AIBU to consider cancelling interview for my dream job?

[TinselAngel]

I've got an interview on Wednesday for a temporary job which if I got it I would take as a secondment from my current employer. It would give me more experience in the field I want to develop into. I need to earn more money in the long term as I am a single parent and won't get money from my ex for ever.

It's around a 90 minute commute away in a large city, and it's full time. It would also involve regular travel further north than that. I currently work 20 mins from home in a low paid, but flexible, admin role. If I got it it would involve my 13 year old DD being a bit of a latch key kid for six months.

I split up with my partner over the weekend and can barely put one foot in front of the other right now. I'm pretty much on my knees with sadness. I'd have to do a presentation as well as an interview.

AIBU to consider cancelling an interview for the right job, but at completely the wrong time. Or would i just be using this as an excuse to stay in my comfort zone?

Go and get the job!!!

You can make decisions afterwards!

Why can't you dD's father take care if her for six months?

You've not even got the job yet? Why not go for the interview for now? Build up some much needed confidence? Then you can decide?

Oh and YABcomoletelyU and looking for excuses. It's just an interview, if they offer you the job you don't have to take it if you really can't. You are just afraid of failing.

Never ever had there been more an important a time for you to dig deep and rise above your ex

You can do this! Don’t let a bloke get in the way of showing your dd what a strong woman looks like.

Go for it, you’ll be so proud of yourself if you pull this off!

And if it doesn’t happen this time, you’ll learn from it and get it the next time!

Go to the interview. Make the decision if and when they offer you the job. Otherwise you will always wonder what might have happened.

All it is, is an interview. It doesn't commit you to anything. Go, see how you do.

I think that your 13yo could cope with 6 months of being a 'latch key kid' given how great the payoff would be. It would benefit you both, ultimately. But just push yourself through the interview. After all, who knows when the next opportunity might present itself?

The DP I've just split up with isn't DD's Dad by the way, (and we didn't live together). There's no chance her Dad would have her for 6 months. He's much too busy and important.

Go out there and interview for the job. Give it your best shot and if you get offered THEN decide whether you want it. Don't let this be the big chance that you let sail past. Good luck!

Put your head down and focus on nothing but that interview. Once it’s over, you can crumple in a heap on the sofa and do your grieving. (Not joking - breakups are hard.)

But do your best to get the job, and consider your options later.

Go get yourself the job and never look back. It's totally natural to feel a bit overwhelmed right now but if you don't at least interview you'll always wonder x good luck!

Go and do the interview. Some things are meant to be! Good luck :)

PLEASE go to the interview. Try and put everything else but this to the back of your mind, prepare well and give it your best shot. What's the worst that could happen? If you don't get the job, meh, you tried. If you don't go to the interview you will forever wonder 'what if?'

When you get offered the job, then you decide whether to accept and how to deal with the logistics. What does your DD say? If she's anything like mine she'll tell you not to worry about her and go for it.
GOOD LUCK!

My kids are dropped off (approx 3:30), I get home about 5:30, they are fine, (my 13 year old has started doing them pasta and cheese and beans on toast), I think it’s been good for them. They are 11 and 13.

Plenty of kids go home by themselves in secondary school. Go for it.

Go to the interview and nail it OP! You can do it!!

Your DD will be fine. Me and my sister were latch key kids for possibly the whole of my time at secondary school and we loved it

Stop with the negative self talk and go. You will never amount to anything if you’re too scared to try!

Absolutely go for the interview, think of the feeling you'll get when you get the job.
Your DD is old enough to understand and if it was her in your position I bet you'd be saying go for it.

Yes. You're all right, thank you.

And I suppose if I start crying in the middle of the presentation, I'll never have to see them again...

I've got everything crossed for you for tomorrow. Get an early night and then get out there and Do It for YOU. You will be glad you did.

You won't cry in your presentation, you'll put your professional head on and after a minute you'll hit your stride and own it. You have the might of MN behind you after all

Definitely go for it - it sounds like you know that's what you should do, really. As others have said, there's no obligation to take the job if you're offered it, and nothing to lose. Good luck!

And bet your thirteen year old will be like the vast majority of her peers and be letting herself in. Secondary school does not have child care clubs for a reason. Good luck with the interview

I was so envious of latch key kids at school.
My mother was ALWAYS there, would have welcomed the chance for a bit of independence and been glad to see her later.
Good luck for Wednesday.

Put your big girl pants on and go get that job.

Your dd at 13 will love having space to decompress after school. If you talk to her you could have the agreement that homework is done by the time your back. Which means then your both ready to relax together. You can nail this presentation too