any I like doing and most involve lots of jumping around and our house just can't take all that!! Got a hula hoop but it's hardly going to do much good. I have a very sedentary Job so wanted some good cardio to keep fit

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FluffyWuffy100 · 22/01/2018 21:33

How does she even know?

rainbownights · 22/01/2018 21:34

When does your H get back in the mornings? Can you get up an hour earlier and do it then?

FluffyWuffy100 · 22/01/2018 21:34

Can you do it in the mornings when your DP is in the house?

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Littlestchristmastree · 22/01/2018 21:35

Because she heard me talking to older dd about leaving the phone incase she needs to call me. Older dd is 8.

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Blankiefan · 22/01/2018 21:36

Would a video baby monitor help her / you? You could watch her whilst you're in the garage so she'd know you could see her and you could talk to ewch other if necessary.

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Littlestchristmastree · 22/01/2018 21:36

I already do get up in the morning to go. I didn't think it would be a bother seeing as I'm about 10 feet away from her. We live in a bungalow and I'm further away being in my bedroom!

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ronniescue · 22/01/2018 21:37

Omg 5 & 8

Just be there for them. Prioritise your children.

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Littlestchristmastree · 22/01/2018 21:38

They woukd be asleep.... And whilst they are a priority they aren't the be all and end all, was sort of hoping for some kind of life of my own. Surely me being fit and healthy is beneficial to them.....

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SeaToSki · 22/01/2018 21:40

If she is up until 10 anyway, take her out with you one evening and sit her in the corner all snuggled in a blanket. She will probably get bored and decide she would prefer to be in bed as you are clearly very close by.

junperoo · 22/01/2018 21:41

Surely you don't need to work out twice a day? Just do it in the mornings!

Fattymcfaterson · 22/01/2018 21:42

Walkie talkies?

Sirzy · 22/01/2018 21:43

Presumably from your bedroom you can hear them shout and/or they can easily get to you if needed? That’s the difference!

MissCommunication · 22/01/2018 21:43

Do insanity or similar. My DH thinks it's fine for me to go into the man cave to go on turbo or whatever when DD (not even 18 months old) is asleep in the house BY HERSELF. Said outbuilding is about 10 metres from house in back garden. I am so uncomfortable with this but he doesn't get it. Your child is uncomfortable and unhappy, so find another way to get as much of a workout as you need. You can stream an awful lot now and still get a decent burn on.

OutToGetYou · 22/01/2018 21:44

So, you just posted so you could justify your actions?

If you feel you need to leave a phone, then no, you shouldn't be leaving them. Do something in the house, or do it while they are awake - can they spend half an hour with you in there drawing or something?
Or just find another time.

There's no point saying "I thought I could have some kind of life", it's not us you need to tell, it's an insecure five year old.

Lifeisabeach09 · 22/01/2018 21:49

If you are in a garage that's ten feet away and can see the house, I don't see the big deal.
The baby monitor was a good suggestion. Or webcam.
You might need to bite the bullet and have it cut into your time with DC whilst they're awake.
I get why you need it. It's time to yourself after a long day at work and parenting.

namechamgeforteenadvice · 22/01/2018 21:50

And whilst they are a priority they aren't the be all and end all, was sort of hoping for some kind of life of my own.

Really?

ProfessorPickles · 22/01/2018 21:50

I don't see a problem as long as the house is secure and they can contact you.
A video baby monitor is probably what I'd go with!

expatinscotland · 22/01/2018 21:52

Get another type of machine or use something else then.

Kitsharrington · 22/01/2018 21:54

FGS the responses on this thread! OP if it is important to you, do it. Your child knows you are still in the house if she really needs you she can come and get you. You can’t let her rule your life, you need time for yourself.

Shenanagins · 22/01/2018 21:58

Could you have them on FaceTime so that they can see you?

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